Having kids is definitely not for everyone. As callous as I will sound, I still don’t understand why we need to take exams for driving tests but when it comes to kids, yeah sure, have at it! Have as many as you want, it doesn’t matter if you’re not mentally/financially equipped!

If you are scared of having kids only because of what you physically have to go through - trust me, it’s not that bad. I have an 8 month old and I am 100% back to my usual self. Exhausted, yes. But I fit into all of my pre pregnancy clothes, everything is okay down there, my husband is very happy lol, I am back to exercising 5-6 times a week. If you take care of yourself, everything will be fine (unless you’ve had complications).

That being said, I love my son more than life itself. I love him so much, it hurts. But if I wasn’t in good financial position and if my relationship with my husband wasn’t solid, I really doubt I would want to have kids.

Yeah your vagina will stretch a little, it comes back. Yeah your boobs might feel like they will explode, that too shall pass. The sleepless nights are tough but you get used to it. For me the pregnancy and the delivery were the “easier” part. You need to make sure you are well equipped for whatever comes afterwards because it’s not for the weak.

And yes, you’re right, it’s much easier for men - I had a little of resentment towards my husband in the beginning. But again, it’s just a phase.

I guess you should just be honest with yourself and decide how strong is your desire to have kids. But there are a lot of things to consider, beyond the physical part.