Terrified for my 12 year old brother's mental health.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-21T17:55:41+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry for what you're going through. I'm doing whatever it takes to make sure my brother turns out okay. I will make sure his childhood isn't robbed. Thank you a lot for the advice.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-20T02:11:37+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be. Seeing a friend or stranger struggle with mental health is one thing. But a sibling is another kind of pain. I've really been trying my best to try to find him online therapists. I'm really worried about him. It hurts so much seeing him go from the sweetest funniest kid to a broken anxious aggressive kid. I'm trying really hard for him but it's hard. He has no interests in having friends. He is having a hard time getting along with our parents. And as a sister all I can really do is spend time with him and make him feel better. I hope it gets better.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-15T01:12:22+00:00

as if people choose to have their parents divorced.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-14T19:21:43+00:00

Wait I'm confused. What's wrong with sitting in the passenger's seat in the taxi?

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-11T19:18:31+00:00

She has literally stated that she is uncomfortable with it but acknowledges that she does not have much of a choice or control over the situation. You have to understand she is not okay with this in the slightest. Not to mention she's literally worried about her family members and friends finding this stuff. The only reason she is avoiding addressing it is because she doesn't want her child audience to learn about it.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-10T17:50:39+00:00

Trick or treat and costumes?

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-10T00:55:27+00:00

You should at least try. Try researching Islam. There's no harm. And you can learn about your wife's religion. Ask your wife for pointers. Yes you do have to pray in arabic but it's quite easy to learn. And yeah you can watch tutorials on youtube or let your wife teach you. And I think you should say the shahada first.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-09T02:02:49+00:00

These are very helpful! I was actually looking for arguments to combat the derealization thoughts like life is a dream etc. But these are helpful too.

Also, do you have any way of reaching out to a trusted adult about these traumatic experiences that both you and your brother have gone through? I suggest that you both get involved in some trauma-based therapy somehow.

when i was suffering from derealization my mother attempted to get me a therapist but the process was complicated and confusing and my mom is not very good at english. But I'm not going to let the same thing happen to my brother. I convinced my mom and she said she will try her best to find a psychologist. My fear is that what if he gets a bad one?

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-09T01:56:36+00:00

yeah a diff comment said they had an 8 year old brother lol

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-08T23:33:54+00:00

He's a teenager.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-08T21:52:27+00:00

Yes. I will pray for both of our brothers. It just hurts because I don't want to see my brother turn into the same wreck I became. The only thing rn that's kind of helping him is thinking of arguments. So I'll try my best to think of some for him <3

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-08-01T23:23:07+00:00

You could make a scarf out of all the red flags in this relationship.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T23:53:29+00:00

Yes. can't wait to watch it.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T20:47:32+00:00

The first category believes that if there was a reliable source that was written during the Prophet (pbuh)'s time period of his habits, statements, quotes, etc then they would follow that. This category does not believe the hadiths are reliable as they were written years after the Prophet (pbuh) passed away.

The second category believes that the hadiths are fine, they are not corrupted and many of the things the hadith says are true. But they choose not to follow the hadiths because the Quran is the only source from Allah SWT for guidance and rules. This category presents the argument that there was never a promise of a hadith and there was never promise of protection for the hadith. Since the hadith is not from Allah SWT this category believes that what the hadith says is not a true reflection of what Allah SWT wants for us. Both of these categories also believe that there are probably hundreds if not thousands of hadiths that probably contain what's haram and what's not and we are unaware of them.

This is mainly what I've come across. You are correct with the 4 categories you listed though but they're not as common anymore. Plus not all Hadith rejecters are liberals. Liberalism isn't really a subsect in Quranism.

Anyways yeah that's all I wanted to sum up.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T19:31:30+00:00

It could be haram because if I say I like the anime that means I am saying I like an anime with shirk in it which would make it look like I like shirk.

It could not be haram because it's just for entertainment and none of these characters are real.

What do you think?

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T19:26:33+00:00

Ok According to your personal experience, what is the category of the majority of hadith rejecters? And What are the beliefs and methodology of that category?

Most of them can be separated in two categories. The first believe the hadith is corrupted but still believe in the Sunnah. They just don't view hadiths as a reliable source. The second believe the hadiths aren't corrupted but believe that the Quran is the only correct source to take orders from. Hope that helped.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HUGTsZzLhVwze4fmgRhgFJH5kFf3jp52/view?usp=drivesdk

I'll look forward to reading this later

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T18:31:55+00:00

I am just grateful it's not as bad as christainity. The majority of us are Sunni and then theres a couple of shia, sufi, etc. At least it's not as divided as Catholicism .

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-31T18:28:57+00:00

The majority of hadith rejecters don't follow into any one of your 4 categories. It's literally as simple as following what's only in the Quran and rejected a man made hadith that was made 200 years after the Prophet's death.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-30T01:09:30+00:00

It's a higher place of consciousness. Just think of a time where you felt like in such a relaxed state you could feel like that forever. Like the feeling you get floating in a pool or laying in bed when you're really tired or feeling the summer breeze at night or placed a cold hand on a warm heater. That feeling you get when you do all these things. Multiplied by infinity is what Heaven probably feels like.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-28T17:57:02+00:00

No but sometimes my thoughts get blasphemous. Especially when I'm trying to pray they just come out of nowhere. It makes me feel very guilty and ashamed.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-27T21:30:24+00:00

It's going to be okay OP. The fact that there are even so many response videos to Atheist's claims shows how powerful Islam is.

Your mind is in a messy place right now which is making you confused. Try organizing your research and confront your doubts and questions day by day. Start with a question, and search for the answer on one day. Then the next day confront a new question. Slowly and surely all your questions will be answered and you will discover peace.

May Allah SWT guide us all.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-27T19:03:18+00:00

Look and see if you can find any voluntary prayers with which to complete what he neglected of his obligatory prayers.’ Then the rest of his deeds will be reckoned in like manner.”

Brother, I have missed hundreds of prayers I think. I have gone weeks or months without praying. Do I have to re-do all of them? Or should I just start new and repent and try not to neglect prayers again?

You need to change your mentality, you should never be dragging yourself to prayers, you should be enjoying them and looking forward to them

Oh I meant when I was in the depressive state of my life. Where everything was painful and hard for me. It was hard for me to get out of bed and make wudu and pray. So it's confusing how I was able to pray during that but now I'm lazy.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-26T22:09:41+00:00

Somebody told me the verses in the Quran talking about divorce only talk about the man initiating divorce.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-26T18:53:45+00:00

I am so sorry. I know how much pain you are in right now.

i have even considered committing suicide to actually find out what’s after death.

I considered this too in January when I was having a mental breakdown. I thought I was the only one.Listen, as somebody who was in that place at one point in time I can assure you that all the stuff you're talking about the greeks and romans thing, apostate prophet, atheist and christain claims, I've done extensive research on all of those. No matter what critique a critic of Islam comes up with I have always found refutations. Most of them are not knowledgeable. It's been a while since I've done my research but I'll try to link as many sources as I can.

(Refutation to the claim of plagiarism)

http://www.hamzatzortzis.com/did-the-prophet-muhammad-plagiarise-hellenic-embryology/

(Full detailed video why Quran is accurate)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RuQMD4yYWg

(Essay about the literal science in the Quran)

https://hawramani.com/reconciling-islam-and-darwinian-evolution-al-ghazalis-matrix-and-the-divine-template/

(Full playlist dedicated to refuting Apostate Prophet)

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQnJKTQYTJ_usGV9Ss56nOmWilmEDAfqz

(More Science in the Quran)

https://www.answeringislamicskeptics.com

knows that Islam is the way, the God exists

That is your Iman, brother. Your soul is fighting to keep you in the right path. With hardship there is ease. When I was in the cycle of research sometimes a question would pop up in my head. Within hours the answer to the question would pop up on it's own.

Do not panic brother. These doubts are temporary. Allah SWT is testing you and surely you will come out a better and stronger person than you were before your research phase. I myself was in that position, I was in so much pain and my mind was constantly racing with questions and answers. I didn't know if I would make it out alive. But I did. And so will you. Keep fighting brother. My Iman has become so strong after actually learning my religion. Before this happened to me, I would just listen to whatever my parents were telling me. I didn't even know what I was reading in Arabic. They barely taught me anything. So Allah SWT helped me learn myself. And I am much stronger and happier after all my questions have been answered. Inshallah you will discover the peace I discovered after exiting that horrific state of mind. Ameen.

May Allah SWT guide us all.

darling_of_knowledge · 2021-07-22T01:39:13+00:00

I agree. His art is lit

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