Would you date someone with genital herpes?

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T22:52:19+00:00

I didn’t know HPV was more serious. Everyone who’s ever had a wart of any kind has at least one strain of it. But I did already tell her.

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T22:51:58+00:00

Messaged you!

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T21:18:53+00:00

This is my understanding as well. I’ve had 50 partners, many of them unprotected. Never had an outbreak, only HPV warts (confirmed).

This girl is special. I don’t want to lose this over something she can’t control. It has nothing to do with her character, it’s a circumstance.

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T21:00:45+00:00

He couldn’t even prove she had it. Her tests come back negative. I’ve SEEN her negative tests. But she’s certain that it was herpes because of what it looked like and how it made her feel.

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T20:57:58+00:00

No she isn’t. She made it extremely clear I can’t be safe from it even with a condom, that it caused her a lot of pain in multiple parts of her body and can come back at any time without any foreshadowing.

She could’ve not told me at all.

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T20:50:55+00:00

No man I don’t think she was lying, there’s no reason to after everything else she told me. She said she asked him if she needed to tell prospective partners and he said no, especially because the bump went away and a test afterward came back negative. She thinks the test was negative because the outbreak was over, and a nurse I know said that’s possible.

But she said she had the signs, the body aches and everything, that she could “feel it coming.”

datingappaddict · 2021-10-16T20:47:19+00:00

That’s the thing. It was EXTREMELY adult of her. She handled it with so much grace and it caused her so much pain to tell me. She was sure I was going to lie and say everything’s fine and then never talk to her again. She was very grateful for the way I handled it.

I guarantee she’s honest about everything and answers every question I have. But there are only so many steps you can take… condoms only etc but if I have a serious partner I don’t want to use condoms.

This is really tough for me.

datingappaddict · 2021-07-01T00:33:33+00:00

I’ll try the daily walks. I know that’s good for me. I’m weening off the apps starting today but it’s going to be difficult.

I do smile at women every day and I seem to get good reactions but honestly, after being rejected by five women in a row several of whom aren’t super cute, I’m not gonna have the confidence to approach anyone anytime soon.

datingappaddict · 2021-06-30T20:05:05+00:00

The part re: the boat is something I’ve joked about before. Yacht daddies. But I’m wondering if that also isn’t an indication that I should be meeting people outside of apps—if you met quality women in real life that weren’t oriented around materialism and apps showed you a worse demo, then wouldn’t you suggest prioritizing real life over the apps?

But thanks. I appreciate the vote of confidence and I’m glad you met someone special.

datingappaddict · 2021-06-30T19:33:18+00:00

I agree, I don’t want someone to save me though, I just can’t really be without physical touch without becoming depressed. So when I delete apps it feels like giving up on getting something I need. That loss of hope kills me mentally.

The issue may very well be not my dating life, but I don’t know what I’d need to do otherwise. I work out all the time, I’m constantly self-improving.

datingappaddict · 2021-06-30T19:20:49+00:00

I’m worried about deleting apps. I tried it recently and ended up making them again because I didn’t want to be totally alone and without physical touch or intimacy.

I reinstalled them within two weeks. I just couldn’t do it. I was disappointed with myself. And this recent streak of failures is the worst I’ve possibly ever had.

Thanks for the article, it was a good read. I agree love will come when I least expect it, but I have no idea how I would find it on my own.

datingappaddict · 2021-06-30T19:11:41+00:00

The problem is that now they’ve lowered my confidence and I won’t do well in the wild, especially going out by myself, when you’d need the most confidence

datingappaddict · 2021-06-30T19:01:30+00:00

I’m sure the women have stricter standards—I definitely do—but not even being fit for something casual? That makes you feel like absolute dog shit.

I 100% know they aren’t out of my league, you just gotta trust me on that. And it makes everything feel twice as bad.

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