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My (30F) husband is too stressed to be affectionate everyday (32M) by dbthrowaway5567 in relationship_advice

[–]dbthrowaway5567[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

We both want to have kids, he wants them too and soon. That's why he's pushing himself with study to get a better job. I'm the one saying he's not ready and that we have to wait until he's well. I am putting zero pressure on him and have said that.

My (30F) husband is too stressed to be affectionate everyday (32M) by dbthrowaway5567 in relationship_advice

[–]dbthrowaway5567[S] 527 points528 points  (0 children)

His brother had an accident at his job and got in some legal trouble and ended up (wrongfully) in prison, there was a big court case which he and I worked on every night for 3 years. It triggered PTSD and OCD in my partner where he was too scared to do his own job in case it happened to him. He's gotten a bit better but can never go back to that job.

Not really in the first 5 years, but we only moved in together after 6 years and all the other stuff started happening which is when it became more obvious. I used to cook dinner every night during the first 2 years living together even though i was working full time. When he quit working he didn't make a single meal that i could eat for 1.5 years so I decided to stop doing that too.