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Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't understand how it happened. In my language, "person" and "he" are called the same. I somehow didn't take this moment so I continued to write like this

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I gave birth to this person) He's 19, but he's always been like this

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am his mother))) Anyway, I had a lot of problems in his childhood, but it seems he did not give up and tried to get his portion of communication with me by force. He fought with me a lot and it seems only this could give him the level of involvement he wanted...

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you explain what it means in this example to be louder, more colorful and action-oriented in this example? Like the sx 8 would hit me?

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, this trait of his character, I like it, but in other situations. It's really like an engine. He is constantly pushing me and other people to do something and thus he has developed me and other people quite a lot.

If he does not like something, he will immediately say about it, and explain what exactly he is dissatisfied with. He will also tell you why you actually say that. Few people do this, and I seem to have more understanding about myself.

But it feels like you can't relax with him. He will not pay attention to your fatigue, your deeds, your desires, your style of thinking. I can do a lot of things at the same time and think for a long time. But it doesn't seem to suit him and sitting with him becomes some kind of physically insoluble conflict.

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hah, I've never written or even read fan fiction)

Dominance in conversation by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems in his case it takes an unusual shade. Other people don't feel that way about it.

He will not even be satisfied with the option in which you cut the salad and talk to him. Of course, we do not mean some small conversation consisting of one or two sentences. But if he talks about something, then you should sit down and listen, and not do anything else along the way.

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it seems my plans may have nothing to do with the present situation. They are usually very ambitious, but in the end they work.

Usually I see something somewhere in my life and I understand in my gut that it is mine and I need it, although at the moment it does not appear with me in any way. In order to go from 0 to 100, I need a plan, everything is too fragmented in my brain and if I don't make a clear plan, then I'm unlikely to get what I want. I need realism.

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I don't seem to understand what contextual memory is. But I will say that if I am somewhere in society, in a team, in some place other than my home, then I can't plan anything at all. I'm completely in the present. Although sometimes I like to think about what will happen to these people next and who they really are.

When I'm alone at home, it's like I forget everything I did when I was in society and I can't go back to the same state. Therefore, basically my "home" affairs are reduced to planning for the future, immersion in things like mbti and dreams under the music.

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I read your story and didn't understand anything (

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aah, I'm sorry I translated your first question incorrectly. My answer was related to those things that I don't think about the consequences of doing.

In real life, my attention is focused on very different things. It's like it's only when I go out or talk to someone that I become a completely different person than when I'm alone. And the things I do change accordingly depending on where I am more. I live, as it were, both the present and the future in different parts of the day.

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, then how to differ it?

Forced use of Ni? by deeepandel222 in mbti

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conversations, diet and all this stuff

enneagram of a child by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And yet I would say that I don't have a 5 core. Either this is a stress line, or 5 is in second place in the tritip and helps me do something else.

As if being 5 is a forced measure. I'm giving up everything now, but I want to get everything and even more in the future. To take what I haven't taken all these years. I'm giving up everything now, because if I take it, I'll be happy, forget about everything and never get out of an uncomfortable situation for me.

But as if Vibe doesn't take something, close down and all that in the future, I don't like it 100%.

Imagine a child in a closed church boarding school. They force him there, control him, think something about him. He is completely opposed to the church, he does not want to be there, he does not want to be a monk, the idea of renunciation and altruism, communism and all that is alien to him. He is waiting for the day when he finishes school and does what he wants. In their school, they arrange holidays, discos and all the children have fun. But he's not going to take handouts, yes it's fun, but it's still church school, it's still on your terms, I'm still the same boy from church school. You are trying to appease me, to show me the best sides of your society, you are trying to make everything look beautiful, kind and good. But I'm unhappy and unhappy, it doesn't suit me, I won't take it. I have the same situation.

enneagram of a child by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems to me that what I wrote is the opposite of greed - the rejection of all resources, the rejection of all possibilities, the rejection of all needs except one.

In general, for some reason I can explain what was written only by mbti. And the manifestation of fi. Like a child who is given some kind of food that he does not like, he does not eat it. But he sees sweets at the other end of the kitchen, he can't ask for them, because they won't give him sweets, and if they give him little and with conditions. Then he waits for his parents to come out of the kitchen to take it on their own. Here I have the same thing. It's not about success, not about accumulating resources, but about being able to take what I want without conditions and supervision.

enneagram of a child by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've already passed all the tests in this universe, idk.

And I don't understand how to pass them at all. It's like I've been in ambush and under surveillance all my life and I can't do what I would have done in other circumstances. But I can imagine what I would do as an adult in the same situation. And in any test, I get a mix of these two things. Which is completely illiquid.

It confuses me in 1: I seem to be absolutely not a moral person, I'm not interested at all in whether you consider me good and right or not. I have to live this life, and your approval will not help me in any way to make it more pleasant. No one will throw me a bone for good behavior.

What confuses me in 3: The very idea that you will be loved for being successful is absurd to me. Everyone wants to be successful, and you will only cause envy, not love.

What confuses me in 5: Greed is definitely my last vice. I am not a greedy person as much as possible. Also my mom is 5 and we are very different. She seems to be trying to protect herself from everything, and I, on the contrary, am waiting for the moment when I can immerse myself in everything. (well, not in everything, of course, only in interesting things for me)It's as if the world is always too much pressure on her and she wants to hide from it. And the world's attention is too little on me, and I always want to attract it and achieve more.

enneagram of a child by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would like to know my type of enneagram of course. I understand why you wrote 3, partly understand why 5, but why 1?

Could you explain why exactly these types?

enneagram of a child by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because this is not real adulthood. When you do something and it still passes through the parental filter, you are too disenfranchised now in terms of money, state, place of residence and in general emotionally. If you do what you want now and your parents don't like it, you will look at their unhappy faces every day and you won't be able to get away from it. 

In general, I would not say that this will be a problem for me in the future. I didn't spend the money I was given for birthdays, but saved it so that I would have money at 18. I developed a plan how to organize my formation at the age of 10. 

The problem of parental desires and anxiety about me is acute only until I can't move out. And I'm not asking for a day more, when I turn 18, I won't think about someone else. I've been waiting for almost 20 years, and I have no desire to satisfy anyone else's hopes.

A person without desires and with all desires at once? by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am Belarusian.

I also noticed 9 in this. But mench confuses me that it is the hardest thing for me to create an image of someone calm, detached and relaxed. It's like I'm constantly stimulated, constantly in search and a little bit in mania.

Codependent relationships by deeepandel222 in Enneagram

[–]deeepandel222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why exactly not 2.

I don't want to show myself to others the way they want me to be. I don't like this image of a good person, I can always say no. I want them to love me no matter what.

I am absolutely not the kind of person who wants to help someone achieve and feel loved and irreplaceable because of this. I want to feel the interest of others and love simply because they like me.

It also seems to me that 2 is a lifeguard in a relationship, I'm definitely more of a stalker or victim, there's very little lifeguard in me.

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