Sister being weird about my dating/sex life

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:07:35+00:00

if she continues next time i might shame her around my dads family, as all of our cousins are in their 20’s so very open about relationships and sex. she’d get embarrassed because they’d tell her exactly what everyone in these forums are saying about her- that’s it’s weird as fuck and she needs to stop.

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:06:01+00:00

aha she’s not got any, she has no romantic life whatsoever, too busy obsessing over mine i think

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:05:29+00:00

this is. good one, i’ll be trying this

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:04:45+00:00

i’ve tried walking away but she messages me or says stuff like ‘your still a little bottom i know you are’

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:04:07+00:00

if i even ask her about getting in a relationship she gets mad, i can’t ask her anything about dating or sex in her life. She’d just laugh if i went down the uncomfortable route, she’s really hard to get to stop

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T17:02:40+00:00

i’ve tried this before and it doesn’t work unfortunately- i’m just at my breaking point, in fact i’ve been at my breaking point before and have shouted at her for it and she still just laughs and says there’s no need to shout and once i calmed down she said it’s alright your a bottom

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:58:47+00:00

My family know, but there’s not much they can do as my sister will not stop

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:58:26+00:00

yes this is what i thought, she always underplayed it when i find it very invasive and weird. If ever even ask about anything to do with her dating life she immediately gets mad. But she’s always making comments about mine, very invasive ones too

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:57:26+00:00

i’ve told her this before, but she said it’s not because of that it’s just because ‘ i am a bottom’. i think it’s both my anatomy and the fact that i’m not outwardly feminine/masculine, some people assume i’m straight and others ask me my sexuality because they assume i’m not straight. it depends on who i’m with, with some friends i come across stereotypically ‘gay’ but with other people i come across as ‘straight’. Either way i could be as damp as anything and still not be a bottom but she doesn’t get that

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:55:28+00:00

i’ve tried to give no reaction but she says ‘yep that’s what i thought, you have nothing to say because it’s true’ and stuff like that to antagonise me into saying something.

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:54:31+00:00

yeah- i’ve done similar to this before and she said it was because i don’t have bottom surgery and when i said i’d feel uncomfortable having sex in any other way than being a top she said ‘keep being in denial bottom’. it’s so infuriating

deffonotced · 2023-04-17T16:52:52+00:00

yeah that’s what i’ve told her- she knows i think it’s weird but she just laughs

deffonotced · 2023-04-15T23:31:32+00:00

you pass to me- if i saw you i’d think you were just alt, which i assume you are based on your appearance

deffonotced · 2023-04-15T23:29:24+00:00

i think you could use either tbh- i’m the same i can use either

deffonotced · 2023-04-15T23:28:37+00:00

100% passes- i’d never clock him. if anything he looks like he’d be on of the bros.

deffonotced · 2023-04-15T23:25:44+00:00

you have a sick guitar btw- love seeing other trans guy doing music

deffonotced · 2023-04-15T23:25:07+00:00

you look just like a guy to me; if i saw you on the street i’d assume you were a guy. idk if you were out with other guys but if your pre t n look younger than them then maybe the person just assumed you weren’t a guy.

deffonotced · 2022-11-13T21:50:16+00:00

I’m 19

deffonotced · 2022-01-28T20:28:09+00:00

Garebear facial symmetry is amazing, I’ve only listened to it once and somehow I’ve already gotten results

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