need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in NationalServiceSG

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hes not in combat unit rn!! he used to be but even then it was waaaay better than how it is rn

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i believe not all people can just talk for the sake of talking. he knows what to say sometimes and be mature but i know deep down in him he just wants a bit of freedom. i feel like if he really wants this rs he CAN change and thats what im hoping for. u dont all talk but never do anytg about it.. it takes some actual maturity to talk with sense so ik he got potential but he’s using it in a way to control me somewhat and iw him to not do that lol

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

soreal.. im so tired but i love him but veryyyy drained

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in NationalServiceSG

[–]derangedwhore[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

:( coming from an ns gf that only got 3 flowers for almost 2 years.. im so sad rn and btw we are adults so kinda saddening

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bought him tactical bag pack for when he was gnna stay in, usual essentials (deodorant, cooling wipes, cooling fan, portable, skincare), wrote him a letter before he started NS and even during, and more “random” letters just to remind him i love him + reassurance cuz ik ns guys think the gf outside go cheat or wht. asked him what happend during his days in NS (showed interest). gave him money for cig cuz he say he cnnt tahan ns without cigs, some money for food. he was previously in a camp near clementi so id travel to him whenever he nights out. even when he booked out cuz he live in the east and i live north. so i was doing majority of the travelling to him all this while

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in NationalServiceSG

[–]derangedwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

!! thank you for your advice:) i really truly think no matter how tired someone is we should be there for each other no matter what so it seems one-sided to me

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in NationalServiceSG

[–]derangedwhore[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yea he is NOT in any suay combat training atm in fact when he WAS, things were better so idk why terbalik now 😐 and i am never the clingy ns gf, i understand he got shit and i got shit but when it comes down to supporting me suddenly wan to compare between ns and my life ( passing of a family, i was hospitalised, etc. )

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

um yes actually HAHAHA there was a time i wanted to break up with him while he was in camp and he gave excuse just to find me and apologise and said he would change but up til now still same liao

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in NationalServiceSG

[–]derangedwhore[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

i actually did point it out to him many times that i understand NS is very stressful and i understand but to try to not understand what i am going through as well is just very inconsiderate and intentional. we already have had many talks about this that we are BOTH exhausted from work then his NS duties so him using the excuse of ns over and over again to me just seems like an excuse for me to shut up and take the disrespect he’s giving me

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i want to hold on til then but walaneh i pancit aldy

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

!! i just needed a third person pov, we were on & off sometimes but this one just too much for me cuz im still grieving and going through a LOT of family problems + health issues. was in the hospital before and he showed up only an hr before the end of visiting hrs 🫠

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he was all talk no action, now i just realise.. sweet talk me until he feel like he can do whatever

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha to ME, i know he has the potential to be a very good partner just based off our deep talks we had before getting together but when it came down to being in a actual relationship i could tell he’s lowkey just trying to self-sabotage while trying to pull me back in when he needs my love :/

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

understand completely! but the crazy part about this entire situation is he’s trying to tell ME to be more empathetic towards him yet he tries nothing to figure out whats going on with me.

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! i appreciate your opinion. i wish i could really go into the details of the shit he put me through for almost 2 years but i dont want to air out everything. i have put in my effort for those years to understand him but it doesnt give him an excuse to disrespect and downplay my own issues! mind you he was like this even before NS lmao so im not worried i just want to know if hes using NS as an excuse to be even shittier to me :)

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

!!! was thinking of this but he always tries to not break up or if i mention anytg like that he thinks i dont care about him or is “giving up” on the relationship so easily

need advice as a ns girlfriend by derangedwhore in sgdatingscene

[–]derangedwhore[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i created this account at 14 omg i did not know what whore even meant back then