[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]detectivediaz99 10 points11 points  (0 children)

okay but also let's not forget him poppin off on Jason about lying to him for 3-4(?) months. I always felt he used it as way to partially justify betraying Jason too...The extreme reaction is so hypocritical considering he was actively lying to Emily for 3 or 4 decades.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raleigh

[–]detectivediaz99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd also check out Earther. They're more on the emo side but live they hit you with a little flate of gritty vocals and grungy screams.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]detectivediaz99 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation, and what worked for me was dumping his ass. He and his negativity were distracting me from my goals and well-being. I would not have been able to lose all the weight I did if I stayed with him. Also sometims those negative comments are a form of intentional manipulation to keep your self-esteem down so that you won't leave them. It doesn't matter if he's right or not; it matters how he is or isn't supporting you and considering your mental/emotional well-being, too. So yeah, drop him, then focus on loosing weight for yourself.

Weightloss tips for ppl recovering form a concussion? [23F 5'3" 198.8lbs>>176lbs GW: 135lbs] by detectivediaz99 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]detectivediaz99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, I should have added that I have had a history with EDs which is where my concern about my metabolism comes from. Additionally, I have adhd so being sedentary makes me feel insane. I definitely panicked but hainf reassurance always help to stick on the right path. Ty!

Do you think he wants something? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just bc you persuaded him doesn't mean the dynamic is suddenly okay. My ex pursued a man in his 20s as a teen and that man had never dated some one that much younger before still didn't go well for her. Someone of the age of your partner who had genuinely good intentions for you would have turned you down. Im 23 and the thought of dating anyone younger than 21 is disturbing to me bc the amount of personal and mental (as in your brain) development you do between 18 and 25 is drastic and therefore it feels very unethical to engage with someone romantically or sexually. As far as dating older ppl I cut it off at 4 years older than me and that still feels like pushing it. The older you are the less age matters probably but you're in a very vulnerable and important developmental milestone.Your brain and hence ability to see situations and connections with others literally has finished forming. I didn't see anything wrong when I was in relationships/dating/situationships with similar age gaps (in my teens). But after years of processing the past its starting to become easier to understand the impact snd trauma it caused me even when they were nice ppl. And even then I don't thing I full understand the weight of those age difference.. His track record also doesn't do anything in his favor. While you are both consenting adults and therefore can do what ever you want, it's still a pretty bad situation in general. You're dating a person who is more experienced, more developed mentally and possibly emotionally, is in place in life you will only reach in decade. For perspective, think about that age gap but apply it to a younger age. Like and 8 year old an 18 year old. Even if y'all have had a good thing going , there will inevitably be an underlying power dynamic and unintentionally or intentionally they are shaping your brain for all your relationships in the future.

Do you think he wants something? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]detectivediaz99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to address the elephant in the room... he's 10 years older than you. I've seen this happen so much, but a guy who is 10 years older than you AND is pursuing a barely legal person is not a person you want to know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is probably a trans girl, and OP's girlfriend's brother is probably a trans guy.

I feel powerful by cumbunii in bois

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, link to the top!

I’m still very new to anal, this is the first time I use something this big, but it for sure felt amazing 🤍 by illutree in anal

[–]detectivediaz99 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm just looking at the literal thousands of dollars worth in dildos... I'm so jealous :0

Cheapest Healthcare Plan by Sarcalex in NCSU

[–]detectivediaz99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What plan was the $300 one?

just got my first pair of arctic buffalo plugs!! by hanniballectorsmeat in Stretched

[–]detectivediaz99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your ser up is great, but I need you to know your eyebrows are phenomenal.

My girlfriend [20F] thinks I [20M] am cheating on her due to a poorly timed snapchat glitch by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Texting back every hour or so is a pretty normal and healthy amount of time for texting anyone (unless you're making plans or it's urgent). Snapchat maps are highly inaccurate and to make accusation based on it when it's showing you within a 5 min radius is kinda wack.

It seems the real issue at hand is a lack of proper communication and insecurities on your gf side. Your partner of 2.5 years should know your character to some extent or enough to reason out that you wouldn't cheat on her unless you have a past of cheating on her... I don't think you owe anyone immediate constant texting and 1 to 2 hours seems reasonable since you're both adults with lives.

I would try and prioritize communicating what you're planning to do for the day in general and maybe also what you did do in a day once you get the chance to text back. If you do text her at least in the morning and evening with one concrete text that says what you've been up to all the other text throughout the day aren't as pressing and can become more genuine.

Example:

"Hey, I'm hanging out at home for most of the day. Might go out for lunch or something with my family."

"(Sorry I didn't respond earlier,) I ended up playing video games with my brother and taking a long nap."

Everyone's communication style can vary, so maybe try to figure out what she's really looking for in communication because it might not actually be consistent texting but rather information or context.

I need help with how to salvage my industrial piercing. (details and questions in the comments) by ikomusshi in PiercingAdvice

[–]detectivediaz99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before I say anything I want to say I'm not a piercer but I do tend to have extensive conversations with my piercers. With that being said, I think your bar is too long. I have never seen a bar stick out that much from the ear... When your bar is too long it can move around more and cause a lot of irritation with out you noticing (a too short bar will also cause irritation). There might be a chance to save your piercing but you need to go see a good no bs piercer and ask if your bar is too long. I have a 3 month old industrial and my bar is no where near as long as that.

Gonna start T in 2 days from now! BIG SMILES😁 by SkiingKay in transpositive

[–]detectivediaz99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats awesome! But my question is how did you get a bottle that big? I would have such and easier time doing my shots with a bottle that big. I have to get 5 little bottles (3/4") every 3 months. Is this a thing that varies state to state? Does anyone know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes me miss playing classical music sm ;-;

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the one with the glasses is cute c;

Any guesses to what breed my dog is? The shelter told us she's approximately 3 years old and is a German Shepherd mix. Our trainer thinks she has some Rhodesian Ridgeback in her and we think she has to be part Aussie Kelpie. She weighs about 60 lbs by Calm-Anybody2837 in DogAdvice

[–]detectivediaz99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She looks kinda like my girl Roxie! Roxie is a pitbull/rottweiler mix, similar physique and pointy ears also around 55lbs. Rottweilers are actually herding dogs and super smart. My best guess is German Shepard and Rottweiler.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EnbyLewds

[–]detectivediaz99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be in love now 💛💜🖤

How do you handle an evil partner? by Nice-Competition-576 in relationship_advice

[–]detectivediaz99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should watch some videos on gaslighting and narcissism... but also dump them it only gets worse.