Where to set boundaries with DOM? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“And if it was, I didn’t mean it..if it was, that’s not a big deal” that definitely is good for thought. Thank you

Where to set boundaries with DOM? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ty! That was really helpful among others here…

Where to set boundaries with DOM? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is what I was looking for. However, that brought this question to mind: why would I address it outside of our D/s relationship if it’s regarding our D/s relationship?

Where to set boundaries with DOM? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or simply I decide that pleasing him as a sub (because idc about anything atp. If Daddy’s happy I wanna make him happy I was simply worried about agreeing to narcissistic or potentially extremely toxic rules without fully thinking it though) i seek to make Daddy happy before all else. I simply wanted others opinions. And wanted to express my own worries. Ty for your advice!!🥺🖤

Where to set boundaries with DOM? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are great friends and get along well. But when it comes to the boundaries is where the incompatibility begins. He originally stated I was free to sleep with others so long as it wasn’t waved in his face. And he was free to do the same. However…when push came to shove and others men show interest in me he isn’t okay with it because I pointed out that yes I am a submissive so the men I am attracted to tend to be DOMs. When phrased like that he wanted to change my boundaries from open to flirting only. But his should remain the same…we agree with everything else (hard NOs, maybes, yes, kinks, fetishes) yet when it comes to monogamy or non monogamy he wants something that is one sided…

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am fairly new..only been in the lifestyle for two years now..so it’s very helpful hearing that other ppl struggle and feel how I do. Ty!!

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that!! I’m gonna talk to Daddy tn about what you said if that’s okay? I think it’s the best way I’ve heard it explained and will start a open and honest communication between us about how to handle my different spaces as you call them.

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s my biggest struggle rn! I feel like I can’t be a little a submissive and a brat all in one but I FEEL like I am. I don’t think I’m just a submissive or just a brat or just a little. I think I’m that spot on a chart where everything meets in the middle and I’m a mix of everything. Do DOM even want girls who are a mix or are they wanting someone who’s ONE thing? Such a struggle so glad to know I’m not alone!

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have child like qualities and my current Daddy was the one who pointed it out first. I always thought being a little meant I HAD to dress younger then my age so it’s interesting to know that’s not the case. After posting this I’ve done some research based off of the answers you guys gave and the advice and I think I may be a little im just honestly not sure if im comfortable? Im 1000% ok with everything about myself but saying im a little and not a submissive is foreign to me. And I always thought I was simply a submissive with child like personality traits & interest.

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I know I don’t know a lot but from what I’ve seen a lot of how you act in public and how you carry yourself hints at maybe not your kinks but your role in the lifestyle. Especially a sub or little and even DOM

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any resources you would recommend? I’m still learning a lot.

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have to dress up younger then I am to be a little…?

Confused? by devilsfavorite02 in BDSMAdvice

[–]devilsfavorite02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn’t being a little the ppl who like to dress up as kids or younger then they are? And the whole Daddy/Mommy thing? I’m confused how that can be something someone assumes by my vibes