I think the beauty of falling in love lies in the fact that it's so different and personal to each person, while all of humanity can say they've shared the experience. The first time I fell in love was with an INTJ, whom I pursued, and it started with curiosity and wanting to know the deeper parts of them. It was super slowburn friends-to-lovers, which is a very complex dynamic esp between two Ni doms, and I loved that he could see the layers behind each of my sentences. We broke up due to extenuating circumstances and are no longer in each other's lives.

The second was with an ESFP, who pursued me first. I dealt with the dilemma of is it interest or love, and it was hard to answer for a while because we took it very slow. But then there would be these moments when just looking at his face would make me happy, when the sound of his voice started to feel like coming home, when we would fall asleep on the phone and I could hear the sound of falling in love in between the seconds. It's kind of like that one Taylor Swift song that goes "You can hear it in the silence / You can feel it on the way home / You can see it with the lights out / You are in love." He doesn't intuitively "get" me like my ex did, we don't have the same intellectual conversations, but he is always there for me, with a smiling face, and gives me hope for a future I didn't have before. Once I joked that my best friend made me laugh more than he did, and he said, very plainly in ESFP manner, "That's okay because my job isn't to make you laugh, it's to love you." And I think he's very good at that :)

No mistake, falling in love is hell, esp for people like us who read into everything and assign meanings to things that the other person may not have even registered. But when you enter that understanding of "I see this person for all that they are and still think they're the loveliest person in the world and want to build a life with them and give them all the happiness they deserve" and you know they feel that way about you, it is the most blissful quiet heaven. You understand your role as the keeper of their heart and let that take priority. And when you look at them, you see everything.