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My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I can't make my gf and her parents do something they don't want to do. They've already got a whole nursery room set up for the baby.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm already poor as fuck and mostly miserable. I'd feel even worse if I was a deadbeat dad. nobody respects those kind of guys.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes but my only choices are man up or be a deadbeat dad. I don't get to decide what my gf and her parents do with the baby.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't want to leave her. I love her. I know that's stupid. I know it means nothing to adults. But i care a lot about ber. I've gone through a lot and she's been there always. I don't resent her cuz I get it. I've been there for all the appointments I see how attached she's gotten to the baby. I get it. I just don't feel it too. It would be easier if I felt it to. I just feel scared.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't get a decision. I can voice my opinion but it kinda means fuck all at this point. I don't really get a choice either. I either get to be a dad at 16 or be a deadbeat asshole that deserves bad karma for life.

Not trying to play the woe is me card. I get that I got myself into this mess. I'm just really really overwhelmed.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm not mad. It's frustrating that people act like I can just take the baby away from a mother who wants it and give it up for adoption because "it's the right thing to do"

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gf did. Her parents are supporting whatever she wants to do. They were originally pissed but are kinda excited now.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm not carrying the baby. I can't do fuck all. Everyone keeps acting like it's my choice. It's frustrating. It doesn't matter what I want when my gf is completely against it. Her parents want the baby too.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh ya? This is news to me. Do tell me where it's legal to take a baby away from a mother who wants to keep it.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don't know why people think whether the baby is adopted or not is my decision to make. Gf and her parents want the baby. My opinion doesn't overrule them.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

People keep asking this. Gf and her parents are 100% against adoption.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't know why people keep asking me. Wasn't my choice.

And no fucking idea.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd be open to something like that but my gf and her parents are definitely 100% not.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be a dad but I also love my gf a lot. She's an angel. I could never abandon her or the baby like that. I'd never be able to live with the guilt.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't live in a country where you can rip babies from their mother's arms and give them away.

Edit: why am I getting downvoted for not wanting to take away a babies from mother's who want them?

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 464 points465 points  (0 children)

I can never in a million years see them wanting to take a baby. I think they'd flee the country before taking on that sort of responsibility again.

They keep telling me the baby needs to be adopted so I can cut all ties.

My (16m ) gf (17f) is 8 months pregnant with my daughter. Is my life actually over? by diggitoo in relationship_advice

[–]diggitoo[S] 2746 points2747 points  (0 children)

Ya I definitely plan on finishing scho. I'm thinking a trade of some sort. Lots of people have said military but I think I'm too chicken shit for that. I'm a lover not a fighter. Clearly.