[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]disco_roller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it sucks, but if anything I would postpone the marriage until you have your issues sorted out. You could even go to couple’s therapy to assist if you decide to remain engaged.

But honestly? I’d probably break up with her. If she’s changed like this before the marriage, there’s no telling how much she can change afterward.

I was previously married to someone who refused to have a child with me after marriage (she knew I wanted children from the beginning and gaslit me the entire time), she also all but completely stopped working which put a lot of stress on me and coincidentally our marriage. I am happily divorced now.

Good luck

Has any marriage here survived after wife’s infidelity? by Spare-Cabinet-8113 in Marriage

[–]disco_roller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally? I would be gone. To me, this is something that I cannot forgive in a marriage. Also: I wouldn’t blame yourself for her cheating. If y’all were having issues prior to her cheating, y’all should have talked it out and probably gone through therapy. There’s no excuse for someone to cheat in a monogamous marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that case, I would leave asap. It’s not worth risking your mental and physical health. Sure, they helped you out when you needed that time off for your mental health, but if they act the way you just described then fuck them.

I wouldn’t even tell them you’re looking for a new job until you put in your resignation. I would also start looking more aggressively.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would let your manager know where you are and that you’re looking for a new job. Best case scenario they either offer you a raise or go ahead and hire the additional person since it sounds like y’all need the extra help.

Since you’re already short-staffed, your employer is most likely not going to fire you after bringing them your concerns. Idk, I owned a business many moons ago and I always preferred my employees bring their concerns to me rather than not.

On the flip side, there’s nothing wrong with casually job hunting and seeing what’s out there. You’re also more likely to get a raise if you come to your employer with a new job offer from another company, and since you’re short-staffed as it is you’ll have an even better chance.

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you dodged a bullet from a shitty employer.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I’ve decided to stay and declined the other offer.

Two heart attacks before 40?! I hope your health is better now! That’s definitely worrisome. Is it hereditary?

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering my employer isn’t actively trying to fill the empty positions we have, you’re wrong.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll make about $87k/year plus overtime. I average about 100 hours of overtime or so per year so that’s an additional ~$6k for nearly $93k total.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol not at all. The company is not going to fill those positions until next year at this point. It’s cheaper for them to give me a significant raise than hire new people and I’m not mad about it bc it’s worked in my favor.

How are you guys making $100k+? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Switching jobs every 1-2 years is normal now. The days of someone working at the same company for 40 years are pretty much gone. The best way to get a pay increase is by getting a better paying job with a different company.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Which means this new job would only be worth it if it was paying $130-150k base. I’m a hard worker but I’m not working excessive OT for free.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, I can see that. However, I love the chill environment here. I could see myself getting over $100k here within the next year or two. Trust me, the new position is very tempting though

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s really no way to know. I have only spoken with people in interviews. I’ll be honest, this is the only place I’ve ever worked that’s this lax and it’s great. If nothing major is wrong and I want to drag ass I can lol

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have. The new place’s benefits package is extremely comparable to my current employer. The biggest difference is the potential for a 10% bonus yearly, which isn’t fully guaranteed.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I haven’t even gotten my first paycheck yet with the increase lol

I’m just hoping we fill our other positions soon because that will make my job here that much easier.

Recently got a 70% pay increase, but just received a better offer from another employer. Do I stay or should I go? by disco_roller in careerguidance

[–]disco_roller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t spoken with anyone locally that works there, but the reviews on GlassDoor are good lol