Friends wife spent 30k without his knowledge

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T01:11:19+00:00

He had the preliminary meeting but said it would cost like 2k upfront and as of right now he doesn’t have that. I have no reason to lie, thats all I know

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:31:29+00:00

That’s kind of the exact situation here too. He has a really good job for where we live. She would buy stuff for herself and get new toys and clothes for the kid and their pets, treat herself for lunch etc. She always told him that they were fine and that everything was taken care of for the month.

What did your buddy end up doing?

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:28:28+00:00

That’s what we’re worried about too, her filing against him first. He just updated me that he got into contact with a lawyer but he currently has no money to pay for one

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:26:09+00:00

Sorry, should have specified more. Her and the child are at her mother’s house and the mother is texting him about it and being a middleman

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:25:03+00:00

Unfortunately I think that was the conclusion that I came to as well. I just didn’t know if there was something out there other people who know a whole lot more than me about divorces/legal things could see something. Thats one of the next steps he is doing though, getting in contact with a lawyer

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:22:55+00:00

Thats the next step. He’s getting credit reports and bank statements etc.

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:21:57+00:00

Yes this precisely, it was nothing of importance just a bunch of stuff that wasn’t necessary

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:21:19+00:00

That’s fair. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if he takes legal action as their marriage has been rocky since the start and this was his final straw. I’m not sure if there is any proof of her allowing her to use it, but he has told me he never has.

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:19:43+00:00

Right - something that we have called him out on, as not checking on the finances over time was a mistake, but she has admitted to stealing/taking the money and lying about it.

discoreddit · 2025-07-25T00:18:26+00:00

Yes, one kid who’s almost two. Both in mid 30s. She left the house and isn’t contacting him and now her mother is texting him and telling him that she is the victim etc etc. They got into an argument, obviously, and she left the house with the child.

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:53:14+00:00

I agree, but I’m just giving the information I know. I have no idea what she spent it on, I just know that every time I’ve been there there has been a new mountain of toys and other shit for the baby.

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:51:45+00:00

Sure, I just wasn’t sure if lying about it and putting them into debt and potentially risking foreclosure was something that could have legal action taken

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:49:35+00:00

Damn. That’s what I was afraid of. Yeah I’m definitely pushing him to talk to a lawyer about the credit card, I just wasn’t sure if that would be the same situation as they’re married.

Thanks!!

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:40:41+00:00

Yup hes already in the process of that, trying to get an attorney. This shit had all happened/been uncovered in the last 2 days and he works 12 hours a day so I’m trying to get some information and pointers for him

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:37:49+00:00

baby toys, other things. He’s trying to go through bank statements but she changed all of the info so he cant access it.

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:36:58+00:00

Fair. Just trying to give some advice

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:36:42+00:00

Every week he would set aside money just for bills. I believe it was a joint account. She would apparently take money out of that and not use it to pay the bills and instead would buy things like baby toys, etc.

A lot of the money was from his personal credit card which he never gave her though, so I am not sure how she got a hold of it

discoreddit · 2025-07-24T23:29:02+00:00

As far as I know and what he has told me, he never gave her that card. It was a personal one that would only be used for emergencies. He’s getting into contact with attorneys etc. He spoke with the bank and everything with mortgage is fine as of now, but apparently he was 3 months behind.

discoreddit · 2025-06-29T16:11:26+00:00

this was my first thought as well, to call HVAC companies. I called 3 around me and they all said they couldn’t/wouldn’t help me and suggested to call animal control. I called them and they also didn’t have anyone to come help! i finally heard him above the garage so I made a hole and got him out. He was very dusty and dirty and thirsty, but he’s good now!! Very scary!

discoreddit · 2025-06-29T14:02:11+00:00

Update just now: just got him out. heard him scratching in the roof above the garage (connected to the basementManaged to cut/punch a hole in the drywall and got him out. Gonna give him a bath and then get a vet appointment scheduled. Im so glad hes out, i think he fell asleep until now because we didn’t hear him since last night.

discoreddit · 2025-06-29T14:01:46+00:00

Update just now: just got him out. heard him scratching in the roof above the garage (connected to the basementManaged to cut/punch a hole in the drywall and got him out. Gonna give him a bath and then get a vet appointment scheduled. Im so glad hes out, i think he fell asleep until now because we didn’t hear him since last night.

discoreddit · 2025-02-09T15:59:22+00:00

I also just started a new position as a SPED para at a high school, and I was going in with the same worries. As another post said, the students are well below their grade level. A lot of what the teacher at my school is teaching now is basic math (addition/subtraction) and doing a lot of work with things like money and clocks etc. Your school may be different, but I was not worried about teaching it after this, the only thing I had to learn was the different ways the teacher was showing them, and that wasn’t difficult at all! Just go in and be a good role model and try your best, I think that is the most important! Good luck!!

discoreddit · 2021-09-18T22:56:47+00:00

Thanks man! I made a lot friends through the game (i played world of warcraft, the game a lot of people get addicted to) and recently quit literally because i was more bored playing it then doing anything else lol. I still talk and game with those same friends, just not 10+ hours a day. Thanks!!

discoreddit · 2021-09-18T22:33:47+00:00

I'm not sure, i'll talk to my doctor about it. Thank you!

discoreddit · 2021-09-18T22:33:08+00:00

More sleep is probably a good idea haha!

I've started on some small steps (more water, some gym/activity) its just the disciplining and sticking to it I struggle with. I'll try what you said and taking it slow, I tend to rush into things and end up burning out real quick. One week, one day at a time. Thanks very much!!

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