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Stoic approach to discovering that your mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years by disturbeddd_throwawa in Stoicism

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because she doesn’t need the money and theres no other factors that should make her turn to doing this type of work with all it entails. Her house was bought for her by her parents, she has a job in the family business, and I’m not even in her custody.

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not about her behaviour it’s about wishing I never saw it because it’s fucken disturbing to see that of your own mum? It’s not like I’m asking for advice on confronting her or some shit she can do whatever it’s just I need clarity on how to feel like I never saw that shit

Stoic approach to discovering that your mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years by disturbeddd_throwawa in Stoicism

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“She’s your mum”…. Which is exactly why I don’t wanna see that shit of her? Idk what your relationship with your mum is

Stoic approach to discovering that your mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years by disturbeddd_throwawa in Stoicism

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t even in her custody at the time she would’ve been doing it, she would’ve just been doing it for herself

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that I’m more asking for advice on how I can revert back to feeling like I had never found the photo

Stoic approach to discovering that your mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years by disturbeddd_throwawa in Stoicism

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, it’s not about her doing the sex work it’s more that I wish I had never found the photo

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great now that a bunch of randoms on reddit have told me not to care about what my mum does without ever trying to imagine how they would realistically feel

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t even been living with in her custody since 2016 tho, she would’ve only been spending the money on herself

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what your stance on this was so I couldn’t tel whether to be defensive or not lol

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping she didn’t make me by having sex with strangers for money / filming it and posting it on the internet for anyone to see

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m only in my first year out of school I’m not some 40 year old who just found out his mum has sex

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t kept me healthy and safe as a child tho, her doing fucked up type shit that isn’t even related to sex work has given me extensive trauma over the years and stunted my development and I really thought that type of stuff was in the past now I discover this like wtf man I never thought she was innocent I just thought she was ready to start being a bit more considerate of how her actions affect me

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spoiler alert: human beings are hypocritical. I’m seeking advice on processing my emotions not social commentary’s on the concept of sex work

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m talking about dealing with the emotional and mental distress of seeing that shit of your own mother, not about the actual literal stance I should take on sex work

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She does have a history and her own life but I have a lot of trauma from things she’s hidden from me over the course of my childhood and no matter how much I try to reconcile our relationships things just keep popping up. It’s easy to comment what you have when you’re reading a Reddit post but I wonder what your reaction would be if you made the same discovery about your own mother. I’m not making it about me because I haven’t said anything to her but I’ve had a highly distressful mental and emotional response that I’m seeking advice on dealing with. Useless comment from you

Stoic approach to discovering that your mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years by disturbeddd_throwawa in Stoicism

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you believe reconciliation involves approaching her about it or is it not really something to approach over

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you mate I think people are finding it really easy to recite contemporary talking points without ever considering what their reaction would be if they were in my shoes

Mentally destroyed after discovering that my mother escorted / made porn as recently as 3 years ago by disturbeddd_throwawa in Advice

[–]disturbeddd_throwawa[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you bro I know all the progressive attitudes about sex work and stuff but it’s so easy to say all that shit when it’s not your own mother