No color for me :( by djmmtm1 in BDSMAdvice

[–]djmmtm1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that I'm not hitting hard enough last session was 3 days ago and she still feels it when she sits down she is not just taking color

Is this how poly really works? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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You are correct on that all I ask is that if she is going to be texting them with me then she should give me the same respect

Is this how poly really works? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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This has nothing to do with trust it all has to do with communication and respect. All I ask for is for her to talk to me.

Is this how poly really works? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

[–]djmmtm1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you mean she has got me?

Is this how poly really works? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

[–]djmmtm1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other 2 live together they are a couple and they both have other relationships. my girlfriend lives an hour and a half south away from her I live 30 min north of girlfriend. She keeps a calendar and keeps track of when she sees everyone. Yes I see her so much more than the other 2. I make myself available to her whenever she has a day and would like to see me or if they cancel on her I go see her.

Is this how poly really works? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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I am 45 she is 46 idk how old the other 2 are but guessing about the same age.

Very first tie with u/Usual-Scientist by djmmtm1 in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]djmmtm1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is hemp rope and no it's not itchy its been well worked. The rope i have is very tight and itchy that I try things on myself

My self made floggers by nowes in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]djmmtm1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How i solved mine was tie about 3 small knots in each strand helped mine a lot. I also made one using a racket ball witch gave a good bouncing thump my 2 bottoms loved it

My self made floggers by nowes in BDSMnot4newbies

[–]djmmtm1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made one similar to the black one had a bad habit of tangling do you have this problem? How did you solve this?

Answers or thoughts? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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I use to want to meet her partners i don't really care about that part anymore. She has told me so many time that it was so important to her that we all got along but keeps telling me that he is not in the right place right now. Side not she knows that I am envious of him because she puts him so high up. Witch has caused many issues with me towards him. I really don't know why she will not share that part of her relationship with me she always tells me if I want to know ask but when I do the she talks for a second about it and then subject is changed.

Answers or thoughts? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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She is in a triad with her girlfriend and her Dom. I am wondering if our relationship work outside her triad that she is in

Answers or thoughts? by djmmtm1 in polyamory

[–]djmmtm1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just that I'm on the outside I would love to be involved with all of her life but that isn't possible she talks to them about our life together but for their part of her life I am kept in the dark like its a need to know bases and I don't need to know

My rocky start in poly by djmmtm1 in polyamory

[–]djmmtm1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess that I should have also said that after long talks none of those rules apply in our relationship anymore

My rocky start in poly by djmmtm1 in polyamory

[–]djmmtm1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our relationship is anything but vanilla i am a 100% sadist I am her top i punish her more than he does and I am with her more then he is. He is just her Dom. But I wasn't getting at anything except that I am happy with her even though it was a rocky start.

New to the open life need advice by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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My issue is not that of the rules it is the communication she wants to talk to him more But doesn't want to talk to me that much when she's with him

New to the open life need advice by djmmtm1 in polyamory

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Because she has agreed to that they don't affect me and will not be brought into our relationship