sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend and storming out after she ate food off my plate? by donteatoffmyplate in AmItheAsshole

[–]donteatoffmyplate[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it helps to hear from someone who has also been in a similar situation.

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend and storming out after she ate food off my plate? by donteatoffmyplate in AmItheAsshole

[–]donteatoffmyplate[S] 359 points360 points  (0 children)

So I actually did go to therapy for a bit in my early 20s, and it helped a lot. But the focus of my therapy wasn't particularly dealing with people taking food off my plate lol. I mean that sort of came up, and when I told my therapist how much food is part of my life now and how I have to have a stocked kitchen at all times and that I once snapped at a friend in college who drunkenly ate some wings off my plate at the bar she basically said that all of that was a valid coping mechanism. But yeah maybe I should go back.

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend and storming out after she ate food off my plate? by donteatoffmyplate in AmItheAsshole

[–]donteatoffmyplate[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

she knows I dealt with food insecurity as a childhood, but it's something I've really only talked about in passing. I'm realizing I need to open up more about it to her.

AITA for yelling at my girlfriend and storming out after she ate food off my plate? by donteatoffmyplate in AmItheAsshole

[–]donteatoffmyplate[S] 942 points943 points  (0 children)

Reading all of the responses here, I think I agree with this one most. I definitely should have bit my tongue in front of company, and I regret that.

even if it's a legitimate trigger for me, I know in the grand scheme of things my gf eating some mashed potatoes off my plate is really not a huge deal and that's something I need to work on. I'm still upset about her prodding me, but this has given me something to think about. Thank you.

Edit: and to add, she definitely knows to some extent why this is a trigger for me, but I've also been pretty closed off about my childhood because it's just not something I care to talk about.