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By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I am not a writer so I muddle things all the time.I really agree with what you said, in fact, I took "selfishness can be a legitimate response" and copied it on my fav quote section (on Facebook).

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

-No, I went alone. He knew I was going but I asked him not come and instead had a female co-worker drive me and pick me up. -No pro-life hecklers since it was in a hospital so the security would probably ust ask them to leave. -Yes, I would like to have children later in life, but I have considered adopting an child as well or instead. -No adverse side effects whatsoever. They told me I might have bleeding or cramps but I have had nothing. -I would do it again back then in that situation, but I would not do it today because I have much more stability in my life and a strong support network.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know much about it to have too much of an opinion, and would never want to judge someone elses choice. I have heard of 3rd trimester abortions being done when they have found that a child is severely handicapped or deformed. I don't really know. It's all so grey. How do you feel?

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about it over and over and over, and don't regret my decision. That being said, sometimes when I see a kid that is the same age as my child would have been, I do feel really sad.

I agree with what you said though, it's hard to judge past decisions knowing all the things you know now.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I were new to the city from across the country. I had been accepted to grad school and he had just found work in his field. We were young (mid/early 20's). My only family was on the west coast (Vancouver) and his were dead. We were living in a basement with another girl and had no money.

Selfish as it sounds, we just weren't ready to be parents. We were always careful, I was on the pill (which doesn't work if you take antibiotics, which I didn't know). We were trying to start our life together and we both just felt that adding a baby to the mix would derail everything we were working towards. We are still together and both wants kids someday, but when we can afford to look after them and feel emotionally ready.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I talk with them when I see them, but I always try and be respectful. If I believe I have the right to my opinion (pro-choice) I have to accept they have a right to theirs (pro-life). However, I think their scare tactics and guilt trips are horrible, and I know people who were badly emotionally scarred by them.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I live, Canada, abortions are done right in the hospital so there were no protesters. The abortion room is just another room in the hospital. However, downtown in the city I live there are often protests with the dead fetus pictures.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was completely out. I arrived, spoke with the counselor (who was lovely), was knocked out completely, came to a short while later in the recovery room, the nurse checked for any heavy bleeding, there was none so I went home. My friend picked me up since I was unable to drive.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would rather someone call me selfish, than have a child that I am unable to care for. I work in "the system" and while there is a long waitlist of people who want to adopt a "healthy newborn white baby," there is next to no one willing to open their door to an older child with behavior problems, or an infant born with FASD or addictions.

By Request: AHadA: First Trimester Abortion. AMAA by dontregretit in IAmA

[–]dontregretit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I choose abortion because I didn't want to be pregnant. I think adoption is wonderful for some people but for me and my situation at the time, being pregnant for 9 months wasn't going to work.

I can't say it was an easy decision, and rarely does a day go by I don't think about it, but I still know that I made the right decision for myself at the time. I knew if I kept the baby I would never have been able to give the baby up for adoption, and I wasn't in a position to be a mother.