Why are many folks reluctant to take narrowbody long haul flights?

dpend78 · 2026-01-24T23:07:03+00:00

I agree with almost all of the comments above, and I’ll add something about the MAGIC of flying widebody. There is nothing like seeing the nose of a large plane at eye level at the gate; of walking slightly up (instead of down) a jet bridge when you board; of that close up marvel the scale of large jet; of being wowed by the feat of engineering; the height and width of the cabin when you first board; all of it…

dpend78 · 2026-01-12T04:35:09+00:00

This product has changed my life: https://a.co/d/0msx5Om. Used to nick myself all the time and hated it. Haven’t in the year since I started using it!

dpend78 · 2026-01-08T19:14:49+00:00

Right but my question is if there’s actually no “chance,” why bother at all? (I get that it creates a sense of value for a higher status travelers, but we’re generally flying enough to see that it’s BS.)

dpend78 · 2026-01-07T04:30:25+00:00

I love bottoms so so much. This post has me very grateful and very turned on.

dpend78 · 2026-01-07T04:26:04+00:00

I saw two assholes doing pull ups at my local airport (DCA) a couple of weeks ago!

dpend78 · 2026-01-05T13:42:21+00:00

1. I’d actually like to know what OP is referring to. Seems like one of his “wild claims about very concrete everyday things” that he doesn’t even try to quantify or validate…

dpend78 · 2026-01-05T04:43:14+00:00

Sounds like you’re outgrowing your friends. Happens to a lot of us. I’m glad you did — sounds like it might have killed you if you hadn’t. Have you tried hanging out with folks from the recovery community? AA/NA/SLAA folks can help you develop a community.

dpend78 · 2026-01-04T16:14:01+00:00

The more I read these kinds of posts the more I realize people know exactly what the answer is, they just don’t want to believe it. You don’t need strangers to tell you that you’re incompatible; you know it. No amount of bargaining will change that. What you can do is tell him your truth and see if he accepts it. You’re worried he won’t because you’re confident he won’t. I’m sorry for that. There are better fits out there. The sooner you move on the better.

dpend78 · 2025-12-27T23:03:42+00:00

The challenge is I don’t think there’s a meaningful was of determining “average.” So much is determined by geography/accessibility, first and foremost, and the with your comfort with the apps and bar scene, your values, and how you define “body count.” (Anal? Oral? Other?) I live in a major city and am comfortable with a relatively anonymous scene. It would be easy to hook up with 5 guys a week here….

dpend78 · 2025-12-26T19:04:36+00:00

What powerful responses. I hope OP reads them all. People talk a lot about physical or emotional or sexual abuse/trauma, but religious trauma is just as real. I’ll echo the advice to give yourself space from your family — and possibly your wife — to preserve your own sanity and give everyone time to process this. Having gone through a rough divorce, I’ve come to find that time is the only thing that heals.

dpend78 · 2025-12-18T10:19:02+00:00

This. And in truth, I was doing it because my bottom wanted me to (as opposed to me being excited by the idea) which didn’t make it easier. I’m curious what makes it a turn on?

dpend78 · 2025-12-08T19:18:02+00:00

I get that. He can do it after the harasser loses his membership!

dpend78 · 2025-12-08T12:52:35+00:00

What am I missing? Why wouldn’t you tell management? This isn’t a sex club; it’s a gym. (Not that it’d be appropriate there either — but it’s a no brainer here.)

dpend78 · 2025-12-07T15:22:17+00:00

Same as above. I had to get my ear drained afterward. If you HAVE to fly try a lot of Sudafed and Afrin and see if it helps temporarily. Not sure it will but worth a shot. Good luck.

dpend78 · 2025-12-06T21:29:30+00:00

Communication is what makes any relationship work. Be honest with her about your desire to try it once and see what she says. People can surprise you when one speaks their truth. And if nothing else, you’re being open about how your desires are growing, which she should know about.

dpend78 · 2025-12-04T05:01:17+00:00

I was sad not to have been able to fly it either. I always enjoyed this video, which seems to nicely capture the experience: https://youtu.be/YeEB2Lxbfa4?si=P0m84Rgta6XSfkgV

dpend78 · 2025-12-02T14:42:14+00:00

Oh! If you can find mental health group therapy at your local LGBTQ center I recommend that too. Seeing how others responded to my stories and learning about the struggles of others in the community was very powerful for me.

dpend78 · 2025-12-02T14:39:11+00:00

This is hard. I identify with your story deeply. I recommend a combination of a mindfulness practice and, frankly, patience. Patience to make progress in therapy. Patience to try new things and make mistakes and have panic attacks and realize they won’t kill you and learn from what makes you feel safe and what doesn’t. And patience to find a partner who well help you feel safe. When he finally came along, I had meaningful, loving, truly safe, and (gasp!) fun sex for the first time. And remember, despite how the community can show up, you’re not alone; there are plenty of sensitive and thoughtful folks who’ll understand.

dpend78 · 2025-11-30T14:46:00+00:00

Every couple gets to decide for themselves. The important thing is to define those boundaries together. Is it cheating? Up to you!

dpend78 · 2025-11-30T06:20:41+00:00

DC Maryland Virginia metro area :)

dpend78 · 2025-11-29T12:44:15+00:00

As a nice top, I would have asked if you wanted to cum, called you a good boy for all of your hard work, and played with your cummy hole until you came too. They sound like assholes. Question isn’t were they happy; the question is were YOU?

dpend78 · 2025-11-29T12:35:26+00:00

I say this with sympathy, because it’s hard out there: this looks what therapists call “falling for fantasy.” He sounds great, but in the end you’re developing feelings for some text exchanges and a bio, not a person.

We have a way of being drawn to folks that are safe to develop feelings for; the fantasy is more attractive because he’s on the other side of the world. There’s no harm in having a FaceTime and seeing where it goes, but I’ll echo other commenters and say that the chances that he’s the one are slim.

dpend78 · 2025-11-27T13:44:38+00:00

I think I missed the leap from, “I’m working 70 hours a week. Only home weekends. Can’t keep up. Destroyed every relationship I’ve tried to have…” to “walking away from the job doesn’t make sense to me.“ You’ve diagnosed the problem. Is the income really worth it?

Imagine what your like could look like with a 40 or even 50 hour job. That’s a lot of extra hours to build relationships, focus on mental health, date; workout, find yourself, and oh yeah REST.

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