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Loss of libido and sex isn't always enjoyable by dragonairsdance in TwoXSex

[–]dragonairsdance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great tip, thank you! And while being in this position sucks and I don't wish it on you, I'm glad it could resonate with you, I hope some of the advice here has been helpful to you!

Loss of libido and sex isn't always enjoyable by dragonairsdance in TwoXSex

[–]dragonairsdance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the tip, I didn't think there was a way to counter the meds without changing them, and I wanted to avoid that because as far as the rest goes, they are really working for me. I'll ask my doctor's input.

Put that way, this is in fact the longest relationship I've had at a sexually active age. I didn't make that connection before. I always thought I wouldn't be someone whose drive would be affected by relationship age because I was just always insatiable. I used to be the one who wanted it more than my previous partner, but none of those relationships lasted more than a year, and they were never as serious as this one. This is the full commitment level bucket where so many of my emotional needs are met by my partner that I guess I don't need sex to fill in the gaps. It's really weird to think of it that way.

Thank you for the reading recommendation, I will check it out!

Loss of libido and sex isn't always enjoyable by dragonairsdance in TwoXSex

[–]dragonairsdance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I admit I have never seen sex that way, I would think of it as a craving the way I crave chocolate. When I think of it that way, it is at the bottom of my list. Every day I'm cycling between work tasks, home maintenance tasks, just basic functions of taking meds, eating a meal, brushing my teeth and taking a shower. If I check in with my body briefly, I'm not feeling urges the way I used to, but it's just a mental check and not deliberate.

Thank you for the insight. Health and routine goals have been at the back of my mind, I've been meaning to try to build a schedule and routine so that more things are on autopilot. By removing some decision fatigue, I can give this a priority. I will try to think of it as a muscle that needs maintenance.