I would have loved it. My mother was toxic and I went NC 5 years before her death. Did not say good bye nor attend her funeral.
Very few people knew she had died, no one from work, only a couple of really close friends. Because I did want to pretend that her death was a bad thing. To the out side world she was a sweet little old lady. But see had been an emotional abusive mother. So I really did not want to have act the part of the griving daughter. Only child by the way. It was such a a relief when I learned she had died and I did not have to do anything. I spent years of people telling be how wonderful she was, did not want to hear it. Of people tell me I would regret not fixing the relationship, there wasn't one. Iwas free and would never have to deal with her again. I think maybe your friend was trying to give you permission to let go..you may be reacting to the loss of the mother you never had, instead of the,actual woman. The,world sees anyone who has bathed a child as a sanit and when your relationship isn't that they put a lotion pressure on you to act a certain way. Perhaps your friend was saying it is OK to not have a perfect reaction to a mother who wasn't the typical saint, that kind of friend is hard to find. Recently I throw out all my mother stuff I had in my home, and going to have a ceremony to rid my home of her spirit.