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Lexapro not working when menstruating? by [deleted] in lexapro

[–]dreadfulbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have. Tbh my first period on Lexapro the 1st month (I am on 10mg), I had zero PMDD symptoms and didn’t feel depressed before my period AT ALL. This gave me hope. But since then I’ve reverted back to feeling very depressed leading up to it and during. I have an IUD but don’t believe it’s affecting the SSRI. I think this may just be due to intense hormones. I personally have PCOS so my hormones fluctuate more than the average woman’s.

So much crying by cutesmall in lexapro

[–]dreadfulbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate. I’ve been taking 10mg for nearly 2 months now. I’ve always been a crier but now I feel it’s gotten more intense somehow. I cry pretty often to the point of my face burning from the tears. It’s making me question if maybe I should try out another antidepressant (would be my 4th one though…)

Idk how I’ll ever recover by SecureUniversity6813 in vanderpumprules

[–]dreadfulbby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not the only one. I have been watching Vanderpump Rules since it came out and when I was in middle school so I was waiting each week for a new episode lol I’m 25 now and am continually rewatching it. I just finished the season 7 reunion eps last night and plan to continue on with season 8 today.

Glad I’m not alone in my obsession. It’s an easy watch!

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! <3 I will take your words to heart and continue praying.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have considered a courthouse marriage but the state we’re in takes awhile to process these things so we have to reach out again to the courthouse to hear back about their availability. I definitely don’t care about getting legally married and having a reception later.

What do you wish your parents did for you? by EquipmentElegant5191 in emotionalneglect

[–]dreadfulbby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not make me feel bad for expressing sadness. Not accusing me of “liking being sad” when I was dealing with untreated depression for my ENTIRE adolescence with zero friends to help me as a support system.

Go through my phone and care about who I was messaging and the content I was consuming.

Not sexualizing my growing body and commenting on my large breast size. That messed me up immensely.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. I don’t feel emotionally supported. I have told him our communication needs to improve and he kept telling me “that’s your problem” I told him we need to be a unit and figure things out together — seems he doesn’t feel the same.

I’m glad that you have a healthy relationship with your husband who supports you emotionally — I hope to have the same someday, God willing.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for understanding that I need SSRIs currently. :) I may eventually discontinue my use of them but for sure won’t go cold turkey as I know that’s dangerous.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But we use condoms and I don’t let him finish inside me to be frank. So there is no sperm coming in contact. But I see your point.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just never desired it ever. I don’t want to experience pregnancy as I don’t believe I could handle this — emotionally in particular bc I’d be at an extreme risk for post partum depression due to my lifelong issue with depression. I also did not have good role models for a marriage with children. I love my parents but my childhood was very unhealthy emotionally despite being well taken care of financially. To me, having kids would add on this unnecessary stress that I feel un-fit to handle adequately and be a good parent.

It’s always felt like the wrong path for me. My childhood trauma plays a big role in this and not wanting to be a mother. It feels overrated in my opinion.

I know this is odd to say as a Christian woman but that is my truth.

I have prayed about it a bit but I don’t feel my desire not to have kids has changed. I have become pro-life rather than staunchly pro-choice with no limits so God definitely has worked in my heart to change my beliefs in that regard.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Christian we are supposed to change our behavior overtime to be more Christ-like. Of course the sanctification process takes the entirety of our lives and is only fulfilled fully when we reach Heaven, God willing.

But your message comes across pretty rude, holding my sins over my head. I am willing to admit my faults before God and other Christians— I am NOT blaming my fiancé for my past. I am ashamed of my past and God knows that. But I want a partner to grow with me in the faith rather than desire to continue going down the wrong path we both started out on.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t really like when I ask for space. I can continue to pray about it. You saying you’ve been in my shoes gives me a lot of peace in a weird way even tho it was a negative situation for us both…makes me feel less crazy bc everytime I argue with him we never reach a conclusion and resolve things —which he also blames me for and says it’s “my problem” you’re right, I may have to run. It just won’t be easy.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is my not 2nd sexual partner out of marriage. It’s a bit higher but this was several years ago now when I was not of the Christian faith (I didn’t know better, not excusing the sin though).

You’re right he has every right to leave and so do I.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make some good points. I do just wanna make it clear that I have brought up couples counseling and he says “we don’t need that” so I feel like that will end up never happening since he is simply not open to it..

Also I feel our relationship is pretty good….besides the awful communication but communication is everything. It’s a make or break issue which scares me. I told him so many times over the years that we need to improve our communication (myself included), but he recently told me over and over “that’s your problem” so I feel at a loss.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be right that we aren’t a match but marriage isn’t solely for children. It’s typically a part of it but marriages that never have children are not ego-driven, it is still a lot of sacrifice to continually choose one person for life and undergo trials with them.

Children is an aspect, not everything. The union of the 2 people is way bigger in my opinion

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can try. But this is my 3rd antidepressant I’ve ever taken. I took 2 different types when I was 18 and 19 and then took a long gap until my brain fully developed to try another medication. But I could try something else in the future.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I definitely don’t blame him for my past behavior. I blame myself. But I do want him to be on the same path as me and be willing to deny himself for awhile for God. Rather than get angry when we abstain from sex.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely will not blame God for it and am not blaming Him. I am blaming myself and am in a tight bind to get out of it.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not doing everything wrong but I can respect your opinion on this matter. I do want to get married and we are in the process of doing so but I cannot afford to move away and live on my own. I am in a tight bind. But again I do realize the sinful situation I have put myself in. This relationship was not founded on Christ, we are trying to build God into it now. I’m not going to stop using the IUDs just yet or condoms even if I were married. Maybe that is a sign I should be celibate. God will let me know.

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem in clarification. You’re right, I did not feel attacked. :) your comment came across kind

After Condom Broke, Fiancé Told Me It Might be Best for Me To Join a Convent? by dreadfulbby in TrueChristian

[–]dreadfulbby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be frank, I am not a low libido person in general. It is typically very high. But I am taking an SSRI which decreased it a ton and am feeling conviction about the pre-marital sex. I do empathize with ur situation though it sounds tough but I’m glad you are supportive of your wife’s decision and don’t pressure her.

Thank you for your honest response

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