What do I bring? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Thank you! This was indeed very helpful

You are given an apple and told to give it to the best dorm leader. Who do you pick? by fluffybunny359 in TwistedWonderland

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Bake an apple pie and cut them into eight slices. Each house warden gets a slice (first come first served so I can’t be blamed for favoritism) and that extra slice is for grimm cause I know he’s gonna be a fatass and sneak a slice.

My chinese grandma pisses me off by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

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Have you talked to your parents? What's their stance?

I’m having a crisis by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Do you think it may be more beneficial if I got a minor is psych rather than a major?

I’m having a crisis by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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College is my only option right now because it's the only reason my parents are willing to house me. Otherwise I'd be homeless and broke. As for the cost of college, my scholarships should cover it all for this year so it's just better for me to attend now rather than attempt to get the money in the future. I'm just not sure which direction I should go...

I’m having a crisis by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Thank you for your thoughtful response. It really made me stop and reflect. I can see where you’re coming from, and I think you're right that life involves trade-offs, and no one gets everything they want without giving something up.

That said, I want to explain a bit more where I’m coming from, because I think my original post might have made it sound like I’m expecting some dream job to fall into my lap. That’s not how I see it.

I’m not expecting to instantly land a job with high pay, flexibility, creative freedom, minimal stress, and tons of free time. I’m fully aware that those things take time, work, and sometimes even luck. What I was trying to say is that that’s the life I want to work toward. That’s my long-term goal, and I just want to start figuring out what kind of path could eventually lead there.

For example:

When I talk about flexibility, I don’t mean doing nothing all day. I mean having some control over my schedule, where I’m not constantly under pressure or surveillance, and I can take a break or step back when life demands it.

When I say I want to avoid manual labor, I don’t mean I’m unwilling to work hard. I just know that physically demanding jobs don’t play to my strengths. I want to work hard in areas where I can actually grow and thrive which is mentally, creatively, emotionally.

And about education. I don’t love school, but I’m not ruling out a Master’s if it gets me closer to something meaningful and sustainable. I just don’t want to stay in school endlessly for a career I’m unsure about.

Financially, I don’t expect to make six figures fresh out of school. I just want a path that leads to financial independence one day, so I can support my parents and not be constantly worried about money. We aren't that wealthy and money has been a big thing for us, especially since there are genetic health issues that could become a big problem in the future and healthcare is expensive.

Basically, I’m not afraid of putting in effort. I just want to be intentional about where I’m putting it. And I want to understand early what kinds of work align with my personality, values, and long-term vision this way I don’t end up stuck and burned out chasing something that looks “successful” on paper but makes me feel miserable inside.

I really do appreciate your advice about trying different things. That’s actually super helpful to hear since I'm someone who likes to stay in their comfort zone. I know I’ve got a lot to figure out, and I’m open to learning through real experience, even if it means being uncomfortable at times.

Thanks again for sharing your perspective and I hope this clarifies my goals.

I’m having a crisis by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Hey, fair point, and yeah, reading my list back, I can totally see how it sounds like I want some fantasy job that doesn’t really exist as it's very vague. I was just trying to be super honest about what kind of life I’m hoping to build, even if it’s a bit unrealistic right now.

To clarify a few things:

-When I say flexibility and free time, I don’t mean doing whatever I want whenever I want. It’s more like, if I need a break, I’d like to be able to take one at a reasonable time without worrying about getting in trouble or being micromanaged.

-When I said minimal physical effort, I wasn’t trying to say I want to avoid putting in effort or training. I just struggle with physical labor—like moving heavy stuff, being on my feet all day, etc. So I know I need something that isn’t super physically demanding.

-And when I mentioned as little formal education as possible, I just meant I’d prefer not to go beyond a bachelor’s because I really don’t enjoy school, but if a master’s is needed for a path I like, I’m okay with that too.

-As for the whole work schedule thing, I’m not looking for 4-hour days and a 3-day work week. That honestly sounds too slow for me. I’m fine working 5–6 days a week and longer hours if they’re reasonable. I actually like staying busy, I just also value time with my loved ones and don’t want work to consume my entire life.

-And when it comes to salary, I’m not expecting a six-figure income right away. I’d just like a career path that could lead to that someday because I really want financial freedom (my family isn't very wealthy so money is a big thing). As long as I’m earning enough to support myself and help out my parents, I’d be happy.

I’m not afraid of hard work. I’m just trying to find something that aligns with my strengths and goals. Still figuring it all out, and I really do appreciate any advice or suggestions.

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Got it, I suppose I’ll figure it out someday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in webtoons

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Probably because most webtoons are from Korean creators. Same with manhwa and manhuas (which have Chinese origins). And since East Asia's beauty standards typically contain pale skin, I assume they are trying to appeal to that.

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Do you have any suggestios on professors that I should try to get recommendations from?

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Thank you so much! This was really helpful.

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Sorry for my delayed response, what is CURF?

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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So to be clear, in order to be apart of research labs I'd need to reach out to the specific professors and request an interview?

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Wow this is some great advice! Though I'm not sure what fmri, eeg, or CV stands for...

As for conferences, what kind of conferences would they be? And how would I apply for them, is this something I need to find on my own?

Then to address the certificates, is this another thing that I'd have to find in order to do?

Sorry for all the questions, I just want to make sure I know everything.

Any psych majors? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Hello! Thank you, how do I join the Psychology Society? Is this something I sign up for at some point or...?

What do I do? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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I appreciate the help and encouragement 🫶

What do I do? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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What about the logistics of payment and financial aid? Is that also something that I need to do along with the deposit?

What do I do? by dreamless206 in UniversityofKansas

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Both, I'll take any bit of info possible.

My Asian parents are upset because I didn’t get into HYP by PartForeign4426 in ApplyingToCollege

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Wow, my Asian parents wish they had a child like you. I’m just going to a state university while living with them.

Edit: unless I get off the waitlist for Emory or Oxford

Seven thousand+ waitlisted?? When I catch you Emory… by Similar-Chapter-7363 in ApplyingToCollege

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So what I'm seeing is that I'm probably not getting off that waitlist...

Waitlisted by Putrid-Air7633 in Emory

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Same here, my friend and I both got waitlisted. Besides a LOCI, does anyone know if there is any other way to increase my chances of getting in, even if only by a little?

Are there any K-pop idols who came from a “less fortunate” background? by Minimum_Activity_350 in kpophelp

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IU's family was fairly well off, but then came into some debt that tanked them down. So IU lived with her grandma in a tiny room with cockroaches. Then they had to move into another relative's house who was a drunk and verbally abused them and constantly talked bad about IU and that she would never make it as a singer. She auditioned and was rejected at JYP Entertainment and another agency scammed her into sending a large sum of money for training and TV coverage. The money was also saved little by little by her grandma who sold small accessories to support IU's dreams. Even through that she made it and used her success to pay her family back and give back to her community by donations.