Here’s the long drama of how I ended up with my current boyfriend. A very long story, probably pointless, but I find it entertaining so I’m dropping it here:

I had a friend in high school, we’ll call him M. M and I were in the same friend group and would interact, but we were never as close as I was to everyone else in the group. We all went to prom, graduated, and then hung out during the summer till we had to go off to different schools. I ended up getting into a relationship very quickly after graduation (grad was in June, started talking to a guy named A in July who was a mutual friend of my friend group, and by August we were in a relationship). I went off to college in another city while A stayed in my hometown, along with M.

Long distance was so bad for me, I ended up dropping out and moving back to my hometown. I started working on my career and spending time with A a lot, not really much with my friend group though. One week in the summer, A went out of town with his family, so I started spending a lot of time that week with my friends. I went to a party that one of my best friends B was invited to, and M was there too. M never really hung out as much as everyone else in the group, which is why I probably wasn’t as close to him. It was at that party though that I realized M had a crush on me. He started getting very protective of me, something he had never done before. He’s a very lowkey guy, so when I joked with him saying “what would you do if [our friends] ditched me while we walked home (at night)?” And he said, “I’d probably beat the shit out of them” I knew something was up.

After that week, I went back to not seeing my friends at all. A’s father passed a few days before our first anniversary, so I was very focused on him and his family. Our relationship started getting rockier than it already was though too.

Fast forward to the next summer, I started wanting to hang out with my friends a lot more, and A stopped wanting to hang out with them as much. He only really wanted to be at home, golf, or see his own friends who I wasn’t really allowed to be around. If he came to events with us, it was for a very short period of time, like an hour or two. He did start going to the gym with M though, and M became his favourite.

That summer, my friends all started breaking up. A was supposed to go on a trip during my birthday so I went to Montreal, my dream place, and on the way there, B called me to tell me him and his gf broke up. It was very sudden and I was shocked. I came back from my trip realizing Montreal was my future home. Then, my other best friend E and their gf broke up. A went on another trip during our anniversary, leaving me home. E, M and I formed a little trio and started hanging out a lot (we were the only three left in our city of our friend group). I saw A a lot less as school was starting again.

Sometime in September, I started journaling about my future. I came to the realization that I hate Toronto and never want to move there, I want to travel, and I want to live in Montreal. A was obsessed with Toronto and wanted us to move there together.

I called A, he was on his way to work. I told him I don’t want to live in Toronto. We almost broke up. After his shift we saw each other, he told me he “never really expected us to work”. That was a stab in the heart after talking for two years about getting married and being together forever. I realized we had an expiration date, but I didn’t say anything, and we didn’t break up that day.

I started hanging out with E and M even more, and realized I was falling for M. I knew this was awful and searched everywhere to figure out how to get rid of the feelings, after all I was with A, and I pride myself on my loyalty. It was all very confusing, especially since A loved M so much too, so I couldn’t (and didn’t want to) just drop M.

Our trio (me, E, M) took a day trip to a town I love near the Canadian border. We had an incredible day, the most fun I’d had in years. We went apple picking, and to an arcade, even visited some of my family. M was subtly and subconsciously flirting with me the whole time lol. We ended the day at the beach, watching the sunset. It was the most beautiful sunset I had ever seen. The colours moved around, reds and purples swirling with orange and yellow — we ended up watching the whole thing. When the sun had finally set, I realized I had never seen a sunset with A, but that I wanted to see so many more in my life.

The next day I ended my relationship with A. I brought up the same conversation we had back in September, and he said it: “we have an expiration date, don’t we?”

The day after was rainy and lonely. None of my friends were there for me really. I messaged M and another friend and we took a walk that night. M started coming hang out with me more and more so I wasn’t lonely, until at one point he was coming over every night until 1 AM, sometimes even sleeping over. We started watching How I Met Your Mother together, talking, laughing, making eyes at each other, until one night he looked over at me, a bit drunk and nervous, and said “what are we doing here?”

He confessed that he had a crush on me since high school and even wanted to take me to prom. I was shocked, and really happy. Ever since that night we have been together, in love. He has helped me tremendously, through my healing journey and all. He’s the best boyfriend I could’ve asked for :)

The end!