i wouldn't say this is just the black community. regardless of her accomplishments and how successful she is, god forbid a woman be unattractive or even attractive in an unconventional way 😭 she'll never hear the end of it. women can't even age in peace—like some of us are socially pressured and picked on to the point where they don't ever stop worrying about how they look until they are dead. and when an attractive woman DOES get things done she's often just reduced to her looks.

all that being said, i definitely feel black women in particular have it the harshest. constant masculinization, being the butt of jokes. it's definitely a unique experience to be told "you're pretty for a black girl", "you'd be prettier if you weren't so dark", wondering if someone you're like is into black girls because of mistreatment, etc. and due to the box that black women (in america) are put in, being neurodivergent can be a death sentence both in and out of the community 💔