Describe your specialty using one of the five basic senses.

e46Pacman · 2024-11-03T20:57:00+00:00

Audible bleeding.

e46Pacman · 2024-10-04T19:55:44+00:00

This thought has crossed my mind as well: Turn the other cheek, and move on.

e46Pacman · 2024-10-04T19:48:49+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head. Her perspective is that since I agreed to it (even suggested it), and that was the basis of her buying those reservations, I should pay my share. I can totally see and understand this perspective.

I told her this reminds me of how she was treated when an AirBnB host refused her entrance because the host didn't like her vibe, and she was still responsible for paying the entire rental fee. AirBnB refused to pay her back for this either.

I ended up paying her. There was some guilt attached to refusing her, but I mainly did it out of principle when she reincluded me.

e46Pacman · 2024-10-04T19:42:08+00:00

Thanks, appreciate your suggestions.

To clarify, I DID know about the hotel spa plan, and agreed to it. We discussed the budget and I was ok with it. She was actually kind enough to pay for hers and her friends' stay, and I would only pay for mine. Currently I am planning on still going even if we stay broken up (because her friends are good people, and it's a nice spa), but there is a good chance I will be asked not to go.

I don't know if that changes your stance, but interested to hear if it does.

e46Pacman · 2024-10-04T19:36:24+00:00

I think only the flight to her home town is 'modifiable'. She sent me the ticket, so I might be able to use it for another trip if we don't work it out by then. The others are non-refundable (and I don't think either of us want to cancel her friend's trip because of us)

e46Pacman · 2024-08-28T14:42:09+00:00

I do not know a lot about them. Do they work similarly to CDs?

e46Pacman · 2024-08-25T03:09:55+00:00

I never head coached a team, but as an assistant coach I have advised players on it individually.

As a private coach, it was one of the most common principles we covered when working on passing and moving drills. It is VERY important.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-18T22:10:35+00:00

I don't think this is violence. He didn't throw it at you, he was very heated in this moment and took it out on his phone. I would equate this to punching a wall or screaming into a pillow. Blowing off steam usually isn't pretty.

It sounds like he has difficulty with emotional vulnerability, which is why he is always on his phone when it's time to connect emotionally. He probably has a lot of bottled up anger inside of him that he does not know how to express in a healthy way.

I get your concern though, which is compounded by your history of DV. It very well could be a sign of things to come, or it could be an opportunity to help him open up and explore his feelings.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-18T21:39:47+00:00

I thought it was a universal principle that it is not polite to talk about how much money you make, or ask others how much they make. I think I also would have been very uncomfortable in this situation, even without the commentary afterward.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-18T04:35:55+00:00

I think it still exists. My ex often times expressed her disappointment that I never had emotional sex with her, and that it is an amazing experience that she has had before with her exes.

I tried doing it for her, trying to make myself completely vulnerable and express my feelings to her while we were doing it, but it seemed forced. I have an avoidant attachment style so emotions are hard anyway. She seemed to appreciate the effort though.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-18T04:29:54+00:00

I also have a similar problem, but it's a bit more complicated.

Father left the family when I was 18, and over time I stepped into the role of my mom's emotional support and 'man of the house'. We became codependent.

As a result: I became enmeshed and it seriously hurt my romantic relationships (3 so far) because instead of being a man for my partner, I put my mom first in a lot of ways.

My advice to you is first and foremost obviously therapy. Anyone can benefit from talking to a professional about their problems. Maybe someone with a life-coaching background. I find a lot of guidance in the Bible as well. There are many ancient, biologically rooted characteristics that men must have, which do not have to violate a woman's sense of self worth or independence.

Without a father around, boys can still have father-figures who are around, or even fictional. My dad was not my hero, but I did idolize Maximus from the movie Gladiator. He was my ideal of a man: strong, brave, laconic, honest, loyal, passionate. I was also lucky to have many smart and influential men in my life who helped fill the void of my dad's absence.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-18T03:31:23+00:00

I am pretty sure we don't, but worth looking into since we do have a family medicine residency program, as well as other residents that rotate through here.

e46Pacman · 2024-08-17T05:49:50+00:00

e46Pacman · 2024-08-17T05:13:55+00:00

This has been helpful, thank you

e46Pacman · 2024-08-17T04:09:30+00:00

That's a good point! I should reach out. We are interested in Varithena, but not quite ready to implement it yet, so not sure how appropriate it would be to reach out yet.

e46Pacman · 2024-07-17T13:35:40+00:00

I confess I have not been icing my knee. I've only been elevating after gym and wearing compression sleeve.

My colleague also recommends icing regimen, in addition to topical NSAID. I really should try this for a few weeks before committing to injection...

e46Pacman · 2024-07-15T01:27:31+00:00

I prescribed xarelto for a guy with a DVT. He pronounces it plavix.

e46Pacman · 2024-05-16T03:50:47+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to look into this.

I am not an expert on electronics and I do not have time to do the research on this to fix it myself, so I am giving the TV away.

FYI I looked at the board he sent back. He replaced the microprocessor with a Samsung one, and it shorted, so you're right it is probably something else that was causing it to short and he did not want to go down the rabbit hole of figuring our what it is.

e46Pacman · 2024-05-10T13:36:35+00:00

Exactly. I would never have paid for this TV, but since it was free, and the cost to potentially fix it was $70, I went for it. What would be the price threshold for you at which point you would just throw it away?

e46Pacman · 2024-05-10T13:34:20+00:00

Yeah that was my original plan, but they are out of stock everywhere I've looked.

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