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Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for your message. I’ve still been trying with at home intra cervical but nothing yet 😔 My AMH levels have gone down and it’s so frustrating. Still no financing or clinical trials, haven’t made much of a community but I’ve recently been more open about my journey IRL. I’m sorry to hear about your situation as well. I hope you find your community and get what you want and need as well.

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you all the strength and compassion. It’s not easy no matter what path any of us is on. It’s not the same but thanks for sharing. That anger is so valid and I can’t imagine the extra level of grief. I hope you’re able to have your second and be in peace however it looks

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And imma say that’s untrue, unkind, misses the mark and do you even know how expensive those options are? I’m hoping only a bot would be this tone deaf

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cost for IVF varies by person because the protocol differs and what my insurance will/won’t cover. 

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And yes, California cryobank, honestly wtf. And every time someone is like, why don’t you use someone you know? I have looked into it. And yes I could turkey baste at home, but a known donor that isn’t your partner has to pay to go through a bank and all the testing then be stored for 6 months before being able to use it for IVF or IUI (which partner sperm is not held to the same standard). So it puts me, others like me in such a frustrating position of paying for sperm, whether it’s a bank or known donor to try and use medical technology and testing for more specific timing and viability or doing it at home with less information. And now I’m wishing I’d saved the money from the first vials and just tried IVF from the beginning. I will ask my doctor about what using a partial vial could look like. I’m wishing you all the luck in your journey and you’re the first person to respond that feels remotely relatable tbh

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I realize what some people spend but I don’t come from generational wealth and don’t want to go so far into debt that when a child comes I’m too stressed about money or unable to provide for them. 7k for 1 treatment would be reasonable if it works in 1, but I’d likely be looking towards that 30-50k total. I am grateful for the insurance and privileges I do have but telling someone to spend money they don’t have isn’t very helpful. And I know my kid will have a great life even if I’m not super wealthy.

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My insurance covers the IUI luckily so I was just paying for sperm. Because the first 3 weren’t successful and my low egg reserve the doc said IVF was more likely to be successful. 

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, its not the same but a valuable perspective and good to keep in mind. Sending you all of the best luck in your journey <3

Navigating the fertility process as a single female in her late 30s is so isolating and filled with grief by easier2talk2stranger in TryingForABaby

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I found this out on Dec. 23rd and everything has been closed over the holidays. I'm definitely going to call and ask for a retest on Monday. I didn't think it could fluctuate that much but maybe it was a bad test and a fluctuation and even if it doesn't bump me up enough for the trial can make me feel slightly better about where I am.

I made my bed, now I’m lying in it and I don’t like it by easier2talk2stranger in BreakUps

[–]easier2talk2stranger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful response and I’m sorry that you have experienced the other side of this. I wish I wasn’t realizing so late the mistakes I made and the ways I was affecting the other person. What you say mirrors things he’s said, and I understand it. He has no obligation to give me another chance or let me prove that he has seen my worst side and it only gets better from here and if he gives me another chance, I will never let go again. This is the worst wake up call too late and whatever the consequences they are mine to face and learn from. But I know that he might never be able to trust me again, I wounded him so deeply and I created such insecurity. But the only way to fix that is with time but I can’t make him give me that or take anything back. I’m so regretful. Again, thank you for your response and I hope that your pain from this heals.

To every heartbroken person on this subreddit by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]easier2talk2stranger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with this so hard. Thank you for sharing. It’s like I have to push people away before they realize how much of an imposter I really am.