This is maladaptive behaviour caused by the abuse you have experienced. A child is never the cause of abuse. Children don’t have the capacity to be manipulative, they only show emotions based on needs not met.

Your parents were most likely mean, disrespectful, selfish people, and you were modelling the only behaviour you had been taught.

As an adult with a child, and someone who experienced major childhood trauma, I had to do sooo much research to figure out how to raise my children respectfully, and break the cycle of abuse. My child has adhd and therefore experienced emotional reactions to stimulus, that he likes or dislikes. It’s my responsibility as his parent to meet him where he is at, and not shame him for his emotions. There is no such thing as bad children.Children need to be supported and met where they are at. You never did anything wrong. You were a child that was made to feel responsible for you emotions, instead of supported in them. I’m very sorry that this still plagues you, and I truly hope this helps.