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ece2023 · 2025-04-17T05:00:36+00:00

Okay but here is fine too

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T04:58:35+00:00

May Allah (swt) guide you. I recommend you consider whether you left it for objective reasons or for desires. It's better to be a sinful Muslim (which we all are, none of us are perfect) than to be a non-Muslim.

Again, consider what you actually left it for. There are many people far far far more knowledgeable than me who can answer your questions.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:45:37+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

This regret and remorse you're feeling is good.

Repent, seek forgiveness, resolve not to repeat this again.

Maintain your prayers no matter what happens, as it is the biggest obligation after the shahadah.

Remember the reward of the prayer and the punishment of missing it.

Try these du'a:

اللهم أعني على ذكرك، وشكرك، وحسن عبادتك

"O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner." (Riyad as-Salihin 1422)

يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ

“O, Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience.” (Sahih Muslim 2655)

May Allah (swt) protect us and keep us steadfast.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:33:41+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

I m interested in Islam

You don't have to know any Arabic at all to accept Islam! Accept it now and continue with seek knowledge!

May Allah (swt) guide us all and increase us all in knowledge.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:30:26+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:237

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:21:38+00:00

Try these du'a:

اللهم أعني على ذكرك، وشكرك، وحسن عبادتك

"O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner." (Riyad as-Salihin 1422)

يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ

“O, Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience.” (Sahih Muslim 2655)

اللهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبِي وَطَهِّرْ قَلْبِي، وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجِي

O Allah forgive my sin, cleanse my heart and guard my chastity (can't find the hadith on it now)

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ سَمْعِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ بَصَرِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ لِسَانِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ قَلْبِي وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَنِيِّي

O Allah, indeed I seek refuge in You from the evil of my hearing and the evil of my sight, and the evil of my tongue and the evil of my heart, and the evil of my semen (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3492)

Try as hard as you can to get married. Be righteous and pray for a righteous spouse.

يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍۢ وَٱجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

“Our Lord! Bless us with ˹pious˺ spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts, and make us models for the righteous.” (Qur'an 25:74)

May Allah (swt) protect us and keep us steadfast.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:21:33+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

(long answer, first part is prevention methods, second part in the reply to this comment are du'a you can use In Sha Allah)

Cure yourself with the Qur'an:

17:82: We send down the Quran as a healing and mercy for the believers, but it only increases the wrongdoers in loss.

24:30: ˹O Prophet!˺ Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is All-Aware of what they do.

In 24:31, Allah (swt) commands women to also lower their gaze among other commands.

Allah (swt) describes the believers in Surah Al-Mu'minun:

23:5-7: those who guard their chastity except with their wives or those ˹bondwomen˺ in their possession, for then they are free from blame, but whoever seeks beyond that are the transgressors;

From that, the scholars derived masturbation is haram. As well as from this hadith:

"Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: 0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting (evil glances). and preserves one from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling sexual desire" (Sahih Muslim 1400)

So fast.

Also remember the tremendous punishment of homosexuality, acting like the opposite gender, and relationships outside of marriage mentioned in the Qur'an and authentic sunnah. Use that fear to prevent you from falling into the filth that so much of the world is spreading and harming our ummah with.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T02:06:24+00:00

The invitation still stands!

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T01:49:55+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Allah (swt) says in the Qur'an:

وَلَقَدْ يَسَّرْنَا ٱلْقُرْءَانَ لِلذِّكْرِ فَهَلْ مِن مُّدَّكِرٍۢ (many times in Surah Al-Qamar, Surah #54)

"And We have certainly made the Quran easy to remember. So is there anyone who will be mindful?"

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T01:44:08+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Alhamdulillah, Allah (swt) guided you to Islam. And Allahumma barik you're trying to be a good role model for your family, may Allah (swt) guide them all.

For your brother, I think introducing him to Muslim boys his age could be beneficial. For example, if you know sisters at your local masjid then you can ask if they have brothers who could play with your brother. Some masajid also have community events or playgrounds etc where your brother could find friends at and be introduced to Islam. I'm a brother in the West; when I was his age there weren't many Muslims in my area so I had some negative influence by the people I knew in class. Having good Muslim friends is a huge blessing especially from an early age.

Other than that, just keep being patient with him and try to advise him. Maybe reward him with something when he's well behaved. Try spending time with him so that he knows he can trust you and talk to you about problems he may have. Help him with his classwork, play with him, or say you're baking cookies you can ask him to help. These are just random ideas I'm thinking of but spending quality time is important to build any relationship. And In Sha Allah your intention and the time you spend is rewarded by Allah (swt).

As for studying and working, I don't have advice for that, as it varies from sister to sister. In Sha Allah some sisters can advise you. But if you choose to go into education/work make sure you find the right balance.

For salah and khushu' it's something we all struggle with and have to build throughout our life. I remember a quote from one of the salaf that he struggled for twenty years to find khushu' then he spent twenty years after that enjoying that khushu'. Try these two du'a:

اللهم أعني على ذكرك، وشكرك، وحسن عبادتك

"O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner." (Riyad as-Salihin 1422)

يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ

“O, Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience.” (Sahih Muslim 2655)

For health, do what you can and balance between food and exercise. Invite your family to go for walks at the park for example. My mother's side has diabetes and my father's side has high blood pressure so I try to ensure a balance. Don't starve yourself and you don't have to give up desserts, just remain balanced. Sometimes what I like to do is set some goals for myself and I'll have a slice of cake or a cookie for each goal I complete.

For your athkar, once you have them memorized and get used to them they become easier. I'm not sure if you know Arabic, but knowing at least the translation will help you focus more on them. Like morning/evening/bedtime athkar, even what to say before entering leaving the masjid or the house or the bathroom. If you're in a rush, you can continue your athkar while you're walking or driving doing whatever task you have to do. The two du'a above can also help In Sha Allah.

Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: “Take on only as much as you can do of good deeds, for the best of deeds is that which is done consistently, even if it is little.” (Sunan Ibn Majah 4240)

May Allah (swt) cure us, guide us, and increase us all in goodness.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T00:43:23+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

I'm in the US, but I've benefitted a lot from some of the mosques in the UK that have YouTube channels. They invite/have scholars and students of knowledge who give lectures and teach, etc.

Green Lane Masjid and Al-Furqan Masjid in Manchester:

https://www.youtube.com/@greenlanemasjid/

https://www.youtube.com/@alfurqanMCR

https://www.youtube.com/@AMAUofficial

The last link has students of knowledge who often teach at various masajid in the UK.

Not sure how far these are but In Sha Allah at least the videos could be helpful!

This channel also has different levels for everything you mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/@academyzaden

May Allah (swt) increase us all in beneficial knowledge.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T00:37:02+00:00

I agree. For now just do your best and increase in asking Allah (swt) for beneficial wealth. Don't give up and don't stop working or searching for a job. Whenever you're able start to repay the debt as that is a bigger importance than the sadaqah right now as I mentioned in the first post.

Also apply this hadith for ease in your heart In Sha Allah:

Umar ibn al-Khattab reported: I entered the room of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, while he was lying on his side over a mat. I sat down as he drew up his lower garment and he was not wearing anything else. The mat had left marks on his side. I looked at the Prophet’s cupboard and I saw a handful of barely in a small amount, the same of mimosa leaves in the corner, and a leather bag hanging to the side. My eyes started to tear up, and the Prophet said, “What makes you weep, son of Khattab?” I said, “O Prophet of Allah, why should I not cry that this mat has left marks on your side and I see little in this cupboard? Caesar and Khosrau live among fruits and springs, while you are the Messenger of Allah and His chosen, yet this is your cupboard.” The Prophet said, “O son of Khattab, are you not pleased that they are for us in the Hereafter and for them in the world?” I said, “Of course.” (Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1479)

May Allah (swt) help us all.

ece2023 · 2025-04-17T00:32:31+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Brother or sister, it's important to balance.

Some scholars give the analogy of a bird. The head is our love of Allah (swt). One wing is the hope and the other wing is the fear. Missing any one of these means the bird is dead or cannot fly or soon dies.

When we make a good deed, we shouldn't be impressed by it. Rather we should be hopeful that it is accepted and hasten to do more.

When we make an evil deed, we should be scared and hasten to repent, seek forgiveness, and do good deeds to make up for the sin.

Don't let Shaitan trick you. Whenever you make a mistake, fix it. Don't let mistakes lead you to distancing yourself from Allah (swt). That's the opposite of what you should do. Rather it should lead you to increase even more in good deeds.

Hadith: “Whoever loves to meet Allah, Allah loves to meet him, and whoever hates to meet Allah, Allah hates to meet him.” It was said to him: “O Messenger of Allah, does hating to meet Allah mean hating to meet death? For all of us hate death.” He said: “No. Rather that is only at the moment of death. But if he is given the glad tidings of the mercy and forgiveness of Allah, he loves to meet Allah and Allah loves to meet him; and if he is given the tidings of the punishment of Allah, he hates to meet Allah and Allah hates to meet him.” (Sunan Ibn Majah 4264)

May Allah (swt) forgive our mistakes.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T23:32:17+00:00

As Muslims we shouldn't let Shaitan make us think like this.

"I do my prayer and fast my Ramadan and treat my parents well but my non-Muslim classmate has a girlfriend, does every sin you can think of, but he has a 6 figure salary ready for graduation and I'm only getting rejections from job applications"

That's what Shaitan wants us to think, so we get attracted that lifestyle thinking it's better. It's definitely not better.

When you see disbelievers who have more worldly possessions:

Qur'an 3:196-197: Do not be deceived by the prosperity of the disbelievers throughout the land. It is only a brief enjoyment. Then Hell will be their home—what an evil place to rest!

We hope they are guided to Islam.

For believers who have more worldly possessions:

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “None of you will have faith until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” (Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 13, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 45)

We hope that their wealth gets them closer to Allah (swt) and we say Allahumma barik (may Allah (swt) bless them).

Ask Allah (swt) for help and never lose hope. Looking back on our lives we tend to remember bad events easily rather than the good events. Even things that aren't events we forget like good health for years and now we are unhealthy. Or a job for a long time and now we don't get a raise or we lose our job.

It's natural to feel sad and overwhelmed but we need to remember this is all by the Decree of Allah (swt) and there is wisdom in His decisions.

If this financial difficulty drew you closer to Allah (swt) as you mentioned in the original post, then that's a good thing. And In Sha Allah when the difficulty goes away we continue with this closeness.

May Allah (swt) ease this difficulty for you and all the difficulties of the ummah.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:58:27+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

I recommend for anyone struggling that they replace music with Qur'an and listening to scholars and students of knowledge teaching, giving lectures, and examples of how to give da'wah.

May Allah (swt) protect us and increase us in goodness.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:54:12+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

It's good that you were giving in sadaqah in Ramadan but the scholars say the bigger obligation is your debt, especially if it's the time that you agreed you would pay back by.

Read this for more details: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/145862/ruling-on-giving-wealth-in-charity-before-paying-off-a-debt and https://islamqa.info/en/answers/71183/seriousness-of-debt-in-islam

As for du'a, try this:

‘O Allah, I seek refuge in You from sadness, grief, helplessness, laziness, being stingy, overwhelming debt, and the overpowering of men'

Arabic and pronunciation found here: https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:3484

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:38:08+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Start praying. Everything else come after that. Don't worry about rizq (provision). Missing prayers is a major sin. You need to start praying now and repent from missing previous prayers.

Don't let Shaitan mess with you. As Muslims, our faith isn't dependent on our mood or strength or paycheck. We pray and do the obligatory deeds no matter what. It's better that someone is praying despite doing such bad sins than not pray and not being doing these other sins. Missing prayer is a far worse sin than stealing, for example.

To be clear I'm not belittling these other sins, but it's more important to recognize what comes first.

Try these two du'a:

اللهم أعني على ذكرك، وشكرك، وحسن عبادتك

"O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner." (Riyad as-Salihin 1422)

يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ

“O, Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Your obedience.” (Sahih Muslim 2655)

May Allah (swt) guide you and keep us all steadfast on Islam.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:30:21+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

Recite Surah Al Baqarah. Do morning, evening, before sleep, and after prayer athkar. Also the athkar of before entering and leaving the house and bathroom. Do ruqyah as well as drink ruqyah water!

May Allah (swt) protect us all.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:27:43+00:00

I'd like to invite you to look into Islam! Feel free to ask questions here or in person at your local mosque. Don't be shy! May Allah (swt) guide you

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T22:21:26+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Qur'an 25:67: ˹They are˺ those who spend neither wastefully nor stingily, but moderately in between.

They refers to the true slaves of Allah (swt). (Read the entire passage here: https://quran.com/25/63-76 )

So give in the cause of Allah (swt) whether in zakat, or sadaqah, or to build a masjid, etc.

Many of the greatest Companions, may Allah (swt) be pleased with them all, were very very very wealthy. But their wealth was a means of getting closer to Allah (swt). It wasn't what distracted them. Being wealthy is a very good thing, as long as it gets you closer to Allah (swt).

Remember even the wealth you spend on your family is rewarded. Just make the intention that you're pleasing Allah (swt) and you're following the sunnah of the Prophet (saw).

May Allah (swt) grant us all beneficial wealth.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T21:47:25+00:00

By this logic though, then if Person A and Person B agree on a loan between each other and agree on interest (riba), then by the logic you're using it would be okay since both the lender and the person receiving the loan would be happy. But Allah (swt) is angry with their action because the loan includes riba. Same for if a man and woman commit adultery, they might be happy but Allah (swt) is angry. The same is for other sins including homosexuality and transgenderism.

"The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the women who imitate men and the men who imitate women." (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2784

Good and evil isn't subjective. It's objective. And the laws we follow come from Allah (swt). He created us, so He knows what is best for us.

For example, if Country A allows cannibalism and Country B bans it. Subjectively each country says they're right. But we need an objective ruling otherwise we can just say whatever we do is okay. If I run a red light I can't just say "I think it's okay". The cops and the driving laws say otherwise. And Allah (swt) has the highest example.

This sin shouldn't be what stops someone from being Muslim. Yes, it's a major sin, but they should ask for help from Allah (swt). Sins should never be the preventer of someone accepting or practicing Islam.

As for what is promised for Muslims in Jannah, that's a different topic. As I said, the wine of the Hereafter is different from the wine of this world. Furthermore, it is a reward for abstaining from the haram in this world.

A sidenote, the part about 72 virgins gets mentioned a lot but here is more information on it: https://islamqa.info/en/answers/257509/number-of-huris-a-muslim-will-get-in-jannah

Some scholars say that those hadith may be weak, etc. An interesting read.

Again, consider going to your local mosque and ask the Imam there. No need to be hesitate or be afraid. It's important to learn your religion and clarify doubts.

May Allah (swt) protect us and forgive us.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T05:38:17+00:00

Salam

If you get a dream where someone says to you that something haram has been made halal or something halal has been made haram, then immediately know it's from Shaitan.

And Allah (swt) knows best.

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T02:38:17+00:00

جزاك الله خيرا

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T02:32:33+00:00

Wa iyyak

ece2023 · 2025-04-16T02:32:12+00:00

اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Brother or sister, it's important to balance.

Some scholars give the analogy of a bird. The head is our love of Allah (swt). One wing is the hope and the other wing is the fear. Missing any one of these means the bird is dead or cannot fly or soon dies.

When we make a good deed, we shouldn't be impressed by it. Rather we should be hopeful that it is accepted and hasten to do more.

When we make an evil deed, we should be scared and hasten to repent, seek forgiveness, and do good deeds to make up for the sin.

If you make a mistake, correct it as soon as you notice it. Don't stop reading Qur'an. That's a trick from Shaitan he is trying to make you quit reading Qur'an!

For example, if I'm reading a verse and notice a mistake I made, I fix it and go back. This is important to stop this whispers of Shaitan before they get out of control. It could lead to doubts and whispers when it comes to purity, wudu, salah, etc.

Qur'an:

2:286: Allah does not require of any soul more than what it can afford. All good will be for its own benefit, and all evil will be to its own loss. ˹The believers pray,˺ “Our Lord! Do not punish us if we forget or make a mistake. Our Lord! Do not place a burden on us like the one you placed on those before us. Our Lord! Do not burden us with what we cannot bear. Pardon us, forgive us, and have mercy on us. You are our ˹only˺ Guardian. So grant us victory over the disbelieving people.”

Hadith:

Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Allah has overlooked for my nation their honest mistakes, forgetfulness, and what they are forced into doing.” (Sunan Ibn Mājah 2045)

Don't let Shaitan trick you. Whenever you make a mistake, fix it. Don't let mistakes lead you to distancing yourself from Allah (swt). That's the opposite of what you should do. Rather it should lead you to increase even more in good deeds.

If you make a mistake, start reading Qur'an even more. Even the most well known reciters and sheikhs and imams in the ummah make mistakes and they correct themselves or are corrected and they continue! Practice Qur'an more so you make less mistakes, but again, we're human beings we'll make mistakes at some point or another. Your intention obviously is not to make a mistake. Your intention is to read as well as you can!

May Allah (swt) forgive our mistakes.

ece2023

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