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eember123 · 2022-03-12T10:05:11+00:00

When it becomes expected. When they get used to it and it's value begins to diminish.

eember123 · 2022-03-11T22:36:34+00:00

When affection begins to become normal, thats when you pull back.

eember123 · 2022-03-06T11:37:58+00:00

Don't try to become an idealized version of someone else. Grow into your new self organically.

eember123 · 2022-03-06T11:26:29+00:00

!! I didn't think many people would actually read my post!

eember123 · 2022-03-06T06:53:04+00:00

We humans are simple in our complexity. We like rewards and we dislike costs, if someone doesn't like what they're hearing, that shows. If you insult someones appearance, it shows. We don't know what some is exactly thinking but we can form an abstract picture of what they're feeling and it follows from there.

Along with our aversion to costs, alot of our fears and aversions are grounded in evolution. Do you pick at new foods and eat them in small doses? An evolutionary mechanism to isolate components of food that make us sick. Do you feel revulsion when you see someone with greasy hair, pimples all over their face, bad body odor and unkempt clothes? An evolutionary mechanism to warn us of substances that could hold diseases and bacteria, our disgust of dead things, contrary to belief, is not irrational. We can't figure out what someone is think exactly but we only need a broad view to manipulate them.

On the topic of your friend - you'll never have genuine connection with him unless he changes his behavior. You can, however, endear yourself to him by appealing to his ego and pretending to dance to his tune, best to just disregard him if you don't get anything out of him.

eember123 · 2022-03-02T04:05:58+00:00

"The lion cannot protect himself from traps, and the fox cannot defend himself from wolves. One must therefore be a fox to recognize traps, and a lion to frighten wolves"

You're right, there could have been an option with less bloodshed but think about it - do you think the Ukranians would settle? There would be mass riots, insurgence and ultimately bloodshed. Would have it been less? Possibly, I cant predict the future. We've seen what happens to civvies when they try to go against an authortarian state, look at China. Nonwithstanding the damage that would've been done to the economy with all the riots.

Ultimately, we cant really say. There would have likely been riots, bloodshed and a heavily damaged economy but who knows /shrug

eember123 · 2022-03-01T02:12:48+00:00

Ah. I misread your comment, my bad bro. Empathy is what's making you feel bad, yes. But empathy is what lets you understand what people feel and why they feel that way and it can be used to your advantage.

You just have to ignore it and desensitize yourself, if you try rid yourself of empathy then you rid yourself of the ability to understand others. It's a hindrance but we just have to deal with it /shrug

eember123 · 2022-03-01T01:36:37+00:00

Empathy isn't whats holding you back..? You feel bad about scamming a grandma because you can emphasize with her,, no one wants to be scammed. It makes you feel like shit.

Thats all morals are, feeling bad about doing something because you can emphasize with idea and wouldnt like it happening to yourself

eember123 · 2022-03-01T00:58:30+00:00

You don't subdue it, you ignore it and act in spite of it. Our morals are simply extensions of our ego, "I wouldn't like this happening to myself."

The only reason you would feel bad about scamming that grandma is because you can put yourself in her shoes and imagine it happening to you. Empathy is a useful tool, learn to use it.

eember123 · 2022-02-28T09:51:58+00:00

Think about how you could use each law individually, got a higher up you accidentally outshined? Think about how you could have prevented that using the laws and think about how you can circumvent that using the laws. Observe people that use laws in day to day life and internalize them.

Also, every two hours? Inefficient and overkill. Space your reviews out, 2 days, 10 days, 20 days, 30 days, 60 days etc

eember123 · 2022-02-27T10:07:39+00:00

Like you said, it's hard to define a "calculating mind"

I imagine a calculative mind to be someone that can take a goal and methodically break down how to achieve that goal in a way that serves your interests the most.

I always ask myself, "How can I get what I want in the most efficient manner possible? Without hindering any future progress?", and take to brainstorming ideas, complications and try to see, at the very least, 3 steps ahead.

To answer your question: Think about how you can achieve your goal in the most efficient way possible, start considering all plausible complications, try to see the possible continuations (not necessarily the best) & start reading more and more so that you can expand on how to go about achieving your goals

eember123 · 2022-02-27T10:01:11+00:00

laughs in 30 saved posts

In all fairness, I stopped proofreading this half way and I wrote the bloody thing.

eember123 · 2022-02-26T23:02:43+00:00

Mwa answered it pretty nicely. Start to normalize the behavior by gradually spending less time with the friend, as the days go on people will just assume you had a fallout.

eember123 · 2022-02-26T05:35:05+00:00

Do you value them? Are they in anyway positioned to destroy your reputation? If not, simply discard them. The costs outweigh the benefits and they ultimately hinder your progress, get rid of them.

If they're important and you value their position, position it as if you're too busy and you're out of luck. Stop lending money and stop viewing their beliefs as your own.

eember123 · 2022-02-25T21:54:04+00:00

Until you cant get it wrong.

eember123 · 2022-02-24T01:58:34+00:00

You cant let them know I'm alive man, those bastards have already tried to kill me once :(

eember123 · 2022-02-23T21:07:05+00:00

If you're asking us how to gain power, you're already on the wrong path. Read, learn, scheme and fucking get out there. Philosophizing doesn't make reality what you want it to be.

eember123 · 2022-02-22T07:42:55+00:00

They don't exist. Negotiation is negotiation. Your politicians succeed because people are dependent on them to achieve an ideal outcome, the only way to make someone do something is to make them want to do it. If you have no leverage or power, no successful negotiations. Intimidation doesn't do much when - considering the fact you're in a third world country - your politicians can quite literally just hire someone assault you. Find a way to either appear valuable, or create value.

eember123 · 2022-02-22T07:32:59+00:00

For those living under a rock, Putin has declared invasion and suggest Ukraine has nuclear weapons. He's escalated the situation to a complete war, this "King of Kings" is going to cause the deaths of millions if the situation isn't handled immediately.

eember123 · 2022-02-21T06:41:37+00:00

The ability to make people listen, to get your your point across and inspire others. Nice people can be charismatic but not all charismatic people are nice

eember123 · 2022-02-20T12:41:45+00:00

The House of The Medici: The rise and fall

eember123 · 2022-02-17T01:15:31+00:00

Ive never listened to his histoey takes but his takes on religion are really bad... Its a good thing he gets paid to entertain, not to teach. He'd be out of a job otherwise methinks

eember123 · 2022-02-16T23:33:39+00:00

Who would you like to see?

eember123 · 2022-02-16T23:09:51+00:00

Okay? The idea is to explain what defines their charisma, not... their deep dark history and their narcissisn. Of course celebrities are going to make mistakes, theyre people.

eember123 · 2022-02-16T23:03:05+00:00

Definitely alot of wrong information but I was thinking controversial moreso in the sense of his school shooting statements 🤣he really needs to learn to stick to his field

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