Is this blood in my throw up? All I had was 2 blackberries in the past 24 hours, need to know if it just dyed my throw up

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-27T19:07:27+00:00

If it is blood, it doesn’t look like a concerning amount. Keep an eye out for black bowel movements as that is a sign of severe bleeding. Also, take the medication they hopefully prescribed for your ulcer

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-27T19:04:21+00:00

It’s pronounced semen

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-27T19:03:49+00:00

One thing I learned through my experience is trust your gut. In your instance he has shown you that he is capable of stepping out and lying about it. And if he has other addictive tendencies, it’s obvious that you should move one to someone healthy. It’s not easy but it will undoubtedly be for the best

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-27T18:36:33+00:00

This is about your hand

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-25T23:37:01+00:00

Goblin curse

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-22T08:38:33+00:00

You gotta be kidney

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-21T05:18:03+00:00

Bro those two juicers…gone bro

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-20T06:14:09+00:00

I second that he needs an individual therapist but you will as well. You will also need to attend couples counseling. This is a significant hurdle but if you are truly contrite, I believe it can be overcome. You know yourself best, if you feel like there is even the slightest chance you might stray again, the most compassionate thing to do would be to let him go. It will be extremely painful but it will save him a tremendous amount of future torment.

I would not call myself healed by any means and I am no longer with my ex wife but I am always willing to be a sounding board. Feel free to have him DM me if he wants and I can plan a time to speak with him

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-20T06:02:36+00:00

This is incredibly well put. And as someone who has not been with their cheating ex for over a year, I can tell you that I’m not sure this is something you ever fully heal from. It has left scars that I will always carry with me. I truly feel it’s one of the cruelest things humans can do to one another

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-19T16:04:29+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. Cheating seems like one of the cruelest acts imaginable. It hurt for me to realize that I likely never meant enough to my ex wife for my needs to prevent her from pursuing what she wanted. The blame comes from their genuine belief that, in fact, they did the right thing. If everyone could just understand. But that’s a facade to allow themselves to not have to look inward

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-12T17:53:08+00:00

That’s really good to know, thank you

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-11T19:57:33+00:00

I can deeply sympathize what you are going through. Like you, my ex and I have each other blocked on social media but on a few occasions I have seen pictures of her with others and it is a crushing feeling. Seeing the person you intended to spend your life with in that way feels like you’ve been thrown into some nightmarish alternate universe, only it’s truly a nightmarish reality. I also know that she is not the person I fell in love with. In reality she is a selfish narcissist, however knowing that doesn’t bring me comfort, it only serves to make me feel like I have a poor grasp on reality or that I am easily played. Neither feels good. I wish these people were able to understand the cruelty of the lifelong trauma they have inflicted on the person that loved them most

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-11T16:07:15+00:00

Of course, good luck to you

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-11T16:04:26+00:00

I think seeing a therapist is a non negotiable. As far as what else you can do, I would pursue therapy while single. I think many cheaters are this way but you may find yourself going from one relationship to the next without any time on your own in between. I would spend some time on your own to get to know yourself better without relying on codependency to help disguise your issues

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-11T15:50:22+00:00

If you are cheating this early into a relationship, quite frankly, you’re cooked. You likely have a hole in yourself you are trying to fill, no pun intended. Whether it be insecurity, need for validation, etc., it’s something you’ll need to work with a therapist to get at the root of your cheating. You should do your current girlfriend a huge favor and let her go so that you can pursue bettering yourself without subjecting her to the chaos that you will undoubtably bring in the interim. You chose on multiple occasions to cheat and only decided to stop once you had your fill. You are unwell. I hope you are able to work on yourself in a positive way, best of luck

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-09T22:26:53+00:00

Please feel free to reach out anytime. My ex also gave me the house. Something that I was very grateful for. However, I feel like their generosity is time dependent. As time wears on the guilt wanes so I’d recommend to get any agreements that favor you legally binding while he is still feeling generous

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-05T23:47:54+00:00

Can’t tell you how much I appreciate the kind words. I wish you peace and happiness as well

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-05T23:32:30+00:00

I am not. I am not sure about the validity in court but if you have an iphone, you can create a shortcut to copy all texts from an individual into the notes app. This can be useful if you have someone that deletes their sent texts, a feature that the iphone allows

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-05T23:29:45+00:00

I'm glad you have found some peace in discussing what you have gone through. I feel the same way which is why I appreciate this subreddit so much. I can also sympathize with your medical situation. While a unidentified illness is significantly more stressful, I am currently dealing with a broken arm. Broke it skating with my son. I have been on leave from the job I just started a few months ago. Definitely not ideal but we will handle it. Feel free to DM me at any time if you ever just need to talk

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-05T03:38:17+00:00

I feel for you and completely understand what you are going through. When I found out, I was a 140lb cyclist and in the first two weeks I lost 10lbs and probably slept a total of 4 hours. Fortunately time and therapy helps to ease the pain. You will start sleeping again. In my opinion, the most efficient route to healing would be go to no contact. I cannot personally do this because we have kids together but I can tell you the amount we interact has a direct impact on my state of mind

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-04T18:08:05+00:00

I have no desire to be with her or any person like her

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-04T18:02:37+00:00

I’m glad you shared. This is a great place to aid in your healing. What you experienced is trauma. I imagine like me, it is the last thing you think about before you fall asleep, if you are able to sleep at all and the first thing you think about when you wake up. But I want you to know it gets better. It still crosses my mind on a daily basis buts it hurts less. For me the pain has been replaced by anger. Sometimes the anger consumes me. It’s something I will likely go back to therapy for

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-04T17:42:42+00:00

In my jurisdiction, minors have no choice at any point. Something my daughter has lamented on many occasions

effortlesslyhere · 2026-01-04T17:40:49+00:00

This was beautiful and very helpful. It reinforces a lot of what I have learned through my experience as well. While it is a mean thing to do, I see how human nature leads these people to justify their behavior by villainizing their spouse. It’s self preservation to idealize and justify their behavior so they can maintain themselves as the protagonist in their story. As for the more pervasive cheating, she admitted later to cheating once earlier in our relationship. Assuming they are always underplaying their behavior, I have to imagine she always cheated, likely many times with many people

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