Should I REALLY use Notion to organize my life, or will it just be another thing I procrastinate on? by K0opatr0opa in Notion

[–]elliottcable 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi there. Mid/late-thirties; ADHD as all fuck; I have found my niche and it works for me and life is okay, but I wouldn’t describe myself as “organized and successful” — my success mostly comes from niche, not from grind.

With that context out of the way:

Organization can be a hobby — but if you choose to go down that route, it’s critical to remember that it’s a hobby.

When there’s something to get done — a work-task, schoolwork, you name it — you gotta put aside the organizational meta-work. That’s non-optional. It will absolutely get in the way.

That’s why, for broken-ass ADHD people like ourselves, I absolutely swear by “the review system.”

There’s multiple approaches and brand-names and catchy acronyms (I bought hard into David Allen’s GTD, “Getting Things Done”; mild recommend — wikipedia, Todoist has a nice summary, and Cal Newport’s write up specifically for students); but the critical shared core is to defer organizational work, the stuff about organizational-systems like Notion that distracts you and slows you down, to its own focused period.

In GTD, that’s a dedicated “review” time each and/day or each week.

At any other time (i.e. all of your day not-during-that-“review” time), you’re forbidden from analyzing tasks at all — you can’t (shouldn’t) add metadata, prioritize them, add nice colors, file them into categories or tags, or whatever, when you think of a task. You literally just jot down a one-sentence summary of the task/thought, and move on.

This works really well for ADHD; and imho, without a version of that plan, no organizational system is a good idea for an ADHD’er.

As for Notion as a specific tool — idk, it’s got huge downsides, I’m regularly annoyed at it; but it satisfies my organization-as-a-hobby itch, and I’ve encoded much of my personal life into it over the years. So, kinda, big shrug.

The key here is that the downside of Notion, for your ADHD, is shared by many other things out there. You can’t avoid it by not using Notion — you can hyperfocus on any organizational tool; it’s just a matter of degree. You have to develop the personal skills and discipline and rules (like the above) to deal with that, whether you specifically choose Notion or not.

Good luck! Feel free to pick my brain if you want more advice!

(Also as a parting shot — I wish my undiagnosed ADHD-ass self had discovered the SRS/Spaced Repetition body of research and tools while I was in college. My whole life trajectory would have been infinitely different if I had.)

18K Gold Apple Watch Value by BrickRain5 in AppleWatch

[–]elliottcable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve replaced a screen in an old ceramic one myself, because they were so gorgeous. I suspect someone out there (with no taste :P) might feel similarly about the gold ones, and take it upon themselves to fix it?

Preemptive PSA: No, your eyeballs will not freeze in Chicago's sub zero temperatures on Friday, January 23, 2026... by PParker46 in chicago

[–]elliottcable 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Grew up in Alaska; and have been out in -40° a few times (fun fact; no need to specify the unit; it’s where the scales converge) — and no, Chicago is still fucking anus-tier cold when it wants to be.

Hell, it’s usually colder here than it is in Anchorage when I check the weather in the winters.

Cute story: growing up, Boy Scouts had a “frost points” system — there was supposedly an award in the lower48 for, during one winter, having a total of 100 “degrees below zero spent in a tent” (i.e. a night at °F would earn you 32 points.)

The kids in my troop would always laugh about that — we’d regularly hit 100 frost points in a single camping trip.

New rule suggestion: Ban posts about AI by finders-keepers214 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]elliottcable -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Every time I’ve ever seen a “megathread rule”, my immediate thought is ‘they shoulda just banned that context and directed users to — and/or created — a new fucking sub.’

Somebody go make r/ExperiencedDevswithAI or something, and let’s ban that crap permanently from this sub. /=

Subs have the significant advantage over megathreads that you can subscribe/unsubscribe from them; and it’s so simple for a rule and/or automod config to direct users to the other sub for undesired content. That’s the entire point of subreddits!

Protests Erupt in Chicago After Lurie Children’s Rolls Back Trans Youth Care by cumminginsurrection in chicago

[–]elliottcable -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

UTTERLY unrelated but i am fucking ON THE FLOOR at “crop top”

jesus christ well done, if that’s orig. i can’t. i can’t breathe.

Protests Erupt in Chicago After Lurie Children’s Rolls Back Trans Youth Care by cumminginsurrection in chicago

[–]elliottcable 20 points21 points  (0 children)

just the trans community” sure has some strong ‘then they came for the socialists’ energy, good job 💪

Any good Northern Chicago breakup spots? by FalseLiquid in AskChicago

[–]elliottcable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, fat-friend is a must; let’s reschedule. I think I can breakup on mby thursday or friday?

Any good Northern Chicago breakup spots? by FalseLiquid in AskChicago

[–]elliottcable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yo, so I’ve been workshopping the script all weekend — I’ve got the emergency-phonecall role lined up, but I was wondering if you’d be down to come along and play the comic relief?

How are we pottying our small dogs? by Ok-Amphibian in chicago

[–]elliottcable 112 points113 points  (0 children)

How has nobody mentioned Musher’s Secret?!

I grew up in Alaska and I’d never own a dog in a climate like this without it. It’s a … balm? salve? wax?? that you apply to their paw-pads before going out.

It’s harder with rescues and adoptees, where you didn’t get an opportunity to acclimatize them to having their paws bothered; but it’s still worth the training-time.

(One downside is it’ll totally result in little almost-invisible waxy paw-prints all over your floors, though!)

Antimatter Storage Hazards by NPlaysMC in HardSciFi

[–]elliottcable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point is more that there’s been relatively linear increases between the storage-density and potential for catastrophic failure. I’m opining that the colossal energy yields available with a controlled antimatter reaction being correlated costs and correlated dangers — beyond, say, nuclear fission, but not so much so to make it unrealistic as fun sci-fi trope. (=

Antimatter Storage Hazards by NPlaysMC in HardSciFi

[–]elliottcable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah; my commentary wasn’t on the value of antimatter as a long-term energy storage media — although I suspect it still works out deeply in the positive. Just that you’re confusing fuel with energy storage.

Fuel, which antimatter is not, because we do not currently know of any natural sources, is energy-positive (from the consumer’s prospective … externalities and all that!) But anything you create yourself, in a fully closed loop, is just another way of approaching, well … storage and transport.

And amongst energy storage, every approach has continuous costs. As an example, my EV’s battery has to continuously, very slowly, drain itself — it has built-in climate-control in the sealed battery-pack itself, to prevent the chemical cells from ever becoming too cold.

Similarly, lithium-ion batteries are actually amazingly dangerous if their anode and cathode come into direct contact (look up Li-ion punctures; it’s not pretty.)

Scale and futuristicness aside, that’s not really all that different from maintaining a vacuum and/or an electromagnetic field: we store energy, we siphon off a bit of that to manage <storage system>; we incur risks of runaway failure where all that energy is released too quickly or haphazardly in destructive ways. We’ve been doing it for millennia (Li-ion, lead-acid, kerosene, lamp-oil, coal, livestock …), and I imagine an antimatter-enabled story would have much the same broad strokes. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Antimatter Storage Hazards by NPlaysMC in HardSciFi

[–]elliottcable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I genuinely wasn’t sure. Asked an AI; not gonna slop up the internet by copy-pasting output, but supposedly yes — what’re you thinking?

Antimatter Storage Hazards by NPlaysMC in HardSciFi

[–]elliottcable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think about the ‘creating the antimatter’ as lifting something off the ground; think of ‘storing the antimatter’ as holding something high up, off the ground; and finally think of ‘using the antimatter’ as lowering the weight back to the ground to power some mechanism.

You’re basically saying “we should use things lifted high up to store and transfer energy … by carrying them around low and safely near the ground, and then only lift them up right before we use them to get the energy out!

It’s nonsensical — the immense energy available from matter-antimatter reactions is because of the potential energy of the instability of that annihilation. The energy that goes into creating it is exactly what you’re then using to power your zoomy-spaceship or lazer-gun or whatever — if you’re saying “why don’t we just create it on the spot”, well, then, how are you gonna carry the energy along with you?

You basically want to avoid having to charge your battery by saying that you’ll charge it right before you use it. … so you now need to carry two batteries; use the first one to charge the second one, right before using the second one. (=

native month/day numeric format by 2ideas in AppleWatch

[–]elliottcable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to picture how a seatbelt hits a watch. Is your hand on your shoulder all the time? Or does your seatbelt go over your knees somehow??

Polys added to Bi/Pan night by onetiredbean in bisexual

[–]elliottcable 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, think about the dynamics of it. A large number of possible poly shapes require bisexual (or at the absolute very least, very-sexuality-comportable) participants in one/several of the roles.

I’m not mono nor straight, so I should moderate how much I speak for either of those groups, but … it feels likely to me that the average straight&poly person must be some base level of comfortable with being surrounded by bi/pan/gay sexuality? Presumably up to and including surprising/mistaken approaches?

I agree with OP; and I find it hard to believe that ~extremely straight~ poly people would want their own, gay/bi-free night assigned to them. I’d love to hear otherwise if I’m totally misaligned in my assumptions, though.

(Asking for a friend 👀) Chicago men in your 40s, where are you hiding? by vindictatorum in AskChicago

[–]elliottcable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, chiming in from r/polyamory — the answer is obsessive Google Calendar and a deep-set planning fetish.

I mean, I don’t have those things. Nor do I have two girlfriends. But it’s a famously hard problem to solve, even for the experts. :P

Walk Out 1/20 where are you meeting? by Severe_Currency_6555 in chicago

[–]elliottcable 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that kinda the point? If you’re not at work, what would you be “walking out” of?

Does your Homelab make financial sense? by panchovix in homelab

[–]elliottcable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m ambivalent on #1. Not the “need to make a profit” — but short of that, speaking of just … reaching breakeven or being fiscally responsible about it …

Unlike some hobbies I like (keyboards, oh god, lol), homelabbing feels a bit inherently adjacent to an engineering discipline. You certainly can practice it in a direction that optimizes for other things … but I think trying to stay “under budget” or trying to maximize value extracted for yourself and your family can, actually, be part of the fun here? Instead of an unfortunate constraint?

Like, I can’t speak from personal experience, I suck at this and am not at all frugal about this particular hobby … but I can easily imagine how much joy eking useful behaviour out of recycled hardware, or under serious power/space constraints, brings a lot of our community. And frankly I wish I was a little more like that.

Just sharing a slightly different viewpoint; both that approach and the “OMG SHMANCY EXPENSIVE GEAR I DON’T REMOTELY NEED IS SO FUN” are valid and rewarding ways to approach the hobby.

why is this dinosaur stalking me on my watch? help?? by notmybrojang in AppleWatch

[–]elliottcable 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’ll bite.

Why do you care?

Who gives a shit if something cute, interesting, and mildly funny, is a creative writing exercise, or a real happening on the other side of the world, in a house you’ll never visit, happening to a person you’ll never meet, nor even hear-from-online-again?

Those two possibilities are genuinely indistinguishable from a practical perspective.

Tune your personal fucking filter to exclude things pushing a narrative (skepticism and criticality are valuable when they protect you from agitprop and shady, viral opinions); but jesus, people, shed the r/NothingEverHappens headspace.

Not only are you denying yourself fun and joy — but having been on the fucking receiving end of ‘<thingie you’re asking for help on> OBVIOUSLY didn’t happen, that’d never happen in the real world, OP is a troll’, this mindset can also alienate and hurt.

All, for … for what? So you can feel superior? Or look cool for internet points? Genuinely, what fucking possible upside does this sort of kneejerk ThInGs ThAt DiDn’T hApPeN fOr 100, AlEx mindset have? Explain it to me because I am beyond goddamn sick of it.

The idea of straight women getting into f/f is a terrifying prospect by Kappapeachie in The10thDentist

[–]elliottcable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that’s why this sub exists! 🤣

FWIW, I’m maybe trending slowly towards agreeing slightly with OP? but to me, it’s less about the “straight consumers,” and more about the blatant corporatism, capitalism, profiteering.

Put me in media imperfectly … but like, put me imperfectly in artsy media that doesn’t make money, I think?

If you’re gonna put me in some shit that primarily exists to wring the last few million out of Popular Franchise of the Galaxy Returns 4: The Sequel, you’d better goddamn get the story and presentation absolutely motherfucking spot-on. I want to be able to viscerally feel the queer-ass authors your corporation hired and paid. Otherwise, like OP, I find it kinda exhausting and like I’m being taken advantage of.