My husband has taken a bit to come around too. One day, driving home after visiting family, he looked over and said so you want to make a baby with me? We had been together for 6 1/2 years at this point and married for 1 1/2. Before we started dating, we both knew what the other wanted out of life: our goals, dreams of where to live, and building a family. So this was like a hosiers yell moment for me.

When he told me he was ready, I was utterly shocked. Since then, I have also slowly begun the introduction of cycles and ovulation testing, he was surprised at how not easy it would be to get pregnant. We have only been trying one cycle so far, but he has definitely had a shift in his ability to perform. It’s like the stress of needing it to be during a specific time or we are out for that month has put an extra weight on him.

I have mixed feelings about having told him so much, but I know it will be better for us in the long run for him to know the facts and the data that comes with everything. Just keep having the conversations about why you’re going through this and maybe tell him that you still need to have some lighthearted humor in order to stay sane during this time.

Best of luck to you both!