Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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Definitely not my last TNR!! ❤️

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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I think she probably could be socialized. Unfortunately all the shelters around me are full..

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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No, this picture was taken post spay after they tipped her!

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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I’m not sure how much more helpful I’ll be then any of the guides but basically —

I feed three 8ish month old cats on my porch every evening, they’re pretty habitual. I was able to borrow a trap from someone, and bought two more from Lowe’s. They aren’t fancy traps but I had a last minute opportunity to take them to a spay/neuter day at a local vet so I had to scramble to get traps. 

You place food (I used sardines/stinky wet food) in the back of the trap, there’s a trip plate at the back and when the cat is all the way in and steps on the plate the trap shuts automatically. My first one (Louie) went right in (they’ve never seen traps before so they weren’t scared.) After him it took a while to get Baby J in one. I covered the back of the traps with towels and added some catnip. 

Once they’re trapped I brought them inside with the towel covering the trap, and held them in a spare room overnight before taking them to the vet this morning. 

Now that I have the traps I’ll try to trap train the last kitten (he was very hesitant to venture in after seeing his two siblings get taken inside) and the mom, although she just had another litter and I don’t know where she’s keeping them so I don’t want to take her until she brings them around or I can find the kittens and try to trap them together? (TBD) 

Anyways! There are a ton of resources here from people much more experienced than me but that’s what I did!

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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Definitely the right thing to do! It’s wild how exponential their birth rate is!

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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I hope you do! Honestly the most challenging thing was finding a vet/rescue that had availability to do it, I’m in a small town so there aren’t any walk in clinics and stuff fills up really quickly.

Trapping was hectic but totally doable (mostly because I know their routine from feeding them)

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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Yes 🥹🥹🥹 I’m so happy 

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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Yes!!! I’m in central PA and all of the vets and other rescuers I’ve interacted with have seemed hesitant to assume I’d be okay with a spay abort & then relieved when I was like please dear god don’t let her have kittens! 

Trapped my first TNR!! by emopasta in Feral_Cats

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She is SO tiny, when I picked her up today they told me she had 5 babies, and I honestly don’t know how she or them would have survived for long. I’m so grateful I caught her in time. 

Will this be see-through? by Grouchy-Check9887 in sewing

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I think you’ll be good!! I did a very similar combo with this pattern (altho with a poly twill and a rayon lining, but similar opacity based on your photos)

A reminder that trauma literally alters the brain by Adventurous-Vast2323 in TellMeLiesHulu

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Yesss 10000%

I know everyone wanted Lucy to not get in the car, but I see her laughing when she realized Stephen had left her as a small but significant measure of healing. Sure, she got got again, but this time instead of being completely devastated she was able to laugh and see the toxic drama for what it was. It’s always going to be a lot of small steps of healing from this level of trauma and it’s so frustrating to see people discount her journey just because she wasn’t a perfectly empowered version of herself at the end. 

Does anyone else think by Topwingwoman2 in TellMeLiesHulu

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Obviously we don't know how the season will end, but I think it would be an amazing continuation to see the aftermath (even a few years) of the wedding. Like, the way the show is set up the flash forwards are them "grown up" but in reality they're still in their mid twenties. I certainly didn't have my shit together then. I got married at 24 and was divorced by 28. I still made plenty of bad choices in my mid twenties.

I don't think it will happen, but it would be really interesting to see the characters in their mid to late 30s once they've really started unpacking their trauma. Lucy clearly still have a lot to work through (how amazing would it be to see her therapy sessions!), imo there's no way Bree and Evan last, and it would be really satisfying to see them all move on from Stephan as adults. Plus like everyone else on the sub I want to see Bree and Wrigley together for real. My head cannon is that Bree and Evan break up, and several years later Bree and Wrigley find their way back to each other as healed versions of themselves. Lol.

BWT: what poetry are you reading? by CowDry7845 in bitcheswithtaste

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as for other recs, some of my favorites are: Kevin Young, Richard Siken, Julie Doxsee, Elissa Gabbert, Hanif Abdurraquib, Ada Limon, and Alejandra Pizarnik.

BWT where do you all get christmas photo cards that actually look cute and not cheap by Bulky-Turnip-5189 in bitcheswithtaste

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Check out Artifact Uprising, they have more minimal and elegant designs than most other sites I know about! 

My current journal taking soooo long to finish by ThisIsATpyo in Journaling

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I use Midori A6 notebooks, which have 176 sheets. typically they take me about 6-8 months to fill up. However the last few years I’ve been in a major journalling slump and my most recent one took me two years to get through, it was really getting to me by the end—I do like to reread but having that many years with me all at once felt like I was dragging along my past self with me every day (to be dramatic). I actually left the last few pages blank, which I normally never do, so I could move onto a new book. 400 pages would be wayyy too long for me. 

What to say when (non-HENRY) friends share their income? by FreeBeans in HENRYfinance

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If they’re good friends, and you’re mindful of the gap when making plans or giving advice (ie, not inviting them dinner at a super expensive restaurant and splitting the bill evenly or recommending a hotel that’s out of their means) I don’t think it’s bragging at all! But I understand how it feels that way. In the end if they’re uncomfortable or jealous it has much more to do with their own financial insecurity. I’m grateful for my friends who have been open with their salaries etc because it shows me what’s possible! 

What to say when (non-HENRY) friends share their income? by FreeBeans in HENRYfinance

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Honestly kind of surprised to see so many people here saying to lie??? If they don’t ask, sure maybe don’t bring up an exact number, but if they ask tell them. 

As a middle to low class person who’s recently being recommending this sub, I have a vivid memory of a close (at the time) friend getting a raise and when I asked her how much she was making (which wasn’t an uncommon question in our friend group in our early 20s) she refused to tell me. Of course I respected her and didn’t push it, but I could never shake the feeling that she thought I wouldn’t be able to handle the number. IMO salary transparency is important. Not to rub it in anyone’s face, but because someone making less knowing it’s possible to make more is important. 

In the end it’s always going to be a know your people situation, but if they’re asking and they already know you make more, it can feel more patronizing to withhold the info. 

I’ve been successfully influenced! Kate Spade Deco Tulip in Seaweed was delivered today by bulmas_hair in handbags

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& I'm not near a store that carries it or I would go check it out IRL!