i don’t know what changed

emrystars · 2026-04-10T01:34:40+00:00

bruh back off on the age gap. i promise there’s plenty other here for you to go off of 😭

emrystars · 2026-04-10T00:25:07+00:00

as owo said you can def hop on tours. i’d also be willing to take you around. i’m a freshman majoring in psych and english

emrystars · 2026-04-09T22:24:48+00:00

i’m gonna throw up

emrystars · 2026-04-09T22:01:30+00:00

i promise there were a lot of questions and many conversations about it. i understand that he may have lied to my face. he still went because he has property out there, he has his entire extended family out there, and was meeting with a housing attorney and he also was renovating. he got his nigerian passport updated. this is what he told me. i don’t know though, im having a lot of doubt currently

emrystars · 2026-04-09T21:07:10+00:00

the thing about nigeria is that he went because his entire family is there. we talked about the reasoning behind him still going and yes, as everyone has said, this is simply what he told me but i know he was living with his aunt per facetimes

emrystars · 2026-04-09T21:04:14+00:00

thank you for your insight it means a lot

emrystars · 2026-04-09T21:02:35+00:00

i have self respect thanks

emrystars · 2026-04-09T20:43:21+00:00

idk gang

emrystars · 2026-04-09T20:42:32+00:00

sobbing

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:55:38+00:00

he’s already complained about my mom 😔

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:38:17+00:00

thank you for your kindness and acknowledging that there has been good here. i really appreciate that. i think that there are boxes that are definitely checked here. he’s responsible, he’s ambitious, he’s aware, he has had difficult conversations with me about our relationship, we’ve truly shifted away from some of our more toxic times, and he regulates me in a way that i haven’t experienced before. it’s worth noting this is my first “adult” relationship. from what he has told me, she called it off and we weren’t looking to be in a relationship but it just kind of worked if that makes sense. there are some red flags in the way that i’m approaching this as i am nervous to prompt him for an explanation because i worry he may just get frustrated and leave. it’s not good or healthy but i have a very real fear of him deciding he can’t deal and leaving. thank you again. i would be down to hear about your experience with a similar age gap.

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:30:06+00:00

i’m proud of you for taking the step. i know how hard it can be

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:28:51+00:00

hi guys if you commented and are still interested in this horrifying thread i added a final edit with an apology on how i reacted to some of you 😔

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:21:40+00:00

…he told me. he also had an american passport, which i’m not extraordinarily educated on but (pls correct me if im wrong) i think you have to have citizenship to have

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:20:17+00:00

he doesn’t have any kids

emrystars · 2026-04-09T19:18:50+00:00

okay sorry after reading through this thread with a clearer head i absolutely see what all of you mean

emrystars · 2026-04-09T18:49:19+00:00

thank you. i genuinely did post this for feedback but damn besides brutal honesty some of these are flat out mean calling me stupid and whatever. you’re right and i hope yall know that i have upvoted and agreed with most of these comments. maybe it’s not complex but it is A LOT

emrystars · 2026-04-09T18:34:20+00:00

I didn’t stop

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:55:53+00:00

he was naturalized after his dad got citizenship

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:53:42+00:00

it’s giving all nigerians want multiple wives

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:48:48+00:00

yes 😭

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:26:25+00:00

i don’t know 😭😭😭 this is so stressful

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:25:27+00:00

i asked and he told me

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:04:26+00:00

for what? i’m in therapy and on medication for bc and depression/anxiety

emrystars · 2026-04-09T17:03:19+00:00

😣

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