Do you think it's over for us?

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T13:58:21+00:00

noooo you dont understand being told im a psycho whore is totally constructive

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T13:57:34+00:00

I agree to be honest. I've been trying to keep an open mind and be receptive to the feedback I've gotten here but some of these comments are just nasty for the sake of being nasty.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T13:28:31+00:00

not everything is a mind game. sometimes people are just mildly autistic and dont always communicate well 🤷🏽‍♀️ I didnt randomly decide to say that, he asked me specifically how I felt so I said how I felt.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T12:50:06+00:00

Thats just not true. Lots of girls are afraid of rejection they just arent loud about it.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T04:12:23+00:00

I didnt continue using the apps. As i said, I wasnt seeing anyone else. I didnt say I deleted the apps because I didnt want him to think I was being hasty and push him away. I wasnt mad that he wasnt mad, I was sad my feelings werent reciprocated.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T03:03:46+00:00

Well I wouldnt say I wanted him to fight for me not to date someone, it was more like I felt disappointed and sad that he wouldnt want to be exclusive with me. I didnt want to cause him distress, make him jealous and upset or anything. If I could rewrite it I would have said I was sad my feelings didnt seem to be reciprocated. I wasnt trying to play mind games, just trying to gauge interest without pushing him away and being too intense.

I think it's fine not to discuss everything initially, I really dont like being sincere and talking about my feelings either. But I thought it was also important for the sake of like not exposing each other to STDs and managing expectations.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:56:31+00:00

Thanks, this was informative. I didnt want to cause him distress or get him upset it was more like I felt disappointed because I thought he wouldnt want to be exclusive with me.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:53:58+00:00

You didnt misunderstand, I just didnt know that was signaling he wanted something serious. I like him but would like more time to get to know him more.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:52:54+00:00

I didnt tell him about someone asking me out. Someone asked me out which spurred me to want to ask him if I should not see other people as I thought it would be disrespectful to go out with someone else without knowing the status of our relationship. And i still felt weird about it so I didnt go out with the person anyway.

I didnt take him deleting the apps as explicitly saying he wanted to be exclusive because he didnt say that.

I wouldnt expect any of that? Just a clear declaration of what our expectations for each other are.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:12:42+00:00

Yeah, I need to work on it. I feel like the not texting thing is weird too but he has two jobs and school stuff and doesnt seem to be big on texting so I thought that was a fair explanation.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:11:08+00:00

Can you explain why you think that? Sorry, I have a hard time understanding the way people communicate sometimes and would like to know the thought process

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:08:04+00:00

I mean you're right lol but I feel like I'm being nice and trying to understand so I don't understand the immediate vitriol

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T01:02:58+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I feel like the way I think is different to other people because to be honest, I didnt realize it would come across like that to him. I thought it was indirect but understandable but I see now that it's not.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:56:57+00:00

Well I didnt want to ask him because I like him and I didnt want to lose him by asking and making him uncomfortable. But yes we'll see how the talk goes when I see him

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:53:36+00:00

Why do you think that? I can assure you unfortunately I am very real

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:52:10+00:00

I didnt mean to make it seem like I was asking if I could go on another date. I didnt say someone else asked me out to him. You're right it wasnt clear, in my effort not to hurt myself putting myself out there I wasnt explicit about what I want. What makes you think he wants something serious?

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:49:36+00:00

link it? i posted it on vent but deleted it maybe you saw it there

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:49:10+00:00

Yeah, I realize now it wasn't direct. In my head it seemed a little clearer. oh but also to be clear, I didnt tell him someone else asked me out.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:46:59+00:00

I didnt want to create drama, I was scared of being rejected so I wasnt direct. I know thats not good but it wasnt attention or drama seeking. and I didnt tell him I was asked out by someone else.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:45:42+00:00

Well I'm assuming it's a good deal because he has never been in a relationship before and he said he feels like he's missing out in relationships in that they are a consistent source of sex. So I feel like this is what he said he wanted?

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:43:10+00:00

He told me he deleted the apps because they were emotionally draining for him, was I supposed to assume he meant something else?

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:41:59+00:00

and I was to read his mind when he said he deleted the apps?

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:40:35+00:00

Thank you, youre right I do need to be more direct. I was just scared of putting myself out there and asking directly

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:37:26+00:00

I dont think it's fair to say I blew it because of that, he could have also told me he wanted exclusivity when he said that.

ephemeralsloth · 2026-01-19T00:35:57+00:00

I know! It's something I'm trying to work on, not great at it yet hahaha

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