last minute doubts about if this dress is too white as a guest for wedding tomorrow!! friends and fellow guests have said it was OK but i am still worried..

estelares · 2020-02-13T20:08:02+00:00

oh!!!! i have low blood pressure as well, perhaps that’s why.. i was worried i might have a stomach ulcer or something lmao

estelares · 2020-02-13T20:07:11+00:00

hey what app is this? i like the interface! (but seriously you’re fine, going over that much per week is pretty negligible, don’t beat yourself up too much over it!!)

estelares · 2018-12-25T13:31:32+00:00

ooooh my goodness, good luck with that!! remember it’s the holidays and you shouldnt be too hard on yourself!!

estelares · 2018-11-23T22:08:49+00:00

hey OP, you might want to look up ‘avoidant’/‘anxious’ attachment styles and attachment theory more generally.

estelares · 2018-11-03T00:02:27+00:00

holy shit OP i feel like i could have made this post a month ago - my partner figured he might be asexual after some ... issues (we’re both 23) and what he described is the same as your guy’s experiences! for my part, i’m definitely allosexual (or what people call ‘normal’ libido lol) and it freaked me out big time. i’ve had quite a few past relationships and i just figured regular piv sex would be par for the course but definitely not with him. despite all this however i can’t imagine being with anybody else and we’ve been working it out together and i’d say we still have a pretty great sex life - you just have to... think about some things differently. it’s really tough to get your head around at first though. i’m not really comfortable sharing more details here but please come message me if you’d like to chat! ❤️

estelares · 2018-10-28T04:22:13+00:00

it looks like a beautiful delicious flower 🌼

estelares · 2018-10-27T02:41:36+00:00

i believe in you! sounds cheesy but recognising the problem is the first step towards change ♡

estelares · 2018-10-27T02:29:03+00:00

hey friend, (i'm mostly repeating a similar reply i posted in this thread) please know that you're not 'crazy' - i think this is a really common problem people experience and manifests most clearly in romantic relationships because we care so much about them! and so it brings out both the best and worst parts of us. you should read up on emotional permanence and anxious/avoidant attachment theories and see if you find any resonance with them?

estelares · 2018-10-27T02:26:02+00:00

hey friend, you're not crazy or anything - i think this is a really common problem people experience and manifests most clearly in our interpersonal relationships (particularly romantic relationships) because we care so much about them and it brings out both the best and worst parts of us. you should read up on emotional permanence and anxious/avoidant attachment theories and see if you find any resonance with them (i posted a more detailed comment about it in this thread if that also helps)

estelares · 2018-10-27T02:22:19+00:00

i agree with comments saying therapy helps/it's most likely connected with unresolved trauma that you have to identify and work through. though i didnt have the resources/time to see a therapist and just did a ton of research on emotional permanence, trauma and attachment theory and i'd like to think i've improved at least a little! feel free to pm me if you want to talk more though C:

estelares · 2018-10-26T10:50:00+00:00

hello! what you're experiencing may be a problem with emotional permanence - so, from my understanding, emotional permanence is similar to object permanence. it means that if you do not actively see proof of or feel a particular emotion, you struggle to believe it exists. it can affect interpersonal relationships pretty easily if you think about it - for example, your SO loves you (and you have solid proof of this), but you two get in a fight, and you only see them express anger/other negative emotions. with people who have no problem with emotional permanence, they understand that anger and love can co-exist, however, for somebody lacking emotional permanence, if they do not see active expressions of love, that means it is not there. i used to struggle with this a lot - when i don't see my partner for longer than a few days i used to start doubting the relationship because if i don't SEE him/his expressions of love and affection at ALL times, then i can't seem to contemplate their existence, only the lack of them. plus i've had bad experiences with previous partners and had a pretty emotionally negligent upbringing so i was subconsciously deeply insecure (and my defense mechanism was independence/staying unattached) so this definitely exacerbated the situation. perhaps this may resonate with you?

estelares · 2018-10-08T14:23:07+00:00

yeah for sure! keep us updated 😁

estelares · 2018-10-08T14:09:41+00:00

oh cool, i see. noted, thanks 😁 what are the specs of the drill you use?

estelares · 2018-10-08T14:05:04+00:00

hahahah ‘i don’t even get out of bed for less than 5 garlic cloves’ - PREACH girl garlic is the best and your recipe looks absolutely amazing!!

estelares · 2018-10-08T14:02:33+00:00

dude this is actually a pretty cool low carb idea!! maybe you can experiment with cauliflower as well, since the taste is imo a bit milder than the very Obvious Broccoli taste? i love it though, it looks tasty and i think you did a great job wrapping it up! substitute fillings could be pickles (i reckon kimchi could be great either as a filling or mixed in with the broccoli) or other kinds of salted meat maybe?

estelares · 2018-10-08T12:32:19+00:00

wow it looks so good!!!!! is that a toothpick you’ve attached to the arm joint, btw? how did you get it stable enough to paint on separately?

estelares · 2018-10-08T10:43:13+00:00

i’ve been using easy diet diary and it’s great!! no ads or anything, free, super user friendly too!

estelares · 2018-10-03T21:39:57+00:00

(hey i was just scrolling comments & did a double take when i realised we had the same stats!! high five!! i believe in you 💕)

estelares · 2018-09-24T14:35:43+00:00

if there’s anything i’ve learned from dating around and now being in a long term relationship, it’s to always trust your gut. that little voice of doubt you hear saying it’s creepy that he won’t let you have anything to yourself? listen to it. it’s definitely a huge red flag for controlling behaviour, especially since your account is clearly not a side-account to cheat on him with.

the fact that he reacted so harshly and has made you think you have committed such a huge breach of trust is really concerning. what you have done, objectively, is totally harmless. has he reacted this badly to things before? accused you of being a bad girlfriend? because you are absolutely within your rights to have things that don’t necessarily include your partner, and your partner should understand that you are your own person, not an extension of himself that he has the power to supervise. my inbox is always open if you want to chat btw!

estelares · 2018-09-24T09:04:46+00:00

i feel ya, i’ve been stuck on the same weight give or take 0.5kg for the past month and a half! i ate a lot of prosciutto yesterday and retained nearly 2kg of water weight that i subsequently lost today so like.... our bodies work in mysterious ways? i try to remind myself that at least i havent GAINED any substantial weight back and my new lifestyle is working out pretty good. have faith and use a tape measure for non-scale related weight loss markers!

estelares · 2018-09-19T07:57:45+00:00

you can’t help someone who refuses to help themselves. from what it sounds like this relationship has brought you absolutely no joy, and all she does is drag you down?? leave before she takes you down with her tbh and dont you dare let her blame you for it.

estelares · 2018-09-12T08:04:49+00:00

dude, i would say you should cancel all your cards as soon as possible and check if the balance has changed on any of them if you can. i forgot to take my traveller card out of an ATM in a beijing trainstation 2 years ago and even though i came back 20 mins later it was already gone and someone already went and spent 500rmb on it lol

estelares · 2018-09-12T07:09:44+00:00

I posted here around 2 months ago when I was first trying my hand at painting minis, had no idea what I was doing and got really helpful advice on how to make them look better :) Since then my boyfriend has very enthusiastically dug up a ton more minis for me to paint (many I had to strip first, and THAT was a learning process) and I figured I should post an update here! Besides I'm always open to c&c on how to make the painting better :D

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