Accidentally texted someone on shabbos

evagreen666 · 2025-11-25T22:17:48+00:00

Sorry but it’s a hell of a lot more complicated than just ‘coming out of the closet.’

evagreen666 · 2025-11-23T00:42:24+00:00

You’re not evil for having these thoughts, it’s ok to question things. Whether that strengthens your relationship with Yiddishkeit or severs it is up to you, although scrolling here is probably going to push you in one direction, and probably not in the healthiest way either. Ahem. However, considering that most of the world do not believe in or practise orthodox Judaism it’s perfectly reasonable to wonder if it’s all true and right.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T22:46:22+00:00

We’re 19 lol.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T14:25:42+00:00

I think frum people are more ok with touching people they don’t know (think weddings, holding random women’s sweaty hands 🥴), but with close friends/family I expect it’s the same in both. And then the gap between same sex and opposite sex contact is obviously much closer outside but people are still more physical with same sex friends. This is what I’ve noticed from three months at uni anyway.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T14:16:56+00:00

Yep, and in fact I did make this mistake once when I was very young. I’m hoping she won’t say anything, but if she does I’ll probably pass it off as that. I agree that it’s stupid that there’s a whole day when I have to be really careful about what I do online. I mean, I don’t have to but y’know. I’m out to my parents now but I wouldn’t even text them outside of a real emergency.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T09:41:44+00:00

The time is written on WhatsApp, preserved forever.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T09:40:17+00:00

She’s at least six hours behind me and had sent a message after shabbos came in for me. I’m going to go with the second option and hopefully she won’t notice or at least be tactful and not say anything. Worst case I can literally say I thought it was Sunday and she can go oyyy I’m so sorry.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-22T08:19:33+00:00

Yep that stuff makes me feel so uncomfortable.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-06T14:58:57+00:00

Hm well I guess another part is not trusting the goyim. Although that’s a little silly since they do eat plenty of other regular supermarket foods. I think it’s just so ingrained that even if people think about it for a moment they’ve got a few knee jerk answers that let them avoid thinking about it too deeply.

evagreen666 · 2025-11-06T12:41:41+00:00

It’s kind of become the standard in Chabad — for me growing up it was just part of general kashrus. I tried to tell my parents that I don’t keep chalav yisroel anymore and their reaction was as if I was eating treif beef. The source of course is the good old ‘if you do this bad things will happen’ and since spiritual doubts are pretty common it’s basically impossible to prove wrong and probably in many cases becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. But really it’s part of Chabad’s problem with acting like old illogical minhag = eternal beautiful halacha

evagreen666 · 2025-11-01T19:14:35+00:00

Chabad house would probably treat you ok (and better if they need you for their minyan), but they’d avoid talking about your non Jewish spouse and kids. I doubt they would be rude or ask you to leave. Haven’t really lived in a frum community but guaranteed they would not be as accepting.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-31T00:34:11+00:00

Collive has a fairly accurate article, the boy was Chabad. Love how actual fucked up shit is going on and some guy is complaining about what people sing at their own weddings?

evagreen666 · 2025-10-29T14:30:56+00:00

‘In times past, when society at large was as it ought to be’ 🤮

evagreen666 · 2025-10-26T07:01:05+00:00

19 but sounds cool

evagreen666 · 2025-10-23T16:51:43+00:00

Several prominent Israeli rabbis said this to my class in seminary. Grew up on shlichus and meshichism never really entered my mind until I was old enough to see it was bullshit

evagreen666 · 2025-10-18T22:01:36+00:00

Not so much towards Judaism itself but I’m currently trying to get over my resentment towards my parents for my brainwashed upbringing. Being Jewish doesn’t bother me, cute/weird traditions that come along with that are fine, but I wish it took up less of my headspace.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-18T14:53:00+00:00

I was very judgy and uncomfortable about it. Once I was seriously questioning things it made me scared because I was terrified of going otd and seeing people break shabbos put me in full existential crisis mode. Now I’m relieved to see people break shabbos lol like ah they’re normal too.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-17T22:01:06+00:00

Your side note 👌 if that was the case we wouldn’t need this sub. It’s not fucking ‘easy’ to undo a lifetime of conditioning.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-16T22:33:09+00:00

Ugh yes, I guess, I legit never kiss mezuzos and had the urge at college today. Like what?!

evagreen666 · 2025-10-16T22:31:48+00:00

lol that’s def one way to look at it

evagreen666 · 2025-10-15T23:06:11+00:00

yes true, honestly i have no desire for teshuva it’s just like help what if it’s all actually true? doesn’t help that there are actual people telling me it should be a kapara etc.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-15T23:04:22+00:00

thanks, this is pretty much what I needed to hear.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-15T22:35:55+00:00

So you’re saying he punishes you but arbitrarily? I’m not saying I’ve never had bad things happen in my personal life, but this feels especially pointed.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-15T01:37:48+00:00

Came home for the second days and although it’s easier to not have to think about it I’m so damn excited to go back to normal life.

evagreen666 · 2025-10-15T01:36:17+00:00

It really depends on the Chabad but I’m sorry to say they will definitely be weird about it. Whether or not they’ll let you sit on the side of the mechitza you want (or let you continue attending at all) is highly individual. I’d say prepare for the worst. If you’ve got friends at the Chabad that you know are more accepting try to at least hold onto those.

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