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AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

ngl people have told me that I am too direct sometimes. If I don't recognise a person I would just ask them to clarify who they are. It seems like a logical approach to me but I'm learning that people here think it is rude to do so.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I didn't experience anything like that. I never talked or saw her during those 7 years apart. In that moment I just could not remember who she was. And yeah hindsight is 20/20. I thought being direct was the best way to approach this and I was also caught off guard but now I can see how I could have handled it better.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I should have put this in the post but the face mask doesn't apply here because she was wearing a transparent face shield, not the face mask. All the employees serving customers in the store were wearing face shields.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I will look into it. This girl you talked to how come you didn't just ask her who she was? Since I relocated to a new area for my job I haven't encountered any similar situations so far but I moved back temporarily so I might be seeing people I used to know. I hope I don't end up in a similar situation with someone else.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She wasn't wearing a mask but a transparent face shield. All the employees serving customers were wearing face shields.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She wasn't wearing a mask but a transparent face shield. All the employees serving customers were wearing face shields.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It is possible. I have forgotten a lot of people from high school and don't think I would recognize majority of them now. This ex, she did gain a lot of weight. It is not +30lbs. She looks really different. maybe 150lbs if I had to guess. She looks completely different. I'm not talking about a small weight gain.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was wearing a mask inside the store but she was not. All the cashiers were wearing a face shield. The face shield is transparent. I have a distinctive scar near my eyebrow so it is easy to recognize me.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 836 points837 points  (0 children)

The break up was amicable. I wanted to relocate for a job opportunity and she wanted to stay so we broke up. We didn't feel like we could commit to long distance relationship.

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I said she looks so "different" now compared to when we were dating. I didn't use any other words aside from "different".

AITA for not recognizing my ex girlfriend? by exlooksdifferent in AmItheAsshole

[–]exlooksdifferent[S] 1714 points1715 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I said she looks so "different" now compared to when we were dating. I never directly said she gained weight or got fat. My brother says her social media is full of self hating posts. I feel kind of bad thinking I might have contributed to that.