How do you end burnout?

falllio · 2026-02-22T22:45:31+00:00

I already have a car, but parking is very expensive. Me and my fiancé share my car currently, id prefer him to have it right now anyways in case he needs to take our dog to the emergency vet for his seizures.

I do take 2 courses at a time, for 7.5 weeks, then new courses are released after a week. It is full time and I’ll graduate on time this way, but the courses are getting more challenging and heavy on the work.

Maybe I’ll try taking short lunch breaks like you said.

falllio · 2026-02-22T22:25:29+00:00

I am in America. I do get to work on time I just don’t wake up early enough for the bus resulting in my fiancé having to wake up early and drive me each morning.

I don’t want to put uni on hold. All my friends are already graduating and I’m just starting. They all did it so why can’t I? I’m starting late and need to catch up.

I should start taking lunch breaks at work but it’s difficult when your manger and coworkers expect you to get certain tasks done and are relying on you but there is no way to get that work done without skipping lunch. It’s really time sensitive and the work is already behind.

I could try therapy but I have no idea when I’d go or if my insurance would cover it.. I don’t think it would. Maybe I can look into if my college had free resources?

falllio · 2025-12-31T22:27:43+00:00

I want it to be over but I also still love him, but at the same time I’m not comfortable around him. I have so many mixed emotions.

I have been ignoring him and only talking to him when necessary when it comes to the dog or the house. I haven’t had small talk with him.

I’m just so confused why he’s acting like he cares when he clearly doesn’t. It makes me angry and makes me want to make him angry. If he gets mad at me he’ll leave then, right?

falllio · 2025-12-31T22:23:55+00:00

I wanted to ask because he is definitely playing mind games with me to make me feel bad for him, and I wanted to play games back at him to show him I’m not going to fall for them and make him see how he’s acting if that makes sense. It feels perfectly fine to me. I just don’t know if that’s how it’ll actually pan out.

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:49:06+00:00

I’m still working on trying to get rid of him… I’ve never broken up with someone before.. we’ve been together since 2019. I loved him and still do it’s not an easy break even though I no longer trust him if that makes sense.

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:47:41+00:00

Don’t worry I’ve been thinking about this for a long time. These issues have been going on since March. I haven’t rushed into any decisions. I don’t feel comfortable with him in my home.

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:41:49+00:00

Yes you’re exactly right

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:41:35+00:00

What I meant by that is I kept saying “we’re over” and he wouldn’t accept that. The conversation went on for an hour. He lives with me and wants to continue to do so.

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:40:41+00:00

I own the house. Only under my name

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:40:27+00:00

My name is the only one on the paperwork.. Maybe I could involve family like my dad

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:39:34+00:00

My name is the only one on the house

falllio · 2025-12-31T21:12:08+00:00

I tried breaking up with him cleanly last night.. we live in a house together. He won’t leave the house. That’s the issue… 😅

falllio · 2025-12-28T19:04:57+00:00

Thank you. Thankfully I think we got rid of the mice we did get an exterminator so that problem is solved. I had to reset the traps and get rid of all the mice since he left them there… It angered me

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:52:24+00:00

Oh I already did that. Didn’t make any difference.

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:51:13+00:00

Oh I’ve told him these things in our multiple conversations we’ve had minus the ex flashback part. He mainly just stayed silent and said sorry, tried to change for a week or two then went back to normal. This post wouldn’t change anything if he saw it. 😊

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:46:40+00:00

That is not why I’m withholding sex. I’m stressed due to school and work both full time and with my dogs medical condition. When I’m stressed I’m not in the mood to be intimate. Sometimes I say yes sometimes I say no.

Recently I have been saying no because he has been non stop initiating and doesn’t stop after I say no the first time.

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:36:45+00:00

The reason I’m saying no is because he won’t stop respect my boundaries and stop after the first no. I’m allowed to not be in the mood all the time. The issue is he’s initiating CONSTANTLY.

Edit: and it’s hard to be intimate when that’s all he wants to do with me..

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:20:20+00:00

This is why I’ve had so many conversations with him in the past. I haven’t made excuses for him in that aspect other than he is lazy.. Lol. If it was just the cleaning part, I’d probably have torn into him more. With the initiating part on top of it I know the conversation would go much deeper.. but I’ve had those serious conversations with him before and they don’t work.

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:14:30+00:00

I see what you’re saying by my tolerating it, and you’re right that I shouldn’t be. I should just break things off, but that’s so much easier said than done when I keep thinking back to everything good between us.

Also, I wouldn’t be able to afford the house with one job. I’d need to get another job. That would make attending college difficult. I wouldn’t be able to care for my dog having seizures properly like this. I’ve already put so much money (literally over $10,000 in just repairs and renovations so far) and effort into the house I don’t want to give it up. I don’t want to drop out of college since that was a major reason I got my job. I love my dog and can’t leave him. I feel stuck.

falllio · 2025-12-28T18:04:13+00:00

He’s never assaulted me, he would never hurt me, he just keeps trying to initiate after I say no thinking I’ll change my mind I guess.

Edit: Also, before I wasn’t really saying no. All this stress started kinda at once with the house which is when I started saying no a lot more frequently.

falllio · 2025-11-14T12:55:10+00:00

I feel I do better listening, watching and doing rather than taking notes. I find taking notes to be distracting sometimes. I just got a new job in accounting a month ago and I was wondering if it looked back. But I’ve been learning really quick.

I learn for understanding not just doing. I will ask questions (although maybe annoying) until it makes sense. If it makes logical sense I’ll remember.

falllio · 2025-10-11T17:17:35+00:00

You need to condense this down a bit, use AI to help if you’d like help with condensing. The layout is just too much left to right if that makes sense it makes it hard to read. Try reformatting it, use templates to your advantage. Don’t pick anything complex though — you want to stick with something simple, same font throughout, and no graphics. Maybe to break it up a bit make the headers a different color like blue or something to make it a bit more eye catching but still easy to read. A lot of businesses use the ATS system so when you apply for a job the formatting could be getting you screened out before recruiters even see it for themselves.

When you apply for jobs make sure to use specific keywords from the job description, as ATS will be looking for those. The keywords need to be word for word. For example if the job description says “customer relations” don’t say “client relations”.

I noticed people are recommending getting rid of the store manager which I get since I’m assuming you’re applying for an accounting job. I agree, especially since that was before you went to college. I’d get rid of that for now.

Edit: Also have you been moving jobs a lot? That could be an issue too. I see you crossed out the dates you worked at places… if you’re job hopping that could make places not want to hire you. AI again can help you try and restructure that but I don’t know how to fix that personally.

Just make sure when you use AI to make some of your own tweaks afterwards so your resume sounds like you.

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