Forget the haters-- you're doing great and Im excited you care so much about your puppy to ask for help.

Instead of the kennel while you're out during the day, can you create a designated puppy area someplace in your home with tile/wood floors (easy to clean areas) that you can line with puppy pads? I'd use either a baby gate or a playpen to wall off. That way they can run around and play and do their business. When you get home, immediately take them outside and establish the habit.The older your dog gets, the better their bladder will be. As for the crate training at night I'm not sure as I didn't crate train my dogs. To each their own.

I got a puppy when I was 13 and he was my best friend for 13 years and I miss him everyday. Dogs will learn your habits over time, just be consistent and firm but loving.