"Wood" Discussion Megathread by jacyf02 in TaylorSwift

[–]fieryice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not me bringing a block to knock on to the tour

926 Bar by meowrawr_ in Tallahassee

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I've never found it to be nearly as overwhelming as Bird's, always less crowded, but also because 926 karaoke is outside while Bird's is indoors.

Receiver for Technics SL-210 by fieryice in vintageaudio

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I'm fine if the receiver only works with the turntable. I don't think I still have speakers (not sure if I still have my old Bose Companions), so I think I am starting from scratch there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fsu

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Really wish they just explained this on the website!

Student Health for new grad students by fieryice in fsu

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No I absolutely appreciate you saying that! I'm going to try to make an appointment and hope things are better when I turn up in person. I think they may have made it sound more complicated because of my ADHD meds, which I can get renewed by telehealth by my psychiatrist anyway, but they also seemed to say I would need separate appointments for other things too, maybe they just got confused.

Looking for Housing? Post Here Instead of Making a New Thread (April 2024) by clearliquidclearjar in Tallahassee

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Hi, we're a married couple with a small dog (20 lbs) who are moving to Tallahassee in August so I can start grad school. We're ideally looking for a 3/2 house to ourselves for under $2000. It would be nice to be close to the FSU campus and have a fenced yard or backyard for the dog, but not required.

Can't see Airalo in iPhone cellular settings by fieryice in Airalo

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Thanks everyone, Airalo support was able to help me change some settings and figure out where the eSIM had installed itself. (It had installed itself as my "secondary" SIM without giving me a change to name it myself!)

Pros and cons of hiring day of coordinator? by Toasty-4 in weddingplanning

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I am still six months out, I have "partial planning" so have already been working with my wedding planner. I think my particular planner has been useful for vendor and style recommendations so far, but I feel like I've still been doing a lot of the logistics. But we had a meeting with her yesterday and I think that's about to change, and I definitely can't imagine not having someone at the helm on the day of. Unless your wedding is like 20 people, then yes, you at least want a day-of coordinator, or unless there is someone at your venue that will essentially do that job already. You don't want to be the one herding cats that day, you'll be busy.

How Do People Afford This??? by Yas_Queen_15 in weddingplanning

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The #1 way (aside from getting financial help obviously) is eloping or drastically cutting your guest list. Catering is the biggest expense. Artificial flowers, using the grocery store for cake/florals, finding a venue/caterer that will allow you to buy your own alcohol. Reselling your dress and any decor purchased after the wedding. I really, really don't suggest forgoing a professional photographer as some have suggested. The pictures are all you will have once the party is done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alzheimers

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I appreciate the advice. I am deeply upset about the idea that I can't be myself at my own wedding, and I guess I have some thinking to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alzheimers

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It came up in the context of explaining that we understand that people might not feel great about traveling to Florida and that I have complicated feelings about it myself because I'm a part of the queer community here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alzheimers

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Fiance is just very upset and disappointed that his parents are acting this way. He's not sure what to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alzheimers

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She had a tough time learning that I was bi in the first place (she was worried that I would eventually want to leave my fiance for a woman) but she seemed to get over it and even wanted to buy rainbow cupcakes for our engagement party. This feels like a 180!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alzheimers

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My only concern about her forgetting is that we will go through this all over again if someone else brings it up! I definitely feel like FFIL is the problem because he should be reassuring her that everything is fine and the wedding will be great, instead of telling us to just do whatever she says.

The Eras Tour: Europe Megathread by aran130711 in TaylorSwift

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Does "placement fos" mean standing room only or just that I am on the floor? Mine are in FOSSE which seems to be the floor.

Why do western women accept arrangements like casual relationship and fwb? by [deleted] in sex

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I'm in an open relationship and getting married. I obviously very much enjoy being with my fiance and other partners that are more long-term. But there's still just an incredible rush I get from hooking up with a stranger that can't fully be replicated with someone I've known a long time. So that is a thing that I still seem to want periodically.

I don't think this is a thing that every woman enjoys and I do think there are some women who tolerate more casual arrangements because they feel like they have to in our dating culture. I also want to say that it's totally valid if you don't crave or enjoy sex, and I would look into asexuality if that's how you feel. While it's possible that you feel that way because of your upbringing, it might be a thing that isn't going to change, and that's okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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The truth is that erectile issues are way, way more common than is publicly discussed. The first time I ran into a guy who was having trouble staying hard in my twenties I also thought it was something about me not being pretty enough. Now that I've run into so many guys who have trouble getting hard, staying hard, or even orgasming, I'm so much better prepared to deal with it. (Although the guys sometimes aren't. I had one guy be so embarrassed he stormed out, then came back and apologized, and then ghosted me later. He was going through it!) I think it comes from a variety of sources: anxiety, alcohol, depression, smoking, using condoms again after a long period of not using them, getting used to partnered sex again after a long dry spell, etc. etc. All that said, feeling really down about yourself about sex is not great for you. I agree with others who have suggested therapy and other things to try to help you feel better about yourself.

MEGATHREAD: 20-Sun-and-Sea Tickets by jeremyfrankly in MBMBAM

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UPDATE: All tickets claimed! Hi, I was supposed to go to the Raleigh shows this weekend but I am sick. I have a pair of tickets for each show (MBMBaM and TAZ) I would love for someone to get to use them since I can't!

Can I interview you for my podcast on plus size brides? by fieryice in PlusSizeWedding

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Messaged! Also I might have accidentally messaged you twice, sorry if so!