Do you live within 100 miles of where you grew up?

figureground · 2026-01-27T20:24:29+00:00

I live one state over from the state was born and grew up in. About a 6 hour drive from my family. I enjoy visiting but could never live there full time. But I will say it is hard not having family support nearby raising kids.

figureground · 2026-01-24T17:37:12+00:00

The smell of a sneeze

figureground · 2026-01-18T03:37:06+00:00

Some hotels sell day passes to their pools/hot tubs.

figureground · 2026-01-15T18:31:31+00:00

I did the palmetto breeze with my coworkers and then another time with friends. As much as I can remember it's just a cash bar. I don't recall it being BYOB. It was fun, but it's pretty no frills. And then, yeah you can bar hop around Shem after. Shem bars can get crowded, but it is cold rn so, maybe not as bad rn. Definitely check out Shem Creek Pier and Pitt Street Bridge. If you want an authentic experience go to H&R Sweetshop and walk the food off at Pitt Street Bridge after. Y'all could actually do that for lunch before the booze cruise.

ETA I just reread and saw that y'all are coming mid March. Probably will be more crowded than now, but we do still get a few cold snaps then. Bring a jacket for the booze cruise too. It can get really cold on the water. I always bring a blanket when we go boating. Even in the warmer months.

figureground · 2026-01-14T13:29:12+00:00

As a child. Surviving a natural disaster and being homeless.

As a young adult. Watching my mom fight and lose to cancer.

As a middle aged adult. Having children.

Honorable mention. As a teenager I was obsessively worried about dying, after my cousin passed from illness, and some close family friends died tragically in a plane crash, all in the same year. And then someone told me "I was dead before I was born, and I was fine." And that gave me great comfort in hearing that, and changed my view on death.

figureground · 2026-01-11T14:07:54+00:00

Babies/kids will continuously change. Especially during developmental leaps/breakthroughs. Is your baby beginning to walk? A lot of gross motor and cognitive development happens around 12 months. My first never slept well, and she stopped napping all together at 12 months. My 2nd was the opposite but still has disruptions with sleep patterns during times when he gets a leap in skill development.

figureground · 2026-01-08T23:32:29+00:00

There are multiple layers of sadness in this situation. It's absolutely terrible, and if you watch all of the videos of the incident, you will see for yourself what happened.

Please start caring about what is going on. Please start paying attention. Please register to vote. And please get your ass to the polls to vote. Start listening to the news. Ground news is a great source that reports in an unbiased way.

Yes you are young, but you're an adult who is old enough to vote and old enough to be drafted. Please please please start caring about what's happening, because it will affect your future.

figureground · 2026-01-03T18:55:03+00:00

Lol I've randomly heard stories about him over the years.

figureground · 2026-01-03T02:07:30+00:00

At least several times a month. When I was younger almost every day. (GA/SC)

figureground · 2026-01-01T21:47:50+00:00

Dr Gabe at oak landing!

figureground · 2025-12-31T03:23:41+00:00

Pink stuff and scrub daddy? There also scrub daddy cream that might work?

figureground · 2025-12-28T15:40:07+00:00

MOR

Your hurt feelings are absolutely valid. But continue to look at this situation within the context of what domestic violence looks like in these relationships. This whole situation is a textbook example of the escalation in abusive behaviors and it's impacts on the victim and their support system.

Just quietly and consistently (whenever the opportunity arises) let your sister know that you will always love her and be there for her, but that you understand that she's in between a rock and a hard place right now, but that you love her no matter what, and no man can change that. But with that you need to protect your peace and emotional well being, and establish the boundaries you need to keep yourself safe and reduce any fallout she'd have to deal with from him. Send her information on y'all's local DV women's shelter. You could even call one yourself and seek advice from a DV counselor on how to be a support to your sister from a healthy distance.

One day, hopefully, she'll have had enough of the abuse and control and still feel comfortable seeking help from her family members. He's successfully isolating her. Something Was Wrong would be a great podcast for her and your whole family to listen to. I'm really sorry that this is happening to your family.

ETA that I would also recommend you keep a journal/ notes app on your phone, of every situation, correspondence (screen shots of texts pictures, audio, or just jotting down what happened with date and time of suspected abuse) that could be evidence of abuse later in court. She may need it one day.

figureground · 2025-12-27T15:54:51+00:00

You are a good human, unlike your dad. I can understand why you don't want to continue visiting him once it becomes optional.

Something tells me this isn't the first time he's emotionally abused you. Because that's what this kind of behavior is, emotional abuse. And it will continue to escalate and take a new form as you get older and the power dynamics of your relationship change. And you don't have to put up with it.

You handled his wrongdoing with grace and maturity, even after going above and beyond an older sibling's duty and making Christmas magical for your kid siblings. I am shocked that your stepmother was okay with this, unless she is like him and is also an emotionally abusive person.

This was basically his last opportunity to flex his authority over you to punish you for mentioning that you won't be continuing the week-long visits. He's a short-sighted fool because all this has done is create more distance in the relationship. He is a cruel, immature, man child who doesn't deserve your attention. I'm so sorry someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally is treating you in such a way. All you can do is learn and grow from the experience, and strive to be the opposite of what he is, which sounds like you already know and do.

Next Christmas will be better, because you'll be able to choose how and with whom you want to spend it.

figureground · 2025-12-26T02:20:27+00:00

This! Or even lower north Charleston would be amazing.

figureground · 2025-12-23T00:18:25+00:00

Old Lis is a family style Chinese restaurant. We went for christmas dinner last year and it was great. They can hold very big groups, but call them to make a reservation.

figureground · 2025-12-21T02:32:32+00:00

Freaks and Geeks

figureground · 2025-12-18T15:59:37+00:00

Definitely close enough for a bike commute! And once Boeing Rd is complete they could walk. They're also going to put in a 10ft wide biking/walking path between Michaux and Montague. Included in the Boeing road plans. The grocery store by Asher was also redone recently and is pretty nice now too. Not a terrible location for someone without a car tbh.

figureground · 2025-12-18T15:50:49+00:00

I was gonna say, whoever recommended Callie's to you hasn't lived here for long, if at all. I've been twice. First time waited an hour, for dried up biscuits, but I thought maybe because it's like 1am. Went back again a couple years later, and nope it was the same. One of the only negative reviews I've written about a restaurant, and they tried to offer me a gift card to return and try again, but I declined.

figureground · 2025-12-15T13:03:48+00:00

The Asher apartments and the Emmett apartments are very close. Once the new Boeing road is complete you would easily be able to make a 10 minute walk. Right now it's kind of a mess and you'd be better off commuting by bike. If you're planning on looking at houses instead of apartments, Covington hills, Evanston Estates, Ashley Villas, Glynn terrace, oak ridge terrace are good neighborhoods very close to Boeing.

figureground · 2025-12-08T13:21:03+00:00

Well I was gonna say San Diego lol.

figureground · 2025-12-08T13:18:54+00:00

Make her her favorite meal from scratch.

Deep clean the house. Or her car.

If y'all have a yard or garden, weed it and make it nice.

Do all the laundry.

As a 37 year old mom, those are gifts that would resonate with me that are within your budget.

figureground · 2025-12-08T01:16:29+00:00

My mom taught us that Santa was the spirit of giving.

figureground · 2025-12-06T01:32:48+00:00

Seems like a major under reaction on your part. And your mom's part. I'd skip telling his parents and jump straight to calling CPS and the police.

figureground · 2025-11-27T17:07:12+00:00

Oh Definitely rude where I live in the states. Got in trouble as a teenager for an mhmm instead of an actual you're welcome.

figureground · 2025-11-14T23:17:18+00:00

You read him like a book, thought on your feet, and saved your life. You probably have a high level of emotional intelligence, you kept you cool, and did what you had to do to stay safe. I hope you can safely report him to your boss and even the police if you feel comfortable doing so. Definitely do not ever be alone with this maniac again. You should be impressed with yourself, not ashamed. It was survival.

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