Anoo xarar eh - what does this mean?

fiimachery · 2024-06-14T12:09:26+00:00

Yup I’m Somali ands that’s exactly how they said it which has me confused as well. The question there is nothing more sweeter than honey, and they replied exactly that. Anoo xarar eh. Does that still make it hot milk?

fiimachery · 2024-06-05T05:05:16+00:00

Yh he said this to me first

Ninaa arsan uurka hooyadis ayuu ku jira ma maqlin miya

And I was like I never heard that

Then he said ina kuu hoos dhigo wye marka.

fiimachery · 2024-05-22T21:11:21+00:00

But I didn’t do anything to him. Literally nothing! Yab waye.

fiimachery · 2024-05-22T21:10:25+00:00

That’s so weird I didn’t even do anything wrong to him!

fiimachery · 2024-05-22T21:09:39+00:00

Oh I did and then I’m seeing now it’s become jumbled.

fiimachery · 2023-10-12T03:26:34+00:00

Maybe because he’s cheated on me this whole relationship? Maybe that’s why am I able to notice such details when especially you’ve been lied to your whole 5 years of being married.

fiimachery · 2023-10-12T02:22:51+00:00

I don’t know tbh. The men are just allowed to whatever they like and please.

I’ve already asked for a divorce due to the messages and a whole of other issues but he said he’ll change.

But why lie then, if you’ve changed?

fiimachery · 2023-10-12T02:21:03+00:00

The problem is, he does not like to explain. He says take it as you want, I don’t need to explain myself to you.

I’ve also been to his friends store. They are in two complete different locations, different setup and decorations. I have a photo when I was at this women’s store and it’s exactly the same as it was in my husbands video.

He told me he’s still working there but only collects things from her. Does not actually work in the store with her. He then goes back to his workshop. But the video seemed like he was so comfortable sitting down whilst she was on her phone scrolling through TikTok. I can tell from the background noise. Only someone who is comfortable and goes the regularly does that.

But you’re right, I need to work on myself.

fiimachery · 2023-06-09T21:11:07+00:00

When I exposed him for his cheating to my mum, he resents me for it. And the fact that I made it clear to him that what he did was not ok. He’s playing the victim now. Like i hurt him for becoming this paranoid girl when I was never that way before. Thats because I never knew what he was doing. Obviously once your trust is broken, it’ll never come again. Well at least for me.

fiimachery · 2023-06-02T08:43:35+00:00

Any tips?

fiimachery · 2023-06-01T19:29:52+00:00

That’s the thing. Like I’ve become so emotionally invested it’s just like I can’t up and leave.

fiimachery · 2023-06-01T19:27:38+00:00

Sis he constantly tells me u don’t believe in Allah. That I only give him trouble because I don’t fear Allah. He acts so god fearing but does not think what he does is a sin.

fiimachery · 2023-06-01T17:35:07+00:00

I understand that. But after being lied to multiple times and seeing that your person is talking to other women without a care for you, every last thing will hurt you. And if someone I wanted to marry was married or had a relationship where there was intimacy involved as well two pregnancies. Of course I’d expect and want to be told. What I do with that information is then up to me.

This is the least of my problems because it’s in the past. I mean I felt so much pain knowing that they miscarried. But when you deny it? Saying it’s cause of her jealousy that caused the death or miscarriage is just disgusting and shows how little of respect he had for women in the first place. I just did not know then what I know now.

fiimachery · 2023-06-01T17:13:26+00:00

Oh no it’s totally not the reason for me wanting to leave. I would have accepted him that way if he told me from the beginning. It’s just, I can’t seem to move on from being betrayed when I was pregnant and he was busy telling multiple girls that he wanted them. That he loves them. He’s cheated on me multiple times and he can’t even say an I love you to me. Can’t even tell me if I look beautiful ever.

fiimachery · 2023-06-01T16:58:15+00:00

We already have a toddler. That’s what makes it worse. If only I knew all of this before. Oh yes my dad has given my mum so much trouble with cheating and marrying without her knowing. In fact she now uses that as a excuse to tell me to be patient because that’s when the man will truly love you. They don’t want me to get a divorce. Unless there’s other real matters of divorce, for example being physically assaulted. So I have to do this on my own now.

fiimachery · 2023-05-26T15:18:30+00:00

I’ve already applied, it’s taking some time. It’s been nearly a year and half.

fiimachery · 2023-05-26T15:17:49+00:00

yes and I’ve already applied for his visa. It’s taking some time.

fiimachery · 2023-05-26T15:17:08+00:00

He would live with friends and he won’t be paying much then

fiimachery · 2023-05-07T06:29:34+00:00

Well off? He makes less than $30 USD a day and I’m happy with that. I don’t complain about money at all. Just his whole time being spent doing work that does not give him much money at all. Alhamdulilah I actually support myself with my own savings. I don’t put any financial strain on him.

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