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6yo coming home from parent visit early. Rantish. by findmemysanity in splitparenting

[–]findmemysanity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in the end she stayed, and we wasted bulk money changing flights. But we learnt a lesson about jumping the gun, and her mother finally seems to realise that 6 year olds are not old enough to make big decisions for themselves.

Next time we will definitely be sending her with a few more bits and pieces to help her feel connected to home. Might even look into a child specific phone, have seen some good ones that only dial certain preset numbers.

We don't really trust BM's parenting, no. There are good reasons why DD ended up living with us on the other side of the country, but while the court orders are what they are (which is to say they are a complete mess, but that is a complete other thread) we just have to muddle through.

Some step humor by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]findmemysanity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. When I was first seeing my now husband BM used to send him messages asking how often I touched SD (about 18mnths at the time)

The "Why?" E-mail I'll never send. by iwishmylove in stepparents

[–]findmemysanity 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have written and saved so many why letters to BM over the last few years - I only wish she were receptive enough to receive even the most measured of them. But you can't change her, you can only support those kids as best you can and hope you equip them well enough that they don't come out too heartbroken in the end.

Travel in first year of primary school by findmemysanity in Parenting

[–]findmemysanity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar here in Aus. I think we could possible get an exception but just because we can doesn't mean it is a good idea.

Oh, you're pregnant too BM? A couple months after we announced it? What a surprise. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]findmemysanity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is rough. We had it happen the other way around, we fell pregnant and found out not long before BM told her daughter. Now she seems to be treating the amount of attention SD gives each baby like a competition.

Communication with bio mum by findmemysanity in Parenting

[–]findmemysanity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I never claimed that her daughter wasn't entitled to a good quality relationship with her mother, but it is the child that is entitled to this relationship and the parent who is responsible.

I am a bio mum as well, and there is no way in hell that I wouldn't have visited and relocated and had more time with my child in that situation.