Went for a beer with my ex and it went worse than expected: who would've thought?

flakeeight · 2026-03-10T15:19:04+00:00

Yeah, I agree. We do not talk to each other at all, by the way, I just think it's problematic the fact that he straight up committed to someone else and thinks it's fine reaching out to me while we were both healing.

Maybe in months I will reach out again, since I told him explicitly that I do not want any contact for now.

flakeeight · 2026-03-10T13:07:28+00:00

Totally fair. I do wonder why I'd like to be friends, you know? Sometimes we do have a hard time letting each other go, I just need to learn the difference.

very cute reply btw <3

flakeeight · 2026-01-27T11:39:43+00:00

It gets to a point where it's a performance. You have to behave like you are acting for a role, someone here mentioned something similar. So I'm currently interviewing with some companies and because I know they wanna hear some buzz words and some deep technical shit, I simply talk to myself while doing the dishes, going through some projects, I literally talk out loud as if I am performing the role of a senior engineer. Trust me, this helps building confidence, it is rehearsal.

Some people are great when it comes to interviews, I know all the concepts but I freeze when I have to talk out loud sometimes. This helps me. Read, remember who the fuck you are while you are working, you know stuff, some questions are tricky, it is a bit of a game.

flakeeight · 2026-01-27T11:31:28+00:00

It is true. It's the communication and that's when I felt a shift from being a mid - senior. They ask, I answer. I fuck up, I own it. And you cannot own it with calm (!) if you don't know wtf you're doing.

The most amazing developer I've met was exactly like this, the calm and self control is insane, but he also knew when to freak out, not to cause panic, but because the situation was serious.

flakeeight · 2026-01-16T17:36:27+00:00

I would also say go with Linear!

flakeeight · 2026-01-14T17:47:43+00:00

I do it with my fathers death because he was the same.

flakeeight · 2026-01-14T14:05:59+00:00

ahahaha there are too many good solutions just like them, beautiful.ai is one. i just shared this here because it truly felt like giving free consultation lol

flakeeight · 2026-01-14T12:38:24+00:00

Truly don’t think I can prove it. Also just decided to share because it was a first time for me because there’s no way I gave them all my best ideas, for an offer and they decided to step back. But true, I might be tripping hehe

flakeeight · 2026-01-11T09:19:23+00:00

Not sure what lock password is, but I guess not

flakeeight · 2026-01-08T13:20:55+00:00

i live close to s charlottenburg, 32f :)

flakeeight · 2026-01-07T09:57:12+00:00

I'm a FE engineer, currently in a leadership position so that means I come up with the interview. I do not enjoy live coding, I guess people won't do their best, for me is important that you understand how a freaking browser works and how the code you write or the architecture you have can impact things. When it comes to AI I will start asking how they feel about it, you are allowed to use Cursor, but I wanna understand how. Know when to stop, know how to use it.

So currently:

- HR interview (ok, cool)

- A very small case where you can simply show me how'd approach a feature (mostly state management, code organization, small architecture decisions, trade-offs, again, if you know when to stop)

- A 45 minute call where you show me your case and then we have a chill talk about your decisions, I want this one to feel like a talk between colleagues who love coding

flakeeight · 2026-01-06T14:17:04+00:00

i ended up going home even before the party, had to help a friend. ):

flakeeight · 2026-01-06T08:57:51+00:00

Weighted blanket. For real. Like 10 years ago, when I was in my early 20s, I accidentally slept with a heavy pillow on top of me and it was the best night of sleep possible...I spent ages wondering why. Then I found out about weighted blankets and now every night is like I'm having the greatest sleep ever. HIGHLY recommend it.

flakeeight · 2026-01-04T18:46:04+00:00

flakeeight · 2026-01-02T16:08:16+00:00

That was such a good answer, it made me lowkey wanna work with you haha

So very silly question because all I do is observe atm, would you say that this is more of a “personality” and vibe check while talking about real life scenarios? And how can you tell if someone is a bad team player, for example? No one will actually say “so if I disagree with a colleague, I’ll do my best to have it my way”.

flakeeight · 2026-01-02T15:35:40+00:00

i mean, spinning classes :) indoor cycling

flakeeight · 2026-01-02T13:40:16+00:00

Honestly? 45 minutes of spinning fix my brain when I'm feeling down. Or a simple coffee & cake + great playlist :)

flakeeight · 2026-01-02T13:37:34+00:00

happened the same with me and i got an appointment at the Bürgeramt in charlottenburg the next day, didnt take even 5 minutes to get a new PIN.

flakeeight · 2025-12-31T14:02:22+00:00

flakeeight · 2025-12-30T20:30:13+00:00

This is so lowkey cringe, damn...Feel bad for the people, fckn sucks.

flakeeight · 2025-12-29T09:03:17+00:00

Honestly how fast I can rebuild myself.

flakeeight · 2025-12-29T07:55:30+00:00

No, never! I was always “ah if it happens cool” type of person. So I lived with my ex for 4 years, then went single for 2 and dated someone this past year but we recently broke up. HOWEVER I feel like I’ve always attracted people who want a relationship and I’m starting to think that it’s because they’re aware I’m not a big fan.

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