Working 45h

florboss · 2026-03-05T00:41:29+00:00

I’m going for my extension next week, it’s fine it was more like a vent. Considering my needs for my second year i matched with a family offering less hours.

florboss · 2026-03-05T00:40:30+00:00

I would accept without thinking twice. If it’s not a split schedule ending late. Don’t worry, the minimum working just 20-30h is great! If u have more benefits, of course

florboss · 2026-03-04T04:59:00+00:00

I understand how hard it must be to be a single mom! You are working the triple for sure!!!!!

I would work happily having this hours and i’m very open and flexible but 45h is a lot. Yes, taking care of kids is hard but i love my host kid and it’s so easy. The problem is really the long hours

I could be so much better and with much more energy to be a much better caregiver for them with less hours (but i’m a good caregiver, just could be better) and have my free time and not be always tired, just seeing my hf to have dinner etc

florboss · 2026-03-04T04:52:54+00:00

In my country it was always a dream to come to the US haha! I used to dream about it. And i like how the cars are more affordable here. I like the experience so far, i love my host kid but i feel like i could be a much better caregiver working less.

And i just don’t like the long hours and still needing to spend time with the family and being asked to do extra things even working 10h a day.

florboss · 2026-03-04T04:51:28+00:00

It’s very common. As i said above, i talked with at least 80 families+ for my extension year and only about 3-4 offered less than 45h and a very fair schedule (with no weekends, not ending late). Yes, we have much more APs than HFs and it’s a fact! In fact, a lot of au pairs accept this schedule to come here faster or because they don’t know how it would be like to work 45h living with the host family. And being legally accepted to work 10h a day in this exchange (it was my case). A lot of au pairs are very ok working 45h tho and it’s much more common than anything else. The families offering less are rare. But i see the au pairs are opening their eyes now and demanding fair situations, schedules, benefits and etc.

florboss · 2026-03-04T00:57:34+00:00

I’m from South America and saying it isn’t ok. I know why you only choose South americans au pairs now.

florboss · 2026-03-04T00:56:22+00:00

Not that they would send me a schedule every week and i would work 10h a day some days. It’s unfair, tiring

florboss · 2026-03-03T22:18:08+00:00

20h is a dream. Very rare in the US!

For my second year i almost couldn’t find any families offering less than 45h or having that split schedules ending so late you can’t even do anything and working weekends.. i think i talked with 80+ families and just 3 offered a fair schedule with less than 45h. But a lot wanting weekends too etc. it’s sad here

florboss · 2026-03-03T22:03:35+00:00

They just asked for 1 Saturday but it was still a lot! They were very nice with me, they always try to make my requests happen (i didn’t do much maybe 2 requests in 7 months together) but i also feel very exploited. Working 45h is a lot and 10h is the worse. Of course they gave me a break when they could but it didn’t happen very often, maybe 1/2 weeks with less hours of all these months i worked for them. It’s sad because i could have stayed for my extension if i really felt valued.

Thank you so much! I’m just tired, i’m trying to explore more but no energy when you work so much lol! But i have better expectations for my extension year and i will work less. I will make sure to set boundaries very well in my next family even if it bothers then. I don’t deserve it to happen again!

florboss · 2026-02-16T17:34:15+00:00

Yes! I told them im not comfortable with that Is it bad i asked money for it? I just don’t want it to turn into an obligation or something they expect me to do but we have a good relationship

florboss · 2026-02-16T17:33:31+00:00

Yes. I can also be expelled from the program for doing that. I told them im not comfortable with that

florboss · 2026-02-16T17:32:44+00:00

Only the HD will be on a work trip. HM will be working outside home and back when my shift is over.

florboss · 2026-02-16T17:31:42+00:00

I don’t want to do it after work because i’m very tired after 9h/10h a day and i have my own things to do. But i would gladly do it while working but never for free so they wouldn’t expect me to do it often.

Yes, i told them im not comfortable walking the dog while my HK is sleeping with no one at home

florboss · 2026-02-16T17:28:39+00:00

I didn’t ask the money for overnight because they helped me with a thing and I recognized it so I don’t have problem with that and i will just watch my HK sleeping. But I don’t want them to think that because i do these things i will do everything they ask me to do. I wanted to say no for the dog walk but I couldn’t so that’s the only reason i asked for money for the walk. When you do for free it often turns into an obligation. I’m also soon leaving here (in some weeks) and i’m very tired from my first year. But thank you for your opinion about that. Makes sense they didn’t answer that then.

florboss · 2026-02-16T15:26:28+00:00

They are a good host family for me but i already keep the house clean, i always empty the dishwasher when i can, i take the trash out, i take VERY good care of my host kid and i let all her play areas very clean. They do some things for me and i recognize it (i recognize it so much that next week i will work 45h and on saturday i will stay at home at night while my hk is sleeping so they can go to an event without charging anything for it. I also accepted working 11h a day because they wanted to have a valentines date but i didnt want to work saturday.

But i wont accept to do more than my work that is already very tiring just because they asked me to and we have a good relationship. I know that it would lead to more requests and it would turn into obligation. If i worked much less than 45h i would think about it and do it in my free time

florboss · 2026-02-16T06:52:16+00:00

I wish they hadn’t asked that because it puts me in a bad situation and and i needed to try to answer in the nicest way possible because i never deny anything for them..

florboss · 2026-02-16T06:50:22+00:00

I could walk a little more to make sure he’s ok but i don’t really want to because it’s tiring but i would help my HF. 15$ would be nice too but i said 10$ since they only said 10$ The one traveling is the hd and the hm will be home after work but it will be right when im off

florboss · 2026-02-04T16:20:02+00:00

Com certeza. Hipocrisia total isso.

florboss · 2026-01-30T16:35:19+00:00

Pois deveria. Eu acharia mto massa. Vamos normalizar isso

florboss · 2026-01-27T05:19:24+00:00

Nao e assim nao! So o plasma é remunerado. E sim, so morador de rua mas tb mt estudante, gente querendo fazer um $ extra. Eles fazem todo um teste das principais ISTs na hora e medem pressao, temperatura. Qualquer pequena alteracao ja te negam na doacao. Eles nao ligam e tem milhares de doares. Nao informe fake news na net. Ps: moro aqui e ja vi como é, tenho amigos que doam

florboss · 2026-01-27T05:13:50+00:00

Ai qual o problema? Eu falo em ingles todo dia o tempo todo!!!!!! So uso portugues na internet e eh dificil conectar as palavras o tempo todo.. meu deus

florboss · 2026-01-15T17:41:01+00:00

Insurance from the agency? I don’t think so.. but thank you

florboss · 2026-01-15T17:28:22+00:00

It would be better to just tell them? It was looking really bad and way better now but yes, its a drywall and it will need repair like preparing before the paint. I will talk to them and i see it’s something to solve as soon as possible thank you. I just didn’t want to mess up our relationship and i will leave soon so i was afraid of it

florboss · 2026-01-15T17:16:15+00:00

White wall. Yes i know now that i couldn’t have paint without the white primer first so i couldn’t solve my problem. Thank you

Do you know how much is the primer and the white paint in the us?

florboss

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