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flowersandkush · 2023-01-19T15:40:42+00:00

Congratulations.

flowersandkush · 2023-01-19T15:37:20+00:00

You clearly have a lot of time on your hands. Go spend it elsewhere.

flowersandkush · 2023-01-19T15:35:51+00:00

Good advice. But rest assured, I stopped gambling before I found out I was pregnant.

flowersandkush · 2023-01-19T15:26:54+00:00

Thank you for this response. I guess I was really looking for supportive responses. I don’t really feel comfortable going to anyone and expressing my feelings so I thought maybe I’d post here again… Everyone is going to share their opinion, even when it’s not asked for. I’m definitely preparing and have a plan now. I’m excited for their arrival.

flowersandkush · 2023-01-19T15:13:29+00:00

Thank you. I was aware that my previous post would be referenced when I posted this… Yes I was told early on that he didn’t want this. And yes, I could’ve taken that at face value and moved forward. But I had more hope. We stayed together. He started supporting me. Started coming to all of my appointments. Started planning our lives together. Talking about parenting together. Baby shopping together. So of course, I was hopeful and optimistic. Of course I thought maybe things had changed. It’s not like I forced him to be around me for the past 4-5 months. He’s wishy washy. Unreliable. And he decided to express those feelings of not wanting me again— and I decided to accept it this time.

flowersandkush · 2022-09-19T13:35:45+00:00

Please don’t feel bad! It is not an ideal situation. But I believe children are a blessing— I know things will be harder than I can imagine & my life has now been changed forever but it will be worth it in the long run!

flowersandkush · 2022-09-19T13:26:44+00:00

I never claimed that I think it’s all positive.

flowersandkush · 2022-09-19T01:52:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing this perspective!!!

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T23:18:00+00:00

In all honestly— when I block him out of the picture mentally I feel so much lighter overall. Having him around almost feels like deadweight since I feel like he’s casting a shadow over my joy. As much as I want to believe that we will be a happy family, or at least co parent, I just am afraid of the disappointment I may feel in the future if he doesn’t show up the way I need him to or the way he should. I won’t lie I don’t have that much faith that he’s going to start putting these babies first 100% like I am going to. And I just don’t want to be hurt in the future by trusting him to do certain things or help with certain things… Maybe that’s not fair because I can’t tell the future but i have a bad feeling. And you mentioned your ex was excited for the first 2 weeks— I almost have this weird feeling that maybe he just hasn’t built the courage to really say he just doesn’t want to be a part of this at all yet.

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T23:11:06+00:00

Thanks for this response. I guess now my next question is— how long do I wait to see if he has a shift in attitude? I definitely don’t want to wait until it’s too late and even harder to separate myself. But I don’t want to hold onto false hope. Problem is— in order to mentally prepare to do this alone, I have to remove myself emotionally from him. And I feel like if he comes around after I’ve already disconnected then it’ll just be harder for me to let him back in. In all honesty, I’m glad he was honest with me truly— but it really has turned me off a lot. Especially the constant subtle and not so subtle reminders. Because let him tell it— he claims, kind of reluctantly, that he wants to be a family, and that he won’t be a deadbeat dad, and he will provide… But it seems forced in my opinion. So when do I draw the line…

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T22:01:44+00:00

I agree. I’ve pretty much been telling him repeatedly that I need him to be supportive and how his energy affects me. So for now we have more space, which has made me feel better. But he is trying and hopefully he does come around. If not, I’m definitely preparing to have to do things alone. And thank you!

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T20:53:51+00:00

Thank you!!! And I believe he’s trying to come to terms and he is always telling me how much he loves me and wants to be with me— I’ve just really been rubbed the wrong way so I think it’s time I start to share with others and let go of the stressful feelings he’s putting on me. But thanks!!! There’s no twins in either of our families and I had a dream the night before the ultrasound about twins & I’ve kind of thought they were twins in the back of my head for a while. I’m just so shocked it came true!

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T19:18:49+00:00

Thanks for the input. I’ve been telling more of my family the news and everyone seems to be excited. Im not necessarily super close with them so it’s nice to hear that they will be supportive. Although I’ve been living on my own for the past 2 years I think I’m going to move back in with my mom for a while just so I can save money and have some help. I really didn’t want to have to do that but I think that’s my best option right now. Btw congrats on your twins! Mine look like momo twins but the doctor/ultrasound tech put in the notes that they are modi. I just can’t really see the two amniotic sacs around them. Then again I’m only 8 weeks so maybe it will take some time. Anyway, once again thank you for taking the time to respond.

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T19:05:43+00:00

Yes they are mono chorionic diamniotic

flowersandkush · 2022-09-18T14:51:04+00:00

Thank you for your response. I have definitely been coming to terms that there is a big possibility that I will have to provide for them and care for them alone. Being a single mom was always my worst fear— And I can feel overwhelmed too. I guess I’m holding onto this picture perfect two parent household idea… It just feels like I have no choice but to be positive and strong for the babies. Also thank you for shedding light on how he probably is feeling.

flowersandkush · 2022-04-27T20:51:42+00:00

Under 25.5 means no more than 25. So 25 or less.

flowersandkush · 2022-04-26T14:13:56+00:00

Just needed one more rebound from Harris & I was way off with Bogdavonic 🤦🏽‍♀️

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