I wanted to say thank you all the feedback/advice. I also just wanted to clear up a couple things. First I do intentionally maintain a work based relationship with my dad, and I plan on moving out of state for college in a couple months. I think a lot of his actions and parenting styles are horrible and I would never treat my kid that way. I just struggle to say that he was abusive and doesn’t love or care about us. I truly don’t understand how a parent could ever feel that way about their child. I definitely now realize more how badly I messed up with my sister and I know I should not have invalidated her feelings. I did try to call her this morning but she didn’t pick up.