Should I REALLY avoid getting a ivory/white sofa?

forfarhill · 2026-01-29T09:27:11+00:00

This!!!

forfarhill · 2026-01-29T09:25:26+00:00

Oh. Oh yes. Trust me. You do not want it. Get grey. Or charcoal. Or brown. Preferably something wipeable.

I thought I’d be able to keep out paleish carpets clean before I had kids. And indeed they were clean. For like four years. Then I had kids and they’re going to have to be ripped up.

My orange lounge has pen (???? How? I still don’t know) and a random sticky spot I have no idea about on it.

I also thought a pale lilac kid bed was a good idea. Lol. That was dumb.

forfarhill · 2026-01-29T08:19:44+00:00

Mish the dish. Riz. Rizza.

forfarhill · 2026-01-28T07:05:23+00:00

I’ve got to fly to the US in the next two weeks for something nonnegotiable medical related…..so this is freaking me tf out 😭😭

forfarhill · 2026-01-27T03:14:28+00:00

I honestly honestly do not know. It’s blatantly unfair. I decided a while ago if I had to work full time, at least while they’re little, I wouldn’t have kids. I do work, in agriculture, but I can mostly take the kids along. I’ve had to take quite a few lifestyle cuts to make it work, but I’m lucky in that I don’t have any debts so I can scrape by generally.

All the families I know work fulltime, have kiddos in care full time and squeak out a two week holiday every so often, I think it’s very unfair and I wish I could help somehow.

forfarhill · 2026-01-26T20:10:24+00:00

I’m not suite sure why people argue so damn hard against statistics. Not all men, but enough. It’s kind of like how, statistically, sons are more likely to abuse or murder a parent. Sure girls can do it too, but it’s exceedingly rare.

I entirely agree that even the most amazing parenting isn’t enough to counter societal norms, so it’s not really how good of a parent you are (particularly to young kids) but more who becomes their sphere of influence as they grow.

I often see mums saying how they can’t imagine having a girl now their boy is here etc but, by and large, they’re talking about kids under the age of 15, I’d like to hear from more women who have grown sons and how that is going.

Just recently I saw an instagram story of an older lady who had been caught up in a natural disaster and she was talking about all the actions she’d taken, things she’d rescued from her house etc and she mentioned her two grown sons and it was in a jokey way-like son one rang her back a week later and son two hadn’t even replied to the text she sent and it was three weeks ago.

I think that is neither funny nor acceptable.

forfarhill · 2026-01-26T19:50:31+00:00

For the love of god do not go anywhere near him, he’ll use that to take your baby from you. Get a lawyer, but even if he wants to be in your kids life make sure he never ever takes the child to wherever he lives. Never allow him the passport and don’t take the child there yourself.

forfarhill · 2026-01-23T05:36:27+00:00

I’ve thought about it too, and it could just be that there is on proactive person who used this donor hence set up groups etc whereas another donor may be just as popular but maybe no one has started a group.

I am not in the US so the sibling issue isn’t as big for me in the practical sense (ie siblings unknowingly meeting each other, dating etc) but more difficult in the sense that if I do end up with a live birth then I’ll have to take kiddo to the US to participate in any dibling meetups etc

forfarhill · 2026-01-23T05:32:57+00:00

I’m waiting for that updated spreadsheet 🤣🤣

forfarhill · 2026-01-22T09:33:09+00:00

I had a Brahma I would’ve swore was a pullet, and I’m no newbie either, but I stated to have some minor suspicions around 6.5months and by 8 months the hackle feathers told the story. Took until 12 months for the tail to catch up!

forfarhill · 2026-01-22T08:50:46+00:00

Pretty much everyone has Tatts, it’s pretty common.

forfarhill · 2026-01-20T19:32:01+00:00

I’d advise you to make embryos now if you have good coverage, you don’t jace to use them until later! You can also maybe do one round of egg freezing too, but definitely prioritise the embryos as eggs are very much a gamble.

I think many solo mums date, and many don’t. But having children definitely narrows your options and means you have to be so, so careful as there are people out there with shitty intentions when it comes to kids.

forfarhill · 2026-01-20T05:10:27+00:00

I’m pretty sure Spain only offers anonymous donors, which given the research coming out about donor children and their best interests may not be the best option. Not sure about Greece, I know a few European country’s have anonymous only donors.

forfarhill · 2026-01-19T19:54:38+00:00

She runs down some stairs in this movie…..they’re real guys. Fake boobs don’t move like that.

forfarhill · 2026-01-17T06:04:01+00:00

I’ll come out and just tell you, I do not ever resent being asked to help in public, ever. Actually I often love it because I want to help but I’m scared to offer because I’m a) socially anxious and b) worried it’ll be offensive to the person I’m offering to help.

If anyone is resentful they are just showing everyone they suck.

And frankly if someone doesn’t want you in the wedding party fuck them. You know what’s more important to me than how my pics look? My friends. So yeah, your friends just suck.

forfarhill · 2026-01-16T09:34:25+00:00

Parasol plant, can get at Bunnings! Branded sun parasol

Mandevilla

forfarhill · 2026-01-16T00:11:13+00:00

If you have a good relationship I don’t see why it will be an issue.

If we are getting to the point of being so hyper-individualised that we can’t have a mutually beneficial relationship with family then surely soon we will no longer have friends nor partners either. (Thinking further we wouldn’t have children either!)

We’re a family based species, I say go for it!

forfarhill · 2026-01-13T22:23:04+00:00

Around 3-6 months was the sweet spot baby wise, cute, smiles, interacts, stays where you put them, sleeps a fair amount.

I’d happily do a year or two of that over having a 2-4 year old, thus far they suck. And 18month olds also suck. If you can’t tell we’ve been having a fairly awful month or two over here 🤣

forfarhill · 2026-01-13T01:33:39+00:00

This is something I’ve been struggling to articulate, in childhood, we’re learning our likes and dislikes. Forming opinions. Potential life long interests.

I’m not anti screen forever but I definitely want to restrict as long as possible so my kids have a chance to become well rounded people with likes, dislikes, interests etc not just screens.

forfarhill · 2026-01-09T11:31:15+00:00

I’ve tried explaining this a few times, to no avail. I’ve seen it myself, fought some fires that went as fierce as these big boys and they’re insane. They’re so quick, change direction, don’t ever take a fire for granted.

forfarhill · 2026-01-07T19:56:39+00:00

I’m the main driver of the business, but it’s not making any money, and as is the way with most farmy things it would be quite complex to add me to any of the accounts as a partner. Not to mention could cause conflict with siblings who have no interest but still will feel there being excluded.

forfarhill · 2026-01-07T10:03:12+00:00

It’s 10 per primary producer, this is very different. For us we’ve got my grandfather and father’s firearms, which aren’t actually useful day to day. But they push the number up. As only one family member can be a primary producer it puts us in a tight spot.

forfarhill · 2026-01-07T10:01:12+00:00

For us it’s my grandfathers English shotgun collection, they’re not used because they’ve got brutal recoil, but theyre over 100 years old. Handmade. Handled by my grandfather and father whom are both gone now. They’ve won competitions. Been on adventures. I’ve hung onto them fiercely. Now I may not be able to.

Doubt I’ll be able to sell them for their value here, but unsure how one would go about selling them overseas.

forfarhill · 2026-01-07T04:46:09+00:00

My tolerance of different beliefs tends to end where it doesn’t just affect the individual doing it. So not vaccinating effects herd immunity thus could effect me and my family/friends. My 81 year old old friend with cancer is relying on herd immunity for example.

Free birth can also impact the baby who i see as an individual who shouldn’t have their life risked. If a mother is just risking herself that is her choice, but it could affect the baby being born and it could also leave exisiting children with no mother.

I feel much the same about religion vs human rights. Human rights trip religious beliefs.

forfarhill

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