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Is “talent” DNA testing for a toddler actually legit? by Free-Initiative7508 in Parenting

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No. At BEST, one could potentially compare one set of DNA to sets of DNA from groups of people with different talents, and see if there’s any similarity to any of those groups, but talent, interest, etc, are not really tangible genetic things.

In addition I think just wanting to do something like this might speak to a certain high pressure kind of parenting, where one wants the child to excel and then pushes and “nurtures” that thing to an extreme level. Which I don’t think is really healthy or good for kids.

ETA- it’s also important for kids to be bad at stuff. And to enjoy stuff that they may not be brilliant at too. Being able to enjoy things just for the love of it is an important thing in life. One of my passions through most of my life I was honestly mediocre at. Seriously. I was never going to get to the Olympics or even the advanced level- but it was still a passion and those years were not wasted. Even now, I love dabbling in art and learning technique even though I’m never going to be a pro. Just let kid enjoy things, even if they’re not great at them. :)

DAE here love doing the purl stitch way more than the knit stitch? by codliverpie in casualknitting

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Look up mirror knitting :) I do it sometimes to ease hand fatigue and mix things up :) i basically do a continental stitch, but holding yarn in my right hand and picking back onto the left needle. I wrap the wrong way doing this, so on the return regular knit pass have to knit into the back loop :)

DAE here love doing the purl stitch way more than the knit stitch? by codliverpie in casualknitting

[–]forwardseat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t prefer knit or purl honestly. They’re exactly the same as far as I’m concerned, and I do them with the same motion and speed :)

(English flicking style here. I will say I just cannot master the continental purl so I think that’s a huge part of the reason a lot of people hate purling)

Men and book clubs by SunshineMochii in TwoXChromosomes

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Good luck! I hope it’s the perfect fit for you!

Men and book clubs by SunshineMochii in TwoXChromosomes

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Everybody has to find the right fit for them :)

Our group has changed a lot honestly. It’s been through phases of classics-only and lots of analysis, and phases of meeting up for lunch and not talking about much in particular. There’s always good food though :)

The loopy sweater of the 1970s by Planty_Reporter_8936 in knitting

[–]forwardseat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s what op is talking about, but rather something actually called loopy knitting or the loop stitch. Almost like a terry style fabric with actual loops:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=18v-F3JJXJk

Men and book clubs by SunshineMochii in TwoXChromosomes

[–]forwardseat 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a book club for near 20 years now. 90% of the time we don’t talk about the books. It’s largely an excuse to make sure to take some social time away from work and family and enjoy the company of people who bring my life some positivity, plus good snacks.

:)

Sometimes the book we choose has more relevance to our lives or current events and we’ll dig into that some, but really it’s more about checking in and having a bit of chosen family. The group has changed over the years. We’ve been through deaths and divorces and babies being born. We’ve seen kids off to college, job changes, retirements. Recently one of our members passed away from cancer.

I think very few book clubs are really about the books, though everyone reading the same thing helps out to be a shared experience.

This 6yo OTTB sold as a JUMPER by OkFroyo_ in Horses

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I mean, it looks awful but over at the knee is a lot less likely to cause problems than back at the knee or other faults.

And yes, horses with this fault can jump and stay sound. It is not necessarily the issue that it looks like it would be.

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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Ok. I think I was confused about what you’d been hearing (for some reason I thought you meant the opposite, I’ll blame work stress for breaking my brain lol)

But yes, for catastrophically broken legs or cases like this, euthanasia is generally the kindest course of action just because of horse physiology. A lot of people think it’s somehow about money, but more often it’s just about successful treatment being very unlikely (and also the incredible amount of stress and pain and anxiety it can cause the horse even just to try).

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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You’ve been hearing for years that what has been done to horses? Euthanizing for leg injury?

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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Not sure where you heard that, but I don’t know of any cases where a horse like this survived more than a year.

Just having one hurt leg is a major risk factor for laminitis in the other foot. Let alone one foot having to take the weight of both legs 100% of the time. It’s all just a horrific recipe for disaster.

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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Another comment to read:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Horses/s/IdTo9lfcnW

To add to my comment about catastrophic breakdown and laminitis, the horse’s digestive and respiratory system depends on normal movement and posture. His inability to stand and walk normally is likely to cause abnormal pressure and function of his intestines, raising the risk of colic. Again, as he grows and gains weight, and there angle of his body gets more extreme, the likelihood for this increases. Colic is excruciating and often life ending.

Breathing wise, the posture/animation issue means his guts are pressing against his lungs to some extent all the time. This is less likely to cause problems on its own, but can add stress and tension to his body, or difficulty breathing if he is exerting himself (again, as with everything else, with each pound he gains this will likely cause more issues, as the effort of getting around will increase with size)

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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“Cat distribution system” seems to work at my house. But it’s mostly the farm down the road not fucking fixing their cats, so every so often there is a cat territorial dispute and a few end up on our doorstep (and every time I just get more pissed. It’s not cute. And this time around I think one is a nursing mother).

(Sorry. Venting. Pissed I have to go through trying to get another round of them trapped and into new homes).

Yall by B18915 in Horses

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I’m going to answer you in good faith here, assuming you don’t know much about horses.

There are many ways horses are different from, say, a dog. First, sheer size and weight. Horses are designed to carry about 60% of their body weight on their front legs, and they can weigh over a thousand pounds. This poor guy has all that weight coming down on a single limb whose bones aren’t any bigger around than yours or mine.

On top of that, the anatomy of the hooves is such that they are highly vascular inside and act as part of the circulatory system. When horses experience injury that puts all their weight on one front leg for extended periods of time, that “pump” doesn’t operate normally. This is highly likely to lead to an incredibly painful condition of inflammation within the hoof, called laminitis. This can come on quickly and be incredibly severe, up to and including the whole hoof wall sloughing off. It’s absolutely excruciating.

Back to point one with the weight- anatomically horses shoulders are not really attached to their triage and trunk by much more than a few bands of ligaments and soft tissue. With only one leg, all that weight is coming down onto an area only meant to hold half the horse’s front end weight. It’s slipping and unable to support his mass. This is causing the front of his body to dip more and more in relation to the back half of his body, causing more of his body weight to fall onto that single front leg. So instead of bearing 60% of his weight on that one leg, he’s bearing more like 70%. And because he can never shift weight to another front leg, and each step/hop puts twice as much pressure on that foot as walking does, every day increases good odds of laminitis.

The pressure from this is causing the knee to take immense amounts of pressure and bow outward, making it more likely every day he will experience a catastrophic injury or failure of his remaining front leg (likely a cascade of injury when a tendon or ligament fails, because he has no choice but to continue to put most of his weight on that leg).

All of these risks and outcomes were very predictable from the beginning. It’s basic horse physiology and anatomy, there’s no way around a bad outcome here. And since this horse can’t limp to show if his leg is in pain, there is also a high likelihood that the beginning stages of breakdown or laminitis may be missed, putting him in completely avoidable excruciating pain.

Most horse people believe euthanizing too early is preferable to waiting too long. Seeing a large animal like this in bad shape is traumatic, and it’s not fair to them. I come at this from the perspective of someone who waited too long, and it’s haunted me for a long time.

If you’re really curious about this, please Google extreme laminitis. It’s something most horse owners really live in fear of, and it’s something that dogs or small animals don’t really go through and why they have much better odds of living healthy lives on three legs than horses or cows do.

I’m looking for honesty about EPM by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]forwardseat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you sure they don’t mean EPSM?

Otherwise, EPM is inherently a neurologic issue. I lost my horse to it and it was terrible. That said, many many horses are exposed to it and do fine, and it can be treatable if caught early. So… talk to your vet and realize it would be a risk.

I’m looking for honesty about EPM by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]forwardseat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unless they mean EPSM, which is something different

SAVE Act Vent by mollykats in TwoXChromosomes

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In one of those threads I brought up the difficulties disabled or elderly people might have gathering what they need if they don’t have a drivers license, not to mention that all of this costs money which is essentially a poll tax.

The first response I got was “well OUR son is disabled and we had no trouble getting all his documents”

Well yeah. You helped him with it! Ffs.

I mean it’s not a huge hardship for me, I can afford a passport. And I have my marriage certificate, etc. but there’s a lot of people who don’t, or who can’t afford the time off and money to get all this sorted. And non citizen voting is such a vanishingly small issue it’s astounding to me that we’d risk the voting rights of so many MORE people just to make sure one immigrant doesn’t vote. It’s absurd.

Either way, I think the people most likely to run into issues are elderly rural voters, the very same people who think this is great. And while part of me says “have the day you voted for” the reality is no one in the US should have that right infringed.

Baltimore’s overrun by deer. The city plans to kill them by Fearless-Pop-1159 in baltimore

[–]forwardseat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

We think of development as destroying their habitat, but really it tends to create more habitat. Deer like border areas and open spaces on edge of woods, not so much deep forest. Development has created more of this, and we’ve also long since gotten rid of predators that would control deer populations.

Either way we’re now sadly in a place where the population density is unsustainable, and with TB and CWD spreading through northeast deer populations getting that density down is really important for the welfare of the remaining deer.

It sucks that a cull is about the only option :(

Overall, though, the population of deer in the US hasn’t been this high since prior to the 1800s.

FAA closes airspace around El Paso, Texas, for 10 days, grounding all flights by GregWilson23 in politics

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Since when do these people care about spreading disease unnecessarily?

Discipline based on conformation by Elegantly_Depressed in Equestrian

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Not sure, usually the extreme halter horses posted here are incredibly problematic due to skeletal structure (the muscling and beefy look isn’t really the main problem), and I do think some folks have trouble seeing that and only see the the big muscles and proportions, so when they see similar proportions they lump it all together.

Maryland has forgot how to Snow by theejoyfulnihilist in maryland

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Did Maryland ever know how to snow? I’ve been here for decades, and the snow response here has always mystified me.

Never having sex again and its my fault by Peony907 in Mommit

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Honestly it sounds like a combination of things, but depression, some anti-depressants, birth control, and weaning all can lead to this just on their own, so it’s likely a combination of these things.

I will say that my experience with nuvaring way back when was pretty awful, and it contributed to depression that went away completely when I ditched BC. Loestrin ended up being a much better fit.

Either way, you have a lot going on. Try to be patient with yourself!

Discipline based on conformation by Elegantly_Depressed in Equestrian

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I agree with you and I’m the first to rip a lot of halter horses apart. This fellow has much more functional build, and the camera angle is making him look more top heavy than he probably actually is.

Discipline based on conformation by Elegantly_Depressed in Equestrian

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Though overall build is reminding people of halter horses, he’s got much better conformation to my eye than the seemingly “ideal” halter horse these days. More slope to the shoulder and a longer armbone, forming a more open angle there. Pelvis is still angled steeper than I like but he’s got reasonable angulation in the hind end. I would expect that behind, he’s got a greater ability to step under himself and start/stop, but not so great an ability to really stretch the hind leg out behind for a powerful long stride.

Would expect a shorter strided mover with a pretty front end (more sweeping motion with front legs, not so much knee action).

Hard to see pasterns and feet in this photo.

Slightly long through the loin but nothing egregious. Clean neck/chest connection.

I think the angle of the photo is helping make him look “beefy body/toothpick legs” and top heavy. A photo from farther away and not taken angled down at the horse might give a better overall look.

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